I've never met anyone at a bar I'd want to go home with, much less engage in a relationship with. But then again, I live in a pretty shitty town.
― Johnny Fever, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:18 (thirteen years ago) link
It was his idea (he'd been away from his girlfriend for a while and was horny as hell) and we'd had a lot of romantic and sexual chemistry between us for the four or five years we knew each other. Like I said, he was the best friend I've ever had and the only regret I have about what we did was that it ruined our friendship. I haven't seen him for twenty-some years.
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:22 (thirteen years ago) link
i'm ok dealing with a drought unless there's someone i'm really crushing on. that can be correlated of course and then u might do something stupid. otherwise don't sweat it, totally fine to be single. just do things you want to do without the objective of sex and maybe you will meet someone who's doing some of those things too.
― a fucking knitted scarf (another al3x), Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:23 (thirteen years ago) link
Besides, I'm thrilled that I've finally been able to gross out ILTMI.
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:24 (thirteen years ago) link
it finally happened
― beej (crüt), Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:24 (thirteen years ago) link
http://11.media.tumblr.com/Tl31aqg2PqrfjmghF1IdiBvQo1_500.gif
― *makes 'drinky-drinky' motion with hand* (gr8080), Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:25 (thirteen years ago) link
lol
― Johnny Fever, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:26 (thirteen years ago) link
i don't have a problem with family members having consensual sex
― a fucking knitted scarf (another al3x), Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:26 (thirteen years ago) link
just do things you want to do without the objective of sex and maybe you will meet someone who's doing some of those things too.
This is the biggest truth bomb this thread's produced so far.
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:27 (thirteen years ago) link
:)
― homosexual II, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:28 (thirteen years ago) link
DERAIL ALERT: My aunt hasn't had an easy life. She's the mother of five boys with three fathers, broke her back in a car accident, was hooked on pain pills for years, has been to jail for not paying taxes, and is just generally unhealthy.
What I got out of sexual contact that early? I've always been attracted to women in a position of power or with domineering personalities.
― Johnny Fever, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:29 (thirteen years ago) link
eh. the aunt-nephew barrier had already been broken in this thread. any other aunts and nephews are just walking through the open gates at this point.
― The Reverend, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:30 (thirteen years ago) link
xp to christine
Well, that was biography. Not pertinent to the topic at hand, but I wanted to match Christine's follow-up on her nephew. xp
― Johnny Fever, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:32 (thirteen years ago) link
http://i26.tinypic.com/rbf76o.jpg
― homosexual II, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:33 (thirteen years ago) link
just kidddddding btw
― homosexual II, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:34 (thirteen years ago) link
haha
― Johnny Fever, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:35 (thirteen years ago) link
THIS FORUM IS NOW INCESTED
― buzza, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:35 (thirteen years ago) link
hahahahaha that moss gif is the best popcorn one I've seen in a long time
― master of retardment (ENBB), Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:37 (thirteen years ago) link
I should really get around to seeing that show.
― Johnny Fever, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:38 (thirteen years ago) link
You don't have to answer this, but I wonder if there was any sexual abuse in her past--most 15-year-old girls aren't that aggressive sexually unless something like that happens, and the rest of her bio suggests some trauma in her background.
(Before someone asks: I have no sexual abuse in my past. None whatsoever.)
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:39 (thirteen years ago) link
x-post - (Totally not on topic but it's very hit or miss imo. There is, however, one episode (Gay - The Gay Musical) that is one of the best things ever.)
― master of retardment (ENBB), Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:40 (thirteen years ago) link
― Johnny Fever, Wednesday, September 22, 2010 5:18 AM (18 minutes ago) Bookmark
yeah this happened to me once with a girl this summer, then we met again outside the bar and the chemistry fizzled
:/
― p.m.s.b. (pre-mall smoke bomb) (zorn_bond.mp3), Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:41 (thirteen years ago) link
Anyone up for a game of sex draughts?
"King me, baby! King me!"
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:41 (thirteen years ago) link
I've never been to a bar by myself, so I'll take your word for it.
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:43 (thirteen years ago) link
the last time I met a girl who seemed interested in me at a bar, I ran into her again the next week & learned she has a boyfriend who is in jail for cocaine possession
― beej (crüt), Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:47 (thirteen years ago) link
You don't have to answer this, but I wonder if there was any sexual abuse in her past--most 15-year-old girls aren't that aggressive sexually unless something like that happens, and the rest of her bio suggests some trauma in her background.(Before someone asks: I have no sexual abuse in my past. None whatsoever.)― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Wednesday, September 22, 2010 12:39 AM (6 minutes ago)
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Wednesday, September 22, 2010 12:39 AM (6 minutes ago)
tbh I have no idea. She lived in Illinois and I lived in Alabama and she would come down for 2 or 3 weeks every summer for a few years. She's actually my mom's half sister from my grandmother's second husband, and I really never knew anything about the guy. From all accounts, though, he was very nice. Those are family accounts, so who knows. And really, it didn't have to be him if there was abuse. It could've come from anywhere. But again, I don't know one way or the other.
