o man good times
― avant-garde heterosexuals (mh), Saturday, 15 October 2011 04:25 (twelve years ago) link
WOW.
― Cindy Mancini can ride my lawnmower anytime (thebingo), Wednesday, 19 October 2011 19:22 (twelve years ago) link
"Now I remember what this part of my body was here for!"
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Wednesday, 19 October 2011 20:13 (twelve years ago) link
HAY GUYYYYYYYS I'M I'M GETTING LAAAAAAAAYED
― ⚓ (gr8080), Wednesday, 19 October 2011 20:45 (twelve years ago) link
kind of inevitable itt
― turfin' bird (The Reverend), Thursday, 20 October 2011 09:32 (twelve years ago) link
except for me. any clouds on the horizon have evaporated. i am now more than a year deprived.
― turfin' bird (The Reverend), Thursday, 20 October 2011 09:33 (twelve years ago) link
:(
― homosexual II, Thursday, 20 October 2011 15:57 (twelve years ago) link
Date girl was PSYCHO.My romantic life is in shambles.Thinking celibacy til I complete my MLS.
― Trip Maker, Friday, 21 October 2011 15:34 (twelve years ago) link
^^I don't recommend that tack. Aren't there any cute gals in your program?How was she psycho?
― Virginia Plain, Friday, 21 October 2011 15:50 (twelve years ago) link
She sent me many (many MANY) text messages of exorbitant length communicating ideas that would be better discussed in person, or even in a telephone call, but not in a five part text message.There's more, of course, but it's stuff I don't even want to reveal on TMI.
There are cute girls in my program, but I am older than all of them (not by much, but it makes a big difference). I've had more romantic flare-ups and fizzle-outs in the last two years than in the previous 30. It's taking a toll on me. I'm the "relationship" guy, almost all of mine have lasted between one and three years. I was a latebloomer (lol), too.
I ended a long-distance relationship (1000+ mile difference) with a woman who I felt serious "soul-mate" vibes from in order to start dating locally because I'm tired of being lonely. Now that has kind of backfired and I'm just kicking myself.
― Trip Maker, Friday, 21 October 2011 16:14 (twelve years ago) link
Hang in there...all of these misstarts may be leading you to somewhere you're meant to be, although it doesn't feel like it at the time. Everyone in my MLS program was married...so don't gainsay available younger ladies.
― Virginia Plain, Friday, 21 October 2011 16:35 (twelve years ago) link
Think I need to get out of the small pond I've been occupying for far too long.
― Trip Maker, Friday, 21 October 2011 16:47 (twelve years ago) link
where are you living, TM?
― homosexual II, Friday, 21 October 2011 22:49 (twelve years ago) link
Middle o Missourah, home of the Tigers.
― Trip Maker, Saturday, 22 October 2011 01:29 (twelve years ago) link
SEC! SEC! SEC!
― pplains, Saturday, 22 October 2011 01:50 (twelve years ago) link
secs droughts?
― kinder, Saturday, 22 October 2011 02:00 (twelve years ago) link
I think I'm going to try to not have any sex at all during the month of November.
― Parker Posey as herself dancing to house music in NYC in 1995 (Stevie D(eux)), Sunday, 30 October 2011 03:56 (twelve years ago) link
Maybe restrict yourself to "meaningful" sex.
― Virginia Plain, Sunday, 30 October 2011 04:11 (twelve years ago) link
there is always next year.
― bene_gesserit, Sunday, 30 October 2011 04:18 (twelve years ago) link
Or this. I mean this was already a goal of mine once I stopped hopping from city to city for 3 months.
― Parker Posey as herself dancing to house music in NYC in 1995 (Stevie D(eux)), Sunday, 30 October 2011 04:28 (twelve years ago) link
I've accepted my insecurities and their subsequent defense mechanisms as part of my general character now. This isn't a drought, I just live in a desert.
― encarta it (Gukbe), Sunday, 30 October 2011 04:30 (twelve years ago) link
― Parker Posey as herself dancing to house music in NYC in 1995 (Stevie D(eux)), Saturday, October 29, 2011 8:56 PM Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink
fuck off
― The Reverend, Sunday, 30 October 2011 10:00 (twelve years ago) link
I had to turn down an opportunity last night :/
But it was my fricking ex bf, it was just too bloody weird. :/
― Trayce, Sunday, 30 October 2011 10:39 (twelve years ago) link
Yeah, usually that is less of an opportunity and more of a poisoned chalice.
― ljubljana, Sunday, 30 October 2011 12:54 (twelve years ago) link
i am the chalice
― sonderangerbot, Sunday, 30 October 2011 12:55 (twelve years ago) link
Not exactly a sex drought, but what do you do with someone who rarely comes, yet wants to have sex all the time? Tips/suggestions?
