Do you slag off your exes?

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I'm still friends with virtually everyone I've dated for more than like three days. They're pretty much all amazing people, otherwise I wouldn't've gotten involved with them in the first place...

― Douglas (Douglas), Thursday, 15 May 2003 19:34 (twenty years ago) link

I don't slag off my exes, but I do like to make fun of them because they were pretty ridiculous and the stories are pretty funny... I only do this with the dudes I dated at a younger age because I think it was mostly me going out with whomever would ask, whereas later on I think I chose guys I actually like and I am still friends with him. As you all know I am all for making fun of the dude I dated that had a uniball.

― Mandee, Thursday, 15 May 2003 19:44 (twenty years ago) link

No I don't slag them off, well except one who I passionately disagreed with about everything. He told me he wanted to "let me grow and change", at which point I exploded: "You want to LET me? LET ME? Well that's very fucking generous of you!" And we had a huge row in the middle of a field. (Yet another sticking point - he would keep dragging city-fied me off on walks where I'd get bored and my shoes would break.) But even he was a nice lad, just so so not for me.

― Anna (Anna), Thursday, 15 May 2003 20:04 (twenty years ago) link

* Nonchalantly checks brand of disposable pen *

* Simultaneously scratches single testicle *

― Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Thursday, 15 May 2003 20:08 (twenty years ago) link

of course i slag off my exes. whats the fun in life if you can't slag off people who are idiots?

quote some horrific/hilarious example of their behaviour I always wonder why they went out with them in the first place

well cos when you first hook up with someone they pretend to be a lot more palatable than they really are. then you wake up to the fact that they don't have a personality (despite the fact that nobody does, and we're all a bit foolish to believe in such things as "personality" to begin with). you know, it all comes down to humans being a bit thick. slagging off exes allows one, for a moment, to feel that long periods of devotion to a dipshit haven't been an entire waste: you have the enjoyment of being able to laugh at them and pretend that they aren't doing exactly the same thing to you. to be honest, theres only a select few people that i don't slag off. ever.

― di smith (lucylurex), Thursday, 15 May 2003 23:38 (twenty years ago) link

I try not to do it, usually the truth does enough.

(But hell, sometimes, with certain of them, it's just too easy...)

― luna (luna.c), Friday, 16 May 2003 03:42 (twenty years ago) link

this is a great question although it should be preceded by the word "why", as i was thinking just recently why are there so many people on ilx who regard their exes with horror, or mention them in the sense of " oh, so-and-so...*shiver*!!"

i guess there must be people who have exes they still like as people, and are friends with, but we never hear from them! also, it's weird that despite the fact that most of the people here are of above average intelligence, their choices of mate may not reflect this!

so, is there a correlation? book-learnin = lovers-spurnin!

― jeannot, Friday, 16 May 2003 08:05 (twenty years ago) link

Only the ones who I don't have, but I do have other exes who I still think are wubbly (for HEART BREAKING BASTARDS THAT IS) (no not really). Er :)

― Sarah (starry), Friday, 16 May 2003 09:17 (twenty years ago) link

of course i slag off my exes. whats the fun in life if you can't slag off people who are idiots?

more fool you for going out with them.

this, essentially, is why I avoid slagging off exes.

apart from THAT BITCH who destroyed my life, wrecked my car, sold all my records, and invited ARE Weapons to stay in my flat.

― DV (dirtyvicar), Friday, 16 May 2003 09:19 (twenty years ago) link

Well, some of the things that have happened to me lately have been discussed elsewhere hereabouts, so I can hardly claim I don't do this (though the question did exclude monstrous behaviour) - but I've also said some positive things about my ex-wife lately, and apart from some things she has done since she came down with depression over two years ago, almost everything I'd say about her would be hugely positive.

As for the three serious girlfriends since (I was with each for 2-4 months), I have nothing but good things to say about them, and I value the memories of our relationships.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Friday, 16 May 2003 17:35 (twenty years ago) link

i have one ex that i don't slag off, because we're still friends.

― Ethyl L. K'Hol (Ethyl L. K'Hol), Saturday, 17 May 2003 00:55 (twenty years ago) link

DV, shut up, I never went out with you.

― Ally (mlescaut), Saturday, 17 May 2003 00:59 (twenty years ago) link

I slag off exes all the time. That damn rnaapp.exe kept on crashing in mid-net session, and I think windows.exe just hates me, so it can go to hell.

― Trayce (trayce), Saturday, 17 May 2003 03:33 (twenty years ago) link

But um seriously (lest I sound nerdy for too long)... I guess sometimes it is too easy to slag off certain exes if it helps heal the hurt. I know I've made jokes about some of mine, and others I've certainly had bad words about but they did nasty things to me. Overall I try and stay friends with guys I've dated, I mean I liked them enough to go out with them!

I think I usually end up whining about how it was my fault things went pearshaped, not the guy's. I'm silly like that.

― Trayce (trayce), Saturday, 17 May 2003 03:36 (twenty years ago) link

i have been mean about exes, but now im getting along with both of the most 'relevant' ones i no longer do it.
time helps.

― donna (donna), Saturday, 17 May 2003 07:30 (twenty years ago) link

nine months pass...

I ran into my ex tonight. We're still completely in love, but we remain incompatible. It was a very sweet Dud.

― Spencer Chow (spencermfi), Tuesday, 24 February 2004 10:38 (twenty years ago) link

"Do you shag off your exes?"

― Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Tuesday, 24 February 2004 14:30 (twenty years ago) link

thirteen years pass...

Wonderful people, exes

― jk rowling obituary thread (darraghmac), Tuesday, 8 August 2017 23:37 (six years ago) link

two months pass...

Wait what

― Gary Synaesthesia (darraghmac), Monday, 16 October 2017 22:38 (six years ago) link

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