bros before hos

Sounds like HSA is doing HIS stuff tonite. I wouldn't take it as a bad sign at all - in fact the opposite - maybe he feels secure about you and him and is just... doing his *stuff*.

Say Hi to Marcello for me on Sat. and tell him to reply to a bloody e-mail once in a while (I'm joking-ish). I wish I was going to the FAP tonight, but I'm really feeling rough this week, so will be tucked up in bed by 10.00 just as JtN lets rip with another Billy Idol song.

Maybe this is why I'm so freaked out by the realisation that this week is the first time in two months either of us have really wanted/needed to see other friends.

ACtually, that's not true. He has, I haven't really. I should make more of an effort. Starting with going to the FAP tonight.

OH, BTW, HSA's Histuff was last night. I don't know what he's doing tonight, we were supposed to have dinner with another couple, but then the other Soundartist Guy wanted HSA to go to the ICA with him, and there was no mention of if I was invited to that or not. :-(

overdoing/neglecting any one to detriment of others=DUD

Weird as it is to admit it, I don't think I have any real friends at the moment, not close friends anyway (and haven't had any male friends for several years, which I'm sure is not healthy and so forth, but I can't seem to muster the interest). Other men usually don't interest me enough for me to want to be friends with them. The women I would want to be close friends with usually interest me a little too much to be comfortable just being friends with them.

Also if you haven't got good friendships the chances of having a successful relationship are lessened somewhat I'd imagine.

We exist and are who we are through our friends as much as in any other way.

Also, when I had close friendships, that never seemed to lead into meeting women for relationships; but having a loose network of relatively casual friends has turned out to be more useful for that. (I know friends aren't just means to that end, but you (Ronan) brought up the issue of friends making it easier to get into relationships.)

I think you're thinking of his monologue on Nighthawks, nick!

"Sometimes I kinda feel like taking MYSELF out. Somewhere classy, y'know? And then when I get bored with myself I go into the Mexican whorehouse opposite the Catholic church, to see Rita, just got outta Folsom... BARK BARK BARK CIRCUS FREAKS SCANDINAVIAN MIGDETS SAILORS ON SHORE LEAVE IN SOUTH CHINA MUUUURDER BARK BARK BARK!"

Ladeez and gentlemen, the career of mr Thomas Waits! Thangyooverymush!

(that is, friends before boy toys)

and friends to the end.

You may or may not be bad, but either way it has little to do with your liking your own company. I'm pretty good at being a boyfriend, but I demand at least 2-3 hours a day alone. This is not negotiable. And I prefer to have that time at around 11-2 at night. My sleep patterns get weird sometimes, and sometimes I nap at weird hours and slog through work half asleep, but if I gave up my "me" time every night, time to listen to records and write and sip beer and be idle, I would go mad inside of a week. And the girlfriend is just gonna have to understand that. Fortunately, she does.

I know I covered this in a chat recently, but adult Dr. Seuss is really just David Mamet.

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Also...

who's dope enough to earnestly admit "hos b4 bros" anyway?

Right now I'll take hands over hos, and if those hands happen to belong to my bros, well then that's just icing.

... that's awfully generous of you. Does she mind?

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