― Virginia Plain, Sunday, 30 October 2011 13:12 (twelve years ago) link
"meaningful" sex.
Even w/ the quotes, lol
― Dr Morbois de Bologne (Dr Morbius), Sunday, 30 October 2011 13:17 (twelve years ago) link
xpost - do they prefer that or would they prefer to get there but can't?
― ljubljana, Sunday, 30 October 2011 13:28 (twelve years ago) link
I'm not sure...whenever I ask he turns it around and asks what he can do for me...
― Virginia Plain, Sunday, 30 October 2011 13:48 (twelve years ago) link
I'd say 'I asked you a fucking question and you're not getting any more until you answer it.'
― D. Boon Pickens (WmC), Sunday, 30 October 2011 13:56 (twelve years ago) link
Yeah, gentle but firm insistence that this be at least briefly discussed is required here, I think. I've experienced the former and it was an impressive feat of stamina but kind of exhausting!
― ljubljana, Sunday, 30 October 2011 14:54 (twelve years ago) link
that is, experienced a partner who actively didn't want to.
Hmm...it's not really a problem for me, but I feel like there should be more (or at least some) equity. Also, it's a bit puzzling: men are usually more simple (in my experience).
― Virginia Plain, Sunday, 30 October 2011 15:38 (twelve years ago) link
men are usually more simple (in my experience).
generally useful guiding principle
i have no advice, i find any inequity w/that v frustrating also, like i think i start subconsciously keeping a scorecard & feel bad
― Local Christian Blues (schlump), Sunday, 30 October 2011 15:58 (twelve years ago) link
Is the guy on anti-depressants?
― despite all my rage I am still just a Latter Day Saint (Abbbottt), Sunday, 30 October 2011 16:03 (twelve years ago) link
I don't know about the guy, but I am.
It's the sort of thing I thought making an issue of might lead to more pressure, but I dunno.
― Virginia Plain, Sunday, 30 October 2011 16:23 (twelve years ago) link
Maybe orgasms just aren't that important for him re: sex?
― Parker Posey as herself dancing to house music in NYC in 1995 (Stevie D(eux)), Sunday, 30 October 2011 16:33 (twelve years ago) link
Yeah if he's happy and initiating it a lot, I don't see what the big deal is?
― despite all my rage I am still just a Latter Day Saint (Abbbottt), Sunday, 30 October 2011 16:36 (twelve years ago) link
I mean you might want to have a conversation to make sure the "he's happy" part is accurate but otherwise why worry imo.
― despite all my rage I am still just a Latter Day Saint (Abbbottt), Sunday, 30 October 2011 16:37 (twelve years ago) link
yeah maybe just find out if it's a prescription-related or physical problem OR if he can only come certain ways (e.g. a guy who is used to coming with a handjob because he hasn't had sex in a really really long time will have trouble coming during sex.
― just1n3, Sunday, 30 October 2011 16:41 (twelve years ago) link
He's initiating all the time, but maybe that's because he's never satisfied... :)
Thanks all for the advice.
― Virginia Plain, Sunday, 30 October 2011 16:52 (twelve years ago) link
Could be relationship nervousness, too. For some people, anxiety kind of keeps things from happening and things work differently once they're more comfortable with the other person in sexual situations.
― mh, Sunday, 30 October 2011 20:48 (twelve years ago) link
It may be something he's always had, and this is how he's gotten around it. And maybe you're the first to notice. I would say don't make an accusatory question out of it, just frame it more like "what can I do in return" thing. There's always a chance that he has more specific needs, maybe a fetish that he takes care of himself. He could be embarrassed about that.
(Totally running with the scenario, may not be that at all)
― Janet Snakehole (VegemiteGrrl), Sunday, 30 October 2011 21:15 (twelve years ago) link
Maybe he's a big Dr. Strangelove fan
― mh, Sunday, 30 October 2011 21:40 (twelve years ago) link
Does he drink only rainwater and pure grain alcohol?
did he ever play bass for the Police?
― pplains, Sunday, 30 October 2011 21:41 (twelve years ago) link
in a big drought at the moment, i suppose i could end it if i tried hard but meaningless sex doesn't appeal to me much....or at least i don't feel i need it.
― When a German communicates, you listen (LocalGarda), Sunday, 30 October 2011 22:57 (twelve years ago) link
wrong thread imo, think you're looking for braggin/first world problems or some hybrid
― interim dn (darraghmac), Sunday, 30 October 2011 22:59 (twelve years ago) link
no definitely feel at home in "Sex Droughts"
― When a German communicates, you listen (LocalGarda), Sunday, 30 October 2011 23:06 (twelve years ago) link
np not gonna threadpolice it
― interim dn (darraghmac), Sunday, 30 October 2011 23:16 (twelve years ago) link