Swiping people left and right: the Tinder/hook-up culture discussion

RIP

for a while i was openning with just "nice"

it actually worked pretty well, a typical interaction would be

me: nice
girl: lol
me: ;-)
me: sup

and then it just took off from there. but then a super beautiful girl unmatched me first shot so i stopped

this guy 3v4n dub1n$ky, kind of a douchey but hilarious promoter from montreal has been writing articles for an online website thats kind of the pheonix that rose from the local alt-weekly's ashes, i only read the first one but it was pretty hilarious & on point. there's a whole series now

http://cultmontreal.com/2014/11/tinder-dates/

tinder seems skewed really young tho? i'm 23 and it makes me feel old

There's no good way to tell you this but... you're old

jesus flopson is still only 23, and that's still ancient

yeah i am as much as 2 flopsons w/ a little powdered flopsons on top

age ain't nothin but a #old

just caught up with this thread, lots of good discussion all around.

my personal feeling/experience is that tinder/okc are obviously flawed and cant replicate irl interactions, but they've also helped me counter my flawed approach to meeting women irl.

i dated/hooked up with lots of women i would have never thought twice about talking to irl, either because sizing them up at a bar/party/etc just wouldn't have been likely do anything for me in the way of interest or attraction, or because i was too intimidated or would never be at a bar/party/etc with them in the first place.

its easy to assume that shopping for people based on carefully-groomed profiles is gross and makes you picky beyond reason, but the opposite has proven true for me more than once

gr80, your experiences and perspective are both insightful and inspirational. thanks.

def agree about it making you consider people you otherwise wouldn't have

has anyone tried hinge?

heard it was for swingers

lol

Haaaaaa

loool

Nice

I feel way more comfortable chatting people up on OKC than Tinder. I've taken to using Tinder strictly as a delivery system for lil' ego bossts whenever I get a new match. just a collection of sexy, approving digital heads I never interact with

I'm trying this out and it's not really working because I reflexively swipe left 98% of the time. How do you decide, beyond attractiveness and type, you actually "like someone"? Or is it really just a matter of throwing caution to the wind and liking anyone you're attracted to, then contacting them to find out if they're actually interesting and not some right-wing douchebag or whatever?

lol, i also just realized my age on facebook is 77 (as opposed to 27). Might change that...

right wing douches r cool

https://upload-assets.vice.com/files/2015/05/22/1432319107meattinderizer.gif

'beat your meat to Tinder' joek in 3... 2... 1...

fix yr age and throw caution to the wind

Yah just swipe right unless you're totally repulsed. They can turn you off, for real, in messages later

gr8080 have you/will you dispense yr Tinder opening message tipz itt?

I think that's a fine idea, Steve

no.

So I got this app last week and since then, I have apparently swiped ... Everybody? it says "there's no one new around you" :( Is that normal? I'm in the ~25th largest city in the US..

Closer to 20th biggest actually, just had to dbl check myself. I mean, I know there are a Lott more ppl in ny or Chicago, but.... One week of only moderately obsessive swiping and that's it?

now you just sit back and let the love roll in

try turning off the wifi connection, rebooting the program, and trying again. mine doesn't get along w/ wifi v much

I've been hooking up with dudes through online sites since AOL in '99 and it's done wonders for my charm, charisma, and self-presentation. It works like any other date: you start a conversation, meet at a public place for a drink, if you're feeling it you hook up. At worst it's a hookup and you'll have time to finish that load of laundry

So, when you swipe left is that a permanent swipe left, or do you you cycle through people again as they go back online?

pretty sure it's permanent

I figured as much, but am pretty certain I've seen doubles. Wasn't sure if it's a glitch or not.

if they remove their account and sign up again you may see them again

deleted tinder recently - found myself wasting time swiping but with no real intention of meeting people (nor any good conversation with matches really)

it's compulsive even when you have no expectation of ever meeting anyone on it. it's also just depressing - all these fucking faces - i feel like as it's got more popular there are more aggressively normal people on it also.

yeah, those things happened with okcupid for me in a big way over time.

I was laughing about Tinder over the weekend because a friend and I, both from smallish cities, were visiting Montreal and we were kind of casually flipping through Tinder and we never ran out of possible matches. I mean, we were busy doing things so we weren't looking for any extended period of time, but with the search radius even down to two or three miles it still seemed limitless

It is limitless - it starts to erode your sense of humanity and human individuality after a while... or maybe that's just me. Something about seeing the same pictures 300 times and the same slogans etc - the same places even.

The amount of pics beside the holocaust museum in berlin is truly odd - like just to stop that classic date scenario where it's all going so well until it turns out she supported the holocaust.

apparently all the men in london have pics of themselves beside tigers.

all the women have pics of themselves jumping on a beach.

it's the 2015 version of of men are from mars, women are from venus

I feel like you get a handle on undercurrents in your local culture you might not have been aware of

I saw a picture of a woman holding a shotgun and a dead wild turkey today

college sports apparel is amazingly widespread

for a while i spoke to this woman who was a truck driver - she explained she sometimes slept in her truck with a baseball bat.

i guess it was interesting to think how it could put you in touch with someone so radically different from your hipster friends.

or to imagine the rich material for a play us going on a date would have been

ugh

i've seen a few celebs on it too actually...

surprising number of profile pictures for women feature them in Venice IIRC, that faded relic of past glories.

they clearly don't make celebs like they used to..