Sex Droughts

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peculiar little addendum to my charlie brown story up there is that last night i spent a good hour talking to this girl about christmas music.

woot woot, got my bj on last night.

:-)

at what point is it ok to complain about being in a drought cause i am only 1.5 months in post-breakup and i am already going nuts

I'm in a month-long drought (almost) INSIDE a relationship! (The openness thing, you ask? Rainchecked. The flight to NZ? Within 2 months)

It's all subjective: if you're having sex on a regular basis, a 1.5 month drought may feel like a looong time. If your sex life is infrequent, 6 months may go by surprisingly quickly. I know, because I've been in both positions.

i'll kill you both, if someone else from this thread doesnt get ye first

i'm already going batty again

lol @ you people complaining about going without for a month.

but really

Getting on for 2 years here. In a relationship, and I have tried acting, talking, humour, sending suggestive poetry et al. The object of my desires has a low sex drive in any case and has recently been suffering from chronic pain. He's just had an op to fix the pain, but is looking at a 6 month recuperation. I've gone beyond suffering from frustration and settled into thinking of myself as celibate. It seems like the only way to preserve my sanity, given that a) there's no chance for the next good while and b) he's always said 'no' more than he's said 'yes'.

I miss the intimacy.

I might possibly maybe get busy a few days after xmas when I visit Atlanta. hooray me! (This will be the first time I've had sex with two different people in the same year since...ever.)

you go girl

lj dogg are you going to stop off in Sydney?

am saving up for just the one flight, sadly...although maybe she and I will take a weekend there before we return to England! :)

You want to help end his drought?

(x-post, dammit!)

ha ha

i am going bonkers

Damn my eyesight, I misread that as 'I am going with hookers'

that's what we call prostitutes here. "bonkers." because they bonk you.

Blackout Crew - "put a bonk on it"

"put a prostiture on it"

Shld read 'prostitute', obv.

im back in the saddle.

xposts to surfingatwork and i guess vegegirl - low sex drive or no sex drive, if your partner has at least one working hand and maybe even a tongue (bonus!) there really is no reason you should be doing without. imo and ime part of a committed relationship is both of you doing things ~for~ each other, without necessarily getting any particular payoff yourself (except the satisfaction that you are making your partner happy).

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yWhSfln1O4k

mrs. kkvgz went to her 6 week post-pregnancy checkup today.

in: u need 2 pick up my pills at cvs
out: ok
out: what kinda pills they got you on?
in: bcntrl
out: !

lol @ you people complaining about going without for a month.

was in a relationship for years so it definitely feels like a drought. probably more an issue with sleeping alone as opposed to just sex. but yeah, at what point is it an official shameful drought?

Surfing at Work: Perhaps one of the medications he's on for pain management is lowering his libido?

lol @ you people complaining about going without for a month.

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god louis is so damn funny

^^^fuckwant

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ok lol

'calvin klein reupholstered my pussy'

Posh spice 'ok' magazine headline

Just1n3, Christine, thanks for your thoughts. I agree, there must be ways he could help out viz. my frustrations and I have been pretty angry about it at times, cuz of the distancing effect of going without. He just doesn't want to. Alcohol is lowering his libido imo, but I'm trying not to underestimate the knock-on effects of pain either: lack of sleep, stress, depression (all feeding back into the drinking, in a really charming spiral). OTOH perhaps he just doesn't like sex / me all that much.

He'll be recuperated in a few months. If we're still speaking, perhaps I'll find out.

OTOH perhaps he just doesn't like me all that much

I think this, plus depression, may be the answer.

eeh, i don't know about that? serious illness, serious medication, serious and unfortunate self-medication, they all really play into making a person be not who they really are.

*nods*

did you exactly mean your previous response? because that is pretty wtf

No, I was agreeing with you.

It's not that wtf, tbh. Seems like a real possibility to me.

im back in the saddle.

Somehow we missed this! Congratulations matey.

big ups

wonder if there's a distinction between my desire for sex and my desire for intimacy? does confuse matters a bit.

insomnia can sure bring out the emo tmi in a fella.

tbh i often feel more bad about the lack of the latter than the lack of the former.

well that lasted about a week.

You two are back to no sex again?

I believe that is what he implied, yes, although we can ask him for details in depth.

ILpryingforTMI

thought he might have been braggin bout a mammoth session tbh