Sex Droughts

That's just it, I'm switching to voluntary celibacy. It somehow seems more noble and transcendent.

i like this idea of judging sex. the next time i do it i'm bringing a bunch of score cards so i can hold up "9.2" or whatnot at the appropriate times

"I'm not fucking you for the noblest of reasons, not because I don't really fancy you."

Bang your gavel...

whenever I see this title I sing it to the tune of night moves I don't know why

Don't like feeling judged/evaluated/obliged.

The right woman wouldn't judge you or evaluate you harshly. The 'obliged' part worries me, though. What do you mean by this?

If all goes according, drought should end tomorrow.

christine first things first he is gay

xp get some rev

christine first things first he is gay

Oops. Sorry. *puts paper bag over face*

If all goes according, drought should end tomorrow.

:-)

I have a new lady now. I'm still not 100% over my last one, but probably at the 85% mark so this should go ok.

guessing my drought will end soon, though I don't really want to 'seal the deal' this early.

this shit has gotta ~end~

on new year's eve I will service all ilxors who've gone all of 2010 without

this is a v. controversial program in my householdbut I gotta do what I can for the good of the board

we all say we want the next sitewide mod spot, but only ^ this ^ guy really means it imo

*looks through book called Lying For Fun and Profit*

Oh, and congratulations, San Te.

on new year's eve I will service all ilxors who've gone all of 2010 without

I was planning on changing my personality from 'meek wallflower' to 'playa', but with this offer on the table I can hold out for a few months.

http://edge-img.datpiff.com/mab8f1ef/Lil_Wayne_The_Drought_Is_Over_4-front-large.jpg

*high five*

thanks, brah

cryin shame that denzel jr here ever had to wait on it imo but whatevs u go man

rev i am so pleased we had the same jpeg idea and i am v pleased u got to use it

christine first things first he is gay

Oops. Sorry. *puts paper bag over face*

Not really gay, so take the paper bag off.

*puts a second paper bag on over the first*

oh you're back, is yr bloke ok

He's probably a little freaked to see her wearing two paper bags on her head.

He's OK, but we may have a possible panic disorder on our hands.

I'm having a little trouble breathing with these bags on my head, so I'm taking them off.

rev i am so pleased we had the same jpeg idea and i am v pleased u got to use it

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Weezy's shirt kind of sending mixed messages tho :/

I CAME amirite

FROM NOTHING

man it's tough to not wanna rush the sex part since my body is basically screaming for it, but it kinda hurt the last relationship when we did it too soon, so gonna test my willpower here. this is like that horrible Josh Hartnett movie except ain't no way I'm gonna last 40 days :)

err 40 MORE days

The standard advice is to say that waiting will make the first coupling that much better, but in my experience, the first time after a long time is nerve-racking and rushed. But the relationship is much more important than a little release. (However, you two may be ready much earlier than you think.)

http://www.tradebit.com/usr/djmixtapez/pub/9002/The-Drought-Is-Over-2.jpg

Wayne needs to get out of jail ASAP or y'all are gonna run out of jpegs

rip wisks

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ this is some shit

rip bongs

hoos did you get it on w/ juggalette

non

am ashamed

Uh. Haven't even really lurked on ILTMI before but gah, where the hell else am I going to do this.

Been married for 8 years. Mr Veg is 11 years older than me, and right now, we probably haven't had sex for 3 years. I think. Might be less. Not because we hate each other or can't stand the sight of each other...I think....maybe just, because we're not *trying* to anymore? We still kiss and hug and hang out and hold hands and giggle and do stupid stuff...but he stays up way later than I do, I sleep like a log so I don't even wake up when he comes to bed...the times I ask him to come to bed he just doesn't want to.

also, I will say this up front....I have a really hard time asking for sex. The few times I have, the one time he said no rang in my ears forever and I get too embarrassed to say anything. So I'm like the girl at the dance waiting to be asked to dance and everyone thinks I'm just lonely and sad and avoid me bc I'm not syaing that I want to dance, you know?

I sound way more pathetic and sad than I should... and again, feel really weird even saying all of this anywhere...but I just had to let it out.

thats sad. maybe the problem is not that you don't ask him, but that he don't ask you..

Or that we don't ask each other. The longer I leave it the more I know there's probably a really simple reason. I just wish I wasn't such a fraidy cat. I mean, I married the guy, what's the worst thing that could happen, you know? It's stupid.

And he and I are both pretty similar in that we both like our own solitary time...so it's like we've fallen into this routine that's more like we're besties sharing a house than a married couple.

I have a really hard time asking for sex. The few times I have, the one time he said no rang in my ears forever and I get too embarrassed to say anything.

But he assumedly has said yes more than once, right? And he is your husband, and you obviously love each other, so, you shouldn't worry about exclaiming, "Mr. Veg to the boudoir!" But, I know from experience that it can be really uncomfortable being the sexual solicitor when you're not in the habit of doing so - either because you're imagining rejection or you just feel like a dork or whatever. And the long-term relationship thing and the vastly different sleep schedules thing -- been there, oh yes.

It sounds like a stalemate situation with so much time having passed that neither of you wants to ask the other anymore for fear of hearing "no". Do you ever take trips just to get away from your day to day environment? I mean, you don't even have to leave the area. Just go find a nice hotel and stay for the weekend. Don't put sex on the table...just frame it as a weekend to get away and indulge yourselves individually and together.

just my 2 cebts.

if it's something you miss, then it's something you should probably talk about. it needn't be an 'ask for sex' thing, but more 'this is something i enjoy and would like to share with u.' vegemites should be able to discuss things.

sorry. it's a tough situation.

And the long-term relationship thing and the vastly different sleep schedules thing -- been there, oh yes.

me too, and yeah sometimes you have to make a conscious effort not to let it *stop things* without either of you really even noticing

It's the routine that needs to be shaken up, and then, hopefully, other things will fall into place.