plus, as has been reiterated on many threads here (not that you've read them, necessarily), exercising is among the things you can control when it seems like yr life is out of yr control. the key is to make sure that you choose something that's fun and achievable. don't put on a headband and try to bang out 3 miles if you've never been running before. go shoot hoops or take a walk or play ping pong with a bro or something.
― kanellos (gbx), Wednesday, 29 December 2010 01:08 (thirteen years ago) link
When I say I'm a bit insecure it doesn't mean that I'm so insecure that I wouldn't hit on girls or get naked. My looks really aren't an issue actually
Exercising is great and I should get on top of that. But honestly, reading "love thy body" makes me cringe
― yookeroo, Wednesday, 29 December 2010 01:10 (thirteen years ago) link
xp dayo, that's just it. i've been struggling to stay with a fitness program lately because i'm basically working from home (no biking), so i was like ok i guess i'll just get on that bodyweight ish. but it's ~boring~. but then i went climbing today and was like 'oh right duh this is my favoritest whee i'm having fun oh shit how'd i get so tired'. no one will ever stick to exercise when it sucks, nor should they.
ring up O, we shoot hoop
― kanellos (gbx), Wednesday, 29 December 2010 01:11 (thirteen years ago) link
yeah, forget about the body issue part of it, it just makes it less fun. pull up one of those lists of "calories burned per hour" that litter the internet, and find something that sounds like something you'd want to do ~anyway~ and then go do it
― kanellos (gbx), Wednesday, 29 December 2010 01:13 (thirteen years ago) link
haha I used to shoot hoops pretty regularly last year...dunno if it made me feel ~good~, but yeah it's one of the few activities I like doing.
it's hard to find good hooping partners here, also there are no hoop places close to me, also I need to stop making excuses
― dayo, Wednesday, 29 December 2010 01:13 (thirteen years ago) link
hate your body and listen to The Swans' "Mother, My Body Disgusts Me" while not exercisinghas worked for me for the past ten years (just kidding abt the part abt hating my body, mostly)
― Stop Non-Erotic Cabaret (Abbbottt), Wednesday, 29 December 2010 01:14 (thirteen years ago) link
having this Swans song on repeat for the past 10 years has been pretty brutal, tho
anyway yookeroo I prob align pretty close w/ you insofar as yeah, I look for LTRs much moreso than brief flings, to my detriment, and I'm almost pathologically passive
I do feel if you make too much of a 'thing' out of it you're just gonna put more anxiety on yourself and the anxiety is gonna prevent you from finding what you want and vicious circle etc.
― dayo, Wednesday, 29 December 2010 01:15 (thirteen years ago) link
Have just realised its been such a while since I last hooked up w/someone that I've kind of gone past annoyance and into some kind of zen "wtf ever" about the whole thing. Its weird. I'm worried I'll turn into a cat lady.
― Strange Crüt (Trayce), Wednesday, 29 December 2010 01:16 (thirteen years ago) link
well bear in mind that my feeling ~good~ was underwritten at least 60% by being a guy who's turning 30 in a couple weeks, thinking "...still got it" when he pulls a ~sweet move~ in front of an admiring 20yo girl, str8 shaming the pimply teens, winning the vocal adoration of the 8yo peanut gallery and the lustful thoughts of their momz
(bouldering caves midweek during the holidays are a multigenerational affair)
― kanellos (gbx), Wednesday, 29 December 2010 01:17 (thirteen years ago) link
^post of the day
― gr8080, Wednesday, 29 December 2010 01:27 (thirteen years ago) link
plenty of people get laid while still living with their parents
― sarahel, Wednesday, 29 December 2010 03:16 (thirteen years ago) link
some get laid by their parents
~went there~
― dayo, Wednesday, 29 December 2010 03:18 (thirteen years ago) link
I mean, not me personally. it was a joke. you know.
squee!
― gr8080, Wednesday, 29 December 2010 03:19 (thirteen years ago) link
i did it on my parents' bed once
― yelawolfenstein (San Te), Wednesday, 29 December 2010 03:19 (thirteen years ago) link
obv not while they were there, while they was out of town. but my bed was a single, it woulda been impossible!
― yelawolfenstein (San Te), Wednesday, 29 December 2010 03:20 (thirteen years ago) link
wait, what would've been impossible on a single bed?
― sarahel, Wednesday, 29 December 2010 03:21 (thirteen years ago) link
snogging. the bed barely fit me, and my girl wasn't exactly small, so trying to do it on that thing involved a lot of climbing over each other and inadvertently elbows to the face
― yelawolfenstein (San Te), Wednesday, 29 December 2010 03:22 (thirteen years ago) link
i dont know how you do sex but...
― gr8080, Wednesday, 29 December 2010 03:23 (thirteen years ago) link
seriously - one of the universal skills learned at U.S. colleges is how to have sex on a single bed.
― sarahel, Wednesday, 29 December 2010 03:23 (thirteen years ago) link
part of the adventure imo xp
― kanellos (gbx), Wednesday, 29 December 2010 03:23 (thirteen years ago) link
i mean, if people can have sex in toilet stalls ...
― sarahel, Wednesday, 29 December 2010 03:24 (thirteen years ago) link
generally I do sex where I'm not falling onto the floor every 2 minutes, but ya know that's just me.
