haha indeed. no shareholders but numerous 'stakeholders'.
― That one guy that hit it and quit it, Tuesday, 4 September 2007 12:50 (sixteen years ago) link
i think people ask, i have asked and been asked on occasion and not thought it weird. i have only done so if appropriate to conversation or it has some kind of relevancy though (or they do something interesting and i am interested)
stuff like this thread is making me revise my opinion on that though
― Filey Camp, Tuesday, 4 September 2007 14:04 (sixteen years ago) link
Well, my family is asking because (perhaps) they are afraid I will remain dependent upon them forever. Extended family/neighbors are asking because they have no tact/they are curious/are interested in the "cost of living" index. Extended family/neighbors are not asking for an exact number--but are asking questions in a leading way about what my "quality of life" will be. Also, throw into the mix that I am moving to NYC, which certain people feel to be improbably expensive, not taking into consideration outer-borough living. This is also a problem in the library world--I've had conversations with classmates who want to work as corporate or academic librarians and they state that money is a major motivating factor in their decision (which is fine for them, but I feel in turn they are questioning/rubbishing my decision). Also, at my internship at an academic library everyone stated how much better the money is in academic and how much I would struggle if I moved to NYC. And, it's really not that much better, as far as I can tell. Maybe I am too sensitive. But they are the ones who are always bringing up money!
― Virginia Plain, Tuesday, 4 September 2007 14:22 (sixteen years ago) link
Where do you live now? NYC could be freaking them out more than your actual job.
― Ms Misery, Tuesday, 4 September 2007 14:23 (sixteen years ago) link
i don't think it's too unusual for family to ask, specially if they're funding you. close friends too, why not? otherwise, the english put a big taboo on talking about it, but it's kind of silly coz it's pretty obvious when someone has money and when they don't.
― That one guy that hit it and quit it, Tuesday, 4 September 2007 14:25 (sixteen years ago) link
I live in Northern Virginia, though I've lived in NYC before. Yeah, it's the NYC/librarian combo that seems to be doing people's heads in.
― Virginia Plain, Tuesday, 4 September 2007 14:33 (sixteen years ago) link
sounds scrumptious
― Tracer Hand, Tuesday, 4 September 2007 15:09 (sixteen years ago) link
I researched a response: "If you will forgive me for not answering that question, I will forgive you for asking it."
Gah, all of my coworkers are asking me how the salary is adjusted for "cost of living." Is there anything I can say, besides, it's not, really.
― Virginia Plain, Wednesday, 5 September 2007 18:52 (sixteen years ago) link
Just lie through your teeth and say "really really well" and make them green w/ envy. Are you going to be seeing them after you move away and start your fantastic new job and fantastic new life?
― Jaq, Wednesday, 5 September 2007 18:56 (sixteen years ago) link
Just mention to them that cost of living in Queens is lower than it is in NoVa.
― I DIED, Wednesday, 5 September 2007 19:17 (sixteen years ago) link
^^^ think thats your answer, right there
― Filey Camp, Wednesday, 5 September 2007 19:17 (sixteen years ago) link
hypothetically speaking, what is the minimum salary you would demand to work at a college of dentistry, if you were deathly afraid of dentist?
― bell_labs, Wednesday, 5 September 2007 21:13 (sixteen years ago) link
I keep reading this as Salad Insecurity.
― Jordan, Wednesday, 5 September 2007 21:17 (sixteen years ago) link
maybe if you made more money you could afford GOOD cucumbers
― bell_labs, Wednesday, 5 September 2007 21:19 (sixteen years ago) link
Just iceberg lettuce. . .so sad.
― Ms Misery, Wednesday, 5 September 2007 21:25 (sixteen years ago) link
i have to used my neighbor's grass in my salads but damnit i like my job.
― Will M., Wednesday, 5 September 2007 21:30 (sixteen years ago) link
my ex used to use caramelized pecans and make the dressing from scratch you worthless little man
― bell_labs, Wednesday, 5 September 2007 21:49 (sixteen years ago) link
<i>hypothetically speaking, what is the minimum salary you would demand to work at a college of dentistry, if you were deathly afraid of dentist?</i>
If free work by dental students was included, could end up saving a lot in dental bills.
Thanks everyone. I feel less insecure about my salary now. Hopefully from now on I can focus my insecurities on more meaningful targets.
― Virginia Plain, Thursday, 6 September 2007 00:50 (sixteen years ago) link
i want a post-war cornucopia. a big horn o'plenty with guns and ammo and knives and bombs and shit.
i don't understand this thread, given that you've already lived here under much less stable conditions.
― hstencil, Thursday, 6 September 2007 03:26 (sixteen years ago) link