― Johnny Fever, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:49 (thirteen years ago) link
My nephew was my nephew by marriage, the son of my foster brother's second wife. The last thing I heard of him was that he was an artist living in the Midwest.
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 04:54 (thirteen years ago) link
My mom's side of the family is really tight (and really large), and we usually gather at least once a year, so I keep up pretty well with all my aunts and uncles and cousins. And she's almost always there. It's kind of weird to relate with her as an adult, because she's absolutely someone I would never associate with under any other circumstances. If anything, I kind of feel sorry for her now and wonder what was going on with her as a teenager that led to those choices.
― Johnny Fever, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 05:02 (thirteen years ago) link
Christine you probably should have mentioned that not-by-blood thing a while back.
― homosexual II, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 05:05 (thirteen years ago) link
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IgBjPNShc2Q
― ('_') (omar little), Wednesday, 22 September 2010 05:05 (thirteen years ago) link
xp Yeah, you're only related by paper. So really, not gross at all.
― Johnny Fever, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 05:08 (thirteen years ago) link
I mean, that wasn't really your nephew - just a dude. Are you trying to TMI us?
― homosexual II, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 05:11 (thirteen years ago) link
Huh? I'm not trying to get one over on you guys. The major reason why we broke up was his guilt over our incest.
(I'm actually not sure if my parents ever adopted his dad--he's been referred to as both my adoptive and my foster brother.)
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 05:17 (thirteen years ago) link
Either way, adoptive or foster, you're still not swimming in the same gene pool. You may as well have fooled around with an exchange student.
That's the biological part. The sociological part is a little more dicey, true. Still, it's weird that he would be the one to initiate it and then withdraw. Or maybe not. I could see how that might eat someone alive with guilt.
― Johnny Fever, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 05:22 (thirteen years ago) link
Yeah this kind of changes that whole story.
― cathedral-sized jellyfish in your mind (Trayce), Wednesday, 22 September 2010 05:44 (thirteen years ago) link
I've just googled him. He's two years younger than me and seems to have done very well for himself. I really need to get back in touch with him and, among other things, get some closure on what happened.
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 05:59 (thirteen years ago) link
Really? If my aunt wrote me an email or whatever and acknowledged what happened so many years after the fact and wanted to pursue a conversation about it, that would creep me out. AND I still see her semi-regularly. If you contact this guy, he's could blow a gasket.
― Johnny Fever, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 06:05 (thirteen years ago) link
That's why I said "among other things." I'd wait for him to bring it up, of course.
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 06:17 (thirteen years ago) link
On the other hand, I might wait for him to contact me.
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 06:18 (thirteen years ago) link
The reason I say this is because it's possible you remember it a lot more clearly (and with more importance) than he does. You married at 23, didn't have much history relationship-wise before that, and have apparently been committed to one person since then. This guy may have had dozens of relationships and lots of sex and perhaps might not want to dig back that deep.
I realized this a year or so ago when my first serious girlfriend/ex-fiancee/girl I lost my virginity to got back in touch with me after her divorce. She was so apologetic and wanted to mend things and all this kind of behavior that I wasn't really interested in because I'd had many chances to get over her and move one, but she'd only had one (she married the next guy she dated after me and had a kid with him). For her, I was only one ex removed, but for me she was about 10 exes ago.
― Johnny Fever, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 06:25 (thirteen years ago) link
move one=move on
― Johnny Fever, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 06:26 (thirteen years ago) link
He'd remember me as a close friend even without what happened, but I think you're right--best not to dig it up.
and have apparently been committed to one person since then
I have, but my husband and I haven't--we've had a number of group sex experiences, including one fairly long-lasting friends-with-benefitship. But I've talked about this on ILTMI before, probably a little too much.
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 06:38 (thirteen years ago) link
Ahh, I was only lurking until a few months ago, so I probably missed that.
― Johnny Fever, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 06:47 (thirteen years ago) link
this thread is sadly lacking in sex droughts.
― estela, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 06:57 (thirteen years ago) link
not on my part!
― p.m.s.b. (pre-mall smoke bomb) (zorn_bond.mp3), Wednesday, 22 September 2010 06:58 (thirteen years ago) link
2 wisks
http://i54.tinypic.com/2gwhv2u.jpg
― p.m.s.b. (pre-mall smoke bomb) (zorn_bond.mp3), Wednesday, 22 September 2010 06:59 (thirteen years ago) link
I'm going to start saying "2 wisks" far too often for the people around me in the foreseeable future.
― Johnny Fever, Wednesday, 22 September 2010 07:01 (thirteen years ago) link
Srsy my favorite thing I've found online in a while.
― master of retardment (ENBB), Wednesday, 22 September 2010 07:02 (thirteen years ago) link