― yelawolfenstein (San Te), Wednesday, 29 December 2010 03:25 (thirteen years ago) link
yea but in a bed it isn't supposed to be uncomfortable like that.
like I've done it in the back seat of a compact car too where it's cramped and for sure it's fun but you go in knowing things are going to be more strategic, and the setting is part of the thrill. if I'm gonna do it on a bed might as well do it on one where I'm not physically uncomfortable!
― yelawolfenstein (San Te), Wednesday, 29 December 2010 03:26 (thirteen years ago) link
i mean i guess if you have the option, sure
― kanellos (gbx), Wednesday, 29 December 2010 03:27 (thirteen years ago) link
and I did!
if y'all saw my bed, you'd know what I was talking about. it was ridiculously small.
― yelawolfenstein (San Te), Wednesday, 29 December 2010 03:28 (thirteen years ago) link
and if y'all saw my bed, well, I can explain some of the stains....
dude
― kanellos (gbx), Wednesday, 29 December 2010 03:30 (thirteen years ago) link
*looks at name of board*
― yelawolfenstein (San Te), Wednesday, 29 December 2010 03:31 (thirteen years ago) link
carry on
― kanellos (gbx), Wednesday, 29 December 2010 03:31 (thirteen years ago) link
haaaaaaa
― acoleuthic, Wednesday, 29 December 2010 03:33 (thirteen years ago) link
now that LJ is here, maybe he can offer tips on getting laid while living with parents.
― sarahel, Wednesday, 29 December 2010 03:33 (thirteen years ago) link
it's easy, just stay at theirs, next qn
― acoleuthic, Wednesday, 29 December 2010 03:37 (thirteen years ago) link
para uds que se leen español, RIP casita blanca (hotel in barcelona for lovers who may or may not live with their parents)
http://www.elmundo.es/elmundo/2010/12/25/barcelona/1293274459.html
― ergonomically chromium plated fish slice (La Lechera), Wednesday, 29 December 2010 03:38 (thirteen years ago) link
hahaha I've been told heaps about spanish culture by my gf - apparently it's much more the done thing there for men to live with their parents well into their 20s (lol catholicism) so the existence of that hotel doesn't surprise me
― acoleuthic, Wednesday, 29 December 2010 03:40 (thirteen years ago) link
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perfect
― all i gotta do is akh nachivly (darraghmac), Wednesday, 29 December 2010 03:50 (thirteen years ago) link
not so much 'lol catholicism' as 'lol mortgage crisis', if spain and ourselves have that much in common, btw
ps i moved out of home when i was 17, just sayin
― all i gotta do is akh nachivly (darraghmac), Wednesday, 29 December 2010 03:52 (thirteen years ago) link
I'm almost pathologically passive
same here :?
― sarahel, Tuesday, December 28, 2010 7:16 PM Bookmark
how does one achieve this?
― The Reverend, Wednesday, 29 December 2010 10:58 (thirteen years ago) link
esp when the parensts house is in the middle of nowhere
― The Reverend, Wednesday, 29 December 2010 10:59 (thirteen years ago) link
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― sarahel, Wednesday, 29 December 2010 10:59 (thirteen years ago) link
go to the other person's house? i'll update in like 4 months
― BIG SANTA aka the sleighdriver (J0rdan S.), Wednesday, 29 December 2010 11:00 (thirteen years ago) link
i don't really have any viable means of transportation tho :(
― The Reverend, Wednesday, 29 December 2010 11:08 (thirteen years ago) link
5+ miles from anything with no car and no public transit past 630 PM or on weekends means i never get out ever
― The Reverend, Wednesday, 29 December 2010 11:10 (thirteen years ago) link
damn son
― BIG SANTA aka the sleighdriver (J0rdan S.), Wednesday, 29 December 2010 11:12 (thirteen years ago) link
yeah, pretty much going insane here esp now that my sister, who i can't deal with at all and i moved out of state to get away from before, is here too
― The Reverend, Wednesday, 29 December 2010 11:13 (thirteen years ago) link
no one will ever stick to exercise when it sucks, nor should they.
(I am eating leftover Christmas cake for breakfast and washing it down w/cola, so let us not pretend I didn't bring the second half on myself)
hi yookeroo, I have no advice but good luck - I have been where you are now and broke out of it only by chance, so I know it's possible, but I do not know the proactive way out
― bauble metropolis (a passing spacecadet), Wednesday, 29 December 2010 12:03 (thirteen years ago) link
― ergonomically chromium plated fish slice (La Lechera), Wednesday, December 29, 2010 11:38 AM (8 hours ago) Bookmark
they have these in HK too, except it's for married couples too, because some flats, they are so small the family just partitions the living room w/ a curtain or not even, sometimes, and you're not gonna bone when your children are just on the other side, possibly your parents too
― dayo, Wednesday, 29 December 2010 12:05 (thirteen years ago) link
as i observed last night; what you need to do to get laid is start wrestling with your brother at a bar, then accidentally tip the table over in the frakas , smashing the slat shaker on the floor. after this the hottest girl at the bar will leave her friends and join you.
― got electrolytes (The Cursed Return of the Dastardly Thermo Thinwall), Wednesday, 29 December 2010 16:54 (thirteen years ago) link
^gonna try that next time i'm with my brother
― gr8080, Wednesday, 29 December 2010 18:09 (thirteen years ago) link