Sex Droughts

I mean, that wasn't really your nephew - just a dude. Are you trying to TMI us?

Huh? I'm not trying to get one over on you guys. The major reason why we broke up was his guilt over our incest.

(I'm actually not sure if my parents ever adopted his dad--he's been referred to as both my adoptive and my foster brother.)

Either way, adoptive or foster, you're still not swimming in the same gene pool. You may as well have fooled around with an exchange student.

That's the biological part. The sociological part is a little more dicey, true. Still, it's weird that he would be the one to initiate it and then withdraw. Or maybe not. I could see how that might eat someone alive with guilt.

Yeah this kind of changes that whole story.

I've just googled him. He's two years younger than me and seems to have done very well for himself. I really need to get back in touch with him and, among other things, get some closure on what happened.

Really? If my aunt wrote me an email or whatever and acknowledged what happened so many years after the fact and wanted to pursue a conversation about it, that would creep me out. AND I still see her semi-regularly. If you contact this guy, he's could blow a gasket.

That's why I said "among other things." I'd wait for him to bring it up, of course.

On the other hand, I might wait for him to contact me.

The reason I say this is because it's possible you remember it a lot more clearly (and with more importance) than he does. You married at 23, didn't have much history relationship-wise before that, and have apparently been committed to one person since then. This guy may have had dozens of relationships and lots of sex and perhaps might not want to dig back that deep.

I realized this a year or so ago when my first serious girlfriend/ex-fiancee/girl I lost my virginity to got back in touch with me after her divorce. She was so apologetic and wanted to mend things and all this kind of behavior that I wasn't really interested in because I'd had many chances to get over her and move one, but she'd only had one (she married the next guy she dated after me and had a kid with him). For her, I was only one ex removed, but for me she was about 10 exes ago.

move one=move on

He'd remember me as a close friend even without what happened, but I think you're right--best not to dig it up.

and have apparently been committed to one person since then

I have, but my husband and I haven't--we've had a number of group sex experiences, including one fairly long-lasting friends-with-benefitship. But I've talked about this on ILTMI before, probably a little too much.

Ahh, I was only lurking until a few months ago, so I probably missed that.

this thread is sadly lacking in sex droughts.

not on my part!

2 wisks

http://i54.tinypic.com/2gwhv2u.jpg

I'm going to start saying "2 wisks" far too often for the people around me in the foreseeable future.

Srsy my favorite thing I've found online in a while.

Qiana!

^what my keyboard corrected 'wisks' to.

OK MANJE

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KlB77vM2FMg

rev,

as a favour to me could you maybe not 'hit that for all of us', leave me out as my gf prob wouldn't understand.

thanks

^ hit it twice for me, then.

poor rev won't be able to enjoy his first sex in years, he'll be too busy crossing off hitit.xls

Yeah, we should take it easy on him. If he's anything like me, the very first time after an extended break doesn't last too long. He needs to focus!

^ neggin

He does masturbate once a day, which should help.

It helps, but it's still very different.

Right. And he may not end up having sex this time.

lol at this

omg he's typing while doing it

I won't be typing during sex til at least Friday evening.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dX3-954wV8w&feature=related

Having one of those delightful weeks where I literally cannot think about anything else.

:-)

When I was a teenager, I had one or two days a month of obsessive horniness, every month from the time I was 14-15 to a year or so after high school. I never kept track of the days that it happened (just the months), but I do suspect that it was hormonal in origin. It's come back on occasion for 2-3 month stretches.

For me it's less a seasonal thing (though there is that, sometimes) than sheer blind panic at this huge important part of basic human existence being totally absent from my life. I can't sleep, I don't give a shit at work, I'm constantly on edge and at the point of snapping at people or breaking down in tears and it's making basic social interaction even harder, which is not conducive to solving the problem. It's making me wish prozac was as effective at killing my sex drive as almost every other antidepressant/anti-anxiety med has been- wouldn't get me any closer to getting out of this but at least I wouldn't have the urgent miserable need to get off two or three times a day. Yes, okay, TMI, but that's the name of the board.

Are you feeling horny, or are you feeling an urge to masturbate? There's a difference.

xp - aw man, that sucks - it's this vicious cycle, it seems like -

It's weird how much immensely more satisfying a good fuck is to a good wank.

^^^

practice wanking imo

for my part, i'll practice fucking

ha

practice wanking imo

I was really experimental about this as a teenager--different techniques, places, etc. (Try doing it while naked or near naked in the warm sunlight. It's a trip!)

pfft amateur stuff

Telephone Thing: Go ahead and bump the depression thread if you want to. Sex isn't your biggest problem right now.

Try doing mostly clothed in the cold Irish air!

I was really experimental about this as a teenager--different techniques, places, etc. (Try doing it while naked or near naked in the warm sunlight. It's a trip!)

― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, 22 September 2010 19:29 (9 minutes ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

pfft amateur stuff

― i dont love everything, i love football (darraghmac), 22 September 2010 19:35 (2 minutes ago)

btw i had to delete both 'child's play' and 'baby stuff' before finding a suitable dismissive response.

new thread for wanking exploits i think?

i don't love everything, i love wanking

btw i had to delete both 'child's play' and 'baby stuff' before finding a suitable dismissive response.

Well, I did do it a few times in front of a baby...dog.