Sex Droughts

Gukbe OTM

Ugh, restored from the wrong iphone backup, last texts were graphic sexts from an ex. I should have had bad idea sex.

graphic as in words or as in graphical displays

words

sexts by definition include multimedia content imo

no images but they definitely got the point across

whose point?

Do you think libidos come back if you exercise them? I seem to have misplaced mine.

Sometimes I wonder if I should worry, but I'm not unhappy and I do trust that my brain and body are okay, whatever "okay" is for me, I don't doubt that. It's just...you know, maybe a little samey all the time.

yes xp

yes

Do libidos go away forever if you don't exercise them, that's what I wonder.

libidos can go dormant, but I don't know that they go away? maybe?

I certainly have a libido, I just don't know what to do with it. Maybe it's different for womens and mens?

I will say this much: I don't stop having the urge to get off, I just have no interest in lingering over the job or involving anyone else.

And even the idea of making out with another person is like "YUUUCK! People put their MOUTHS on each other's MOUTHS?? I've seen that in movies I guess but that shit is nuts."

even if that person were like . . . dangerous?

Ha! I think libido is a learned (habitual) response. Can lie (lay?) dormant, but when awakened, is irrepressible.

Oh Laurel, I've been there. The disconnect between perceived goals and "wtf, other people" is a thing, for sure.

no comment about whether that's my current frame of mind

both of you otm

Feeling it maybe a little. About time, tbh.

+I thought I misplaced my libido, and I was kind of alarmed, but then I got drunk and kissed someone the other day so I am less alarmed. I still feel weirdly devoid of any ability to meaningfully communicate to other people though. Hence my sex drought. I am trying to just keep doing productive things while my self-confidence is still down. It hasn't helped a whole lot yet. I did clean my room, though.

idk where that plus sign came from, but I like it. it makes the thought look more additive.

Really feelin' it lately. I'd love even just a cas hookup at this point tbqfh. Gahhh.

can I post on this thread about being married and thinking "Oh great, I'm gonna be fucking every day and that's gonna totally make up for back when I was younger and shy and never got laid", but then I get a job that's an hour away and I have to wake up early in the morning to get there and so it's a pure miracle if both me and my wife manage to stay up later than the kids. I mean, I could extrapolate this to all things that I could do for myself in my free time - playing music, watching movies, folding laundry - but I'm particularly miffed about the once-a-month sex.

Even last night, we were totally like "let's do this" so I drank a ton of yerba mate around 8 so I wouldn't fall asleep (usually, my wife is the late night person), but for some reason the baby stayed up until midnight and my wife just conked out.

Sometimes when I'm asleep, my wife will shake me awake for sex, or try to molest me or something, but I get so tired these days that if I get woken up, I'm basically so miserable that I cry.

I know most of y'all got it worse than I do in terms of duration and all, but this is really bringing me down because it's not even like I have to overcome my social anxiety to go out and find a partner. I have a sex partner who's totally freaky and likes to bone down. I just have little to no sex.

I got drunk and kissed someone the other day

!! That is how you do it iirc.

No sex since right around xmas last year, which is one of my shortest droughts. I should be fine, tbh, but I think spring is making me horny.

When you all say "libido" do you mean just horniness or interest in sex with others?

I ask b/c I was gonna say that I had misplaced my libido, but that's not exactly right since I still feel, uh, horny, but the thought of trying to pick up somebody at a bar (or on the street, lol Boystown), which is normally NBD is just so distasteful. And I can't seem to find the wherewithal to date.

That's def what I meant, Jesse, think some other folks did, too.

maybe the internet has replaced the part of the brain that would be satisfied by 'dating'

I just have little/no desire to have sex

Tag, someone else is it.

Quickly coming up on a year. My prior record (since escaping my teenage years, anyway) was maaaayyyyybe a couple of months. Any libido I have is overridden by my current repulsion with relationships and my general acknowledgement of the emptiness of casual hookups. To be honest, I'm really trying to just rechannel that energy into other, more productive endeavors for the first time in my adult life.

I am glaring at Laurel while giving congrats

go laurel, it's your birthday

I am glaring at Laurel while giving congrats

When laurel sets her mind to something laurel gets it done!

Cruised a dude on the street last night. He was straight, but he was showing signs of interest. We talked for a second, he knew what was up, nothing happened. Meh.

well done, l!

high five

rah

Ty ty. It doesn't seemed to have changed anything, though--I don't know why I thought it might? Like the electricity would have come back on, metaphorically. Which it hasn't. Probably just needs a bigger sample size.

*furiously considers electricity metaphors*

"sample" size

Yes that was for lols, my gift to all of you.

a scientific study which involves having all of the sex

sex all the things

http://img.ffffound.com/static-data/assets/6/6033c4e63036ce66271728a8eb93309e81277513_m.gif

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=239vHrwt8Rs&ob=av2e