Buttering up the future in-laws, eh? I'd go easy on that approach.
― frog latin (Aimless), Monday, 14 July 2014 17:16 (nine years ago) link
ime a good rel with the in-laws is a means to all kinds of security
― Euler, Monday, 14 July 2014 17:19 (nine years ago) link
Good relations with in-laws are U&K, but they can usually be established on a firmer basis if one doesn't resort to insincere flattery.
― frog latin (Aimless), Monday, 14 July 2014 17:22 (nine years ago) link
why you gotta be so rude, Aimless?
― Star Gentle Uterus (DJP), Monday, 14 July 2014 17:25 (nine years ago) link
its good that Aimless knows so much about our specific situations.
― Bus Sex Teen Busted After Queef Beef (jon /via/ chi 2.0), Monday, 14 July 2014 18:01 (nine years ago) link
I seem to have a defective internal filter. Do you know where I can go to have it fixed?
― frog latin (Aimless), Monday, 14 July 2014 18:18 (nine years ago) link
considering i needed her grandmothers diamond for the ring i kind of didnt have an option wrt this
― Everyone is awful except you. Wait, no, you are also awful. (jjjusten), Monday, 14 July 2014 18:36 (nine years ago) link
i suppose i could have broken in
assuming thats not the firmer basis you were shooting for
― Everyone is awful except you. Wait, no, you are also awful. (jjjusten), Monday, 14 July 2014 18:37 (nine years ago) link
"sorry about the bags over the heads and all but i didnt want to seem like i was brown-nosing"
― Everyone is awful except you. Wait, no, you are also awful. (jjjusten), Monday, 14 July 2014 18:39 (nine years ago) link
maybe you should have broken into the house to ask them permission to come back and steal the ring at a later time
― Star Gentle Uterus (DJP), Monday, 14 July 2014 18:41 (nine years ago) link
ask for permission. ask for the diamond. months later reveal the questions were not related but thanks!
― bnw, Monday, 14 July 2014 18:52 (nine years ago) link
triumphantly ride off into the sunset on your new Vespa
― Star Gentle Uterus (DJP), Monday, 14 July 2014 18:54 (nine years ago) link
I asked because I knew it was an unnecessary formality that would go over like gangbusters with my in-laws and my wife thought it was adorable.― Star Gentle Uterus (DJP), Monday, July 14, 2014 8:36 AM (5 hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
Samesies
― it's not a fedora, it's a trill bae (m bison), Monday, 14 July 2014 18:55 (nine years ago) link
ride off into the sunset on your new Vespa
I've got a feeling that the relative poverty of both my family and wife's family has forged a different set of family traditions around marriage.
― frog latin (Aimless), Monday, 14 July 2014 19:39 (nine years ago) link
I proposed in Boston, where my wife is from, and we were staying at her mother's over the weekend. I woke up early the day I was going to propose and wound up having a really nice, long talk with her mom over coffee. It felt weird keeping the ring in my pocket a secret, so I told her, though I definitely didn't phrase it as a request for approval. She'd already sprung a "when are you guys getting married?" a few months earlier at our apartment over scrabble, and i knew her dad thought i was awesome too.
For the most part, she did a good job not giving anything away when my now-wife woke up, though mom-in-law-to-be was apparently unusually concerned that wife-to-be washed her hair before we went out for the day.
I'd ask for permission if it was DJP's scenario, where you're just adding the joy throguh formality. But if I even remotely saw rudeness on the horizon i'd probably pass.
― da croupier, Monday, 14 July 2014 19:39 (nine years ago) link
ride off into the sunset on your new VespaI've got a feeling that the relative poverty of both my family and wife's family has forged a different set of family traditions around marriage.― frog latin (Aimless), Monday, July 14, 2014 7:39 PM (6 minutes ago)
― frog latin (Aimless), Monday, July 14, 2014 7:39 PM (6 minutes ago)
i wait what
― Everyone is awful except you. Wait, no, you are also awful. (jjjusten), Monday, 14 July 2014 19:46 (nine years ago) link
He's just bitter he didn't get a wedding Vespa like the rest of us.
