Sex Droughts

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I really haven't ever told a lot of people about that, btw. ILTMI is really only one of very few "people" who know about it. My family doesn't know, that's for sure.

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tell us more pls

cut or uncut?

Venomous?

thank you very much!

i didn't even know that ~sleeping over~ without sex was a thing people did until recently

it's still something so foreign to me that i'm pretty sure i missed an offer to do so the other night

:/

i must have 'slept over' without sex for jeez i dunno 6 weeks for the lovely ms dmac. no big deal, movies and couches still existed.

You may as well find out from the get go whether or not you can share a bed with somebody. But yeah, it was a surprising early development for sure.

for the first three weeks i even got kicked off the couch, actually

Although, my very first serious girlfriend got locked out of her house after our first date and I snuck her into my dorm to stay the night...where she proceeded to take MY bed and throw up on the floor (where I ended up sleeping all night). I should've taken that as an omen of the next five years to come.

haha

in retrospect i'm thinking that first-date omens can prove extremely telling

btw I can't help but sing 'sex beat' in my head but with SEX DROUGHT instead

SEX DROUGHT SEX DROUGHT

YOU'RE MY SEX DROUGHT

YOU NEVER GIVE IT TO ME SO I HAVE TO DO WITHOUT

Aw yeah, I am winning this thread

lol

Eternal "what counts as sex?" question.

Not anything I'm doing, that's for goddamn sure

I think it means p-in-v. Which is a very hetronormative way to see it, but whatever.

eh - i'd say for the purposes of this thread it would be something with a partner capable of producing orgasm

That's a good way of putting it, imo

OK, then I was having sex since I was 7, because I was certainly a partner capable of giving myself an orgasm. (Actually, my first one wasn't until I was about 10 or so*. I remember hating them at first because all of the wonderful tension I was creating would go away afterwards. But I digress.)

*Is it even possible to have one before puberty? I have no idea.

uh - partner = a person other than yourself?

Sorry, I was trying to make a funny and it mutated.

ha, that sentence could be a metaphor for puberty/first orgasm

I'm at a year now. I have this big problem that I don't really do "hookups" and I don't really do "relationships" either, so I don't really get "laid". It's really sad that I'm 24 and I know for a fact that I am A+ attractive, yet I can count the number of times I've had sex on one hand. That said, sex and relationships are a very low priority for me.

Like, I spend very little time pursuing either.

I've kind of come to thinking that my real problem is that when I get horny, my thoughts go to "I want to masturbate" rather than "I want to have sex".

Obv. this is something I agonize over on occasion, but never do anything about. :/

i spend a lot of time pursuing, problem is, there are a million other boring dickheads pursuing the same girls.

Reverend, are you worrying about not having sex, or are you worrying because you think you should want it more than you do?

A little from each column.

Are you worrying because you think not being interested in having romantic relationships and/or having a low sex drive isn't normal, or is it something you genuinely want to change? How are you with other types of relationships?

I'm at 7 weeks, I guess (kinda hazy on when exactly when the last breakup happened). Probably going to stretch on for a while - I'm going out and have met a number of cuet ladeez, but I just don't really feel like dating anyone yet. This shit was easier the last time I was totally single - at 28, it seems like so many more women are in long-term relationships than when I was 22 or 25, etc..

^ I'm at the age now where most of my options are divorcees.

I'd have to deal with someone else's children, which I wouldn't be too happy with.

(Even worse, I might have to deal with being someone's grandmother. Thinking of that upsets me.)

My last sex drought was ages and ages ago but it was about half licking my own wounds not feeling up to it and half being too tentative when my interest slowly rekindled. Naturally, when I had kind of given up, the drought ended. I feel like it must have been about 4 or 5 months.

3 years atm

6 years - self imposed as I want to sort out my shit first before looking for another relationship.

that's a long time - i think the longest i've gone was a year, maybe a year and a half?

27 years.

Beat that, he said, as I have for the last sixteen years, ha ha masturbation joek it is to laff

how many masturbation in front of a baby jokes do i have to make until people stop counting the years when they were kids in their total?

Don't think six years of no sex would be conducive to either shit sorting or a very healthy worldview, not to mention view of relationships.

Are you worrying because you think not being interested in having romantic relationships and/or having a low sex drive isn't normal, or is it something you genuinely want to change? How are you with other types of relationships?

― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Tuesday, September 21, 2010 1:29 PM Bookmark

I don't think I have a low sex drive per se. I don't feel like I have less desire to orgasm than anyone else, just less desire to involve anyone else in the pursuit. I probably get off about once a day on average, though naturally that can vary a bit. I do however feel as though I'm wasting my sexual prime.

As far as other relationships go, I have great friends and family and I'd like to think I'm very warm to those I love. It's not as if I hold everyone at arm's distance. I will admit though, that I barely talk to anyone unless they are someone I know or are introduced to me. Not one much for striking up conversation with strangers, even attractive strangers, but I'm not sure that makes me anything other than a Northwesterner. I do realize this is somewhat self-limiting as far as romantic opportunities go.

jesus christ people, let me post