― carl agatha, Monday, 14 July 2014 19:52 (nine years ago) link
Iirc I was like, "Uh, did you ask my dad?" because I knew that it would be an issue.
― Airwrecka Bliptrap Blapmantis (ENBB), Monday, July 14, 2014 9:37 AM Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
please tell me this was your immediate response (ie, before you'd affirmed or denied his request)
― Neanderthal, Monday, 14 July 2014 19:53 (nine years ago) link
carl agatha otm. only got a blender.
― frog latin (Aimless), Monday, 14 July 2014 19:55 (nine years ago) link
...and Aimless rode off into the sunset on his new blender.
― carl agatha, Monday, 14 July 2014 19:57 (nine years ago) link
weird method of 'roid treatment but ymmv
― Neanderthal, Monday, 14 July 2014 20:00 (nine years ago) link
http://victoryatl.com/img/pageheaders/2013/ph_married_life_b_595x250.png
― relentlessly pecking at peace (President Keyes), Monday, 14 July 2014 20:00 (nine years ago) link
RIP gabbneb.
― guwop (crüt), Monday, 14 July 2014 20:02 (nine years ago) link
the nebb and flow of marriage
xpost GODDAMMIT FUCK SHIT PISS
― Neanderthal, Monday, 14 July 2014 20:02 (nine years ago) link
I don't think anything has ever met my preconceived expectations as completely as the GIS result for "wedding Vespa" did.
― carl agatha, Monday, 14 July 2014 20:05 (nine years ago) link
LOL, no. I didn't think about it until I called my parents to tell them. As I was dialing their number it occurred to me that this might be an issue and I was pretty sure that he hadn't (which was totally fine with me for the record). So I called them and, sure enough, after a couple mins my dad mentioned it and then I had to be like, um, he wants to talk to you and I think he wants you to retroactively ask if it's OK. :/ It was so fucking weird but I honestly think it was more of like one of those things that in his day that's how it was done and he thought it was just a nice thing and felt slightly hurt. I don't think he would have ever thought of it as giving away his property or actually thought to say anything other than sure.
― Airwrecka Bliptrap Blapmantis (ENBB), Monday, 14 July 2014 20:05 (nine years ago) link
my SO's father said he would say "no" to any one who asked, just to watch them squirm/mock the absurdity of it all. good fella.
― franklin, Monday, 14 July 2014 20:07 (nine years ago) link
I dreamt the night a few weeks back that I was on a group holiday with louise nurding and she asked me out and we fell in love and were gonna get married and we went to the airport and she said my dads brought my bags and I went to the car to get them and it was ms mac's aul fella glaring at me I woke up in bits
― blap setter (darraghmac), Monday, 14 July 2014 20:33 (nine years ago) link
I would be extremely put off if someone I was going to marry asked my parents for my hand in marriage. Like, I would consider it an indication that it would not be a good match after all.
This times 10000. I am also 10000% sure that if asked, my father would act faux confused and say, "shouldn't you be asking *her*?"
― mom tossed in kimchee (quincie), Monday, 14 July 2014 21:25 (nine years ago) link
also jesus h is creepy hand model creepy!
― mom tossed in kimchee (quincie), Monday, 14 July 2014 21:30 (nine years ago) link
Automatic thread bump. This poll is closing tomorrow.
― System, Saturday, 19 July 2014 00:01 (nine years ago) link
her parents are dead. thanks thread.
― ian, Saturday, 19 July 2014 00:30 (nine years ago) link
Automatic thread bump. This poll's results are now in.
― System, Sunday, 20 July 2014 00:01 (nine years ago) link
it never even occurred to me to ask. and he didn't come to the wedding because we didn't invite his insane wife (we'd seen her act at a sibling's wedding)
― mookieproof, Sunday, 20 July 2014 00:33 (nine years ago) link
did not ask. did not vote.
― chikungunya manatee (Sufjan Grafton), Sunday, 20 July 2014 01:16 (nine years ago) link