gr80, your experiences and perspective are both insightful and inspirational. thanks.
― mh, Friday, 6 February 2015 01:11 (nine years ago) link
def agree about it making you consider people you otherwise wouldn't have
― flopson, Friday, 6 February 2015 01:25 (nine years ago) link
has anyone tried hinge?
― 𝔠𝔞𝔢𝔨 (caek), Friday, 6 February 2015 21:16 (nine years ago) link
heard it was for swingers
― mattresslessness, Saturday, 7 February 2015 00:30 (nine years ago) link
lol
― harperlee jot shilly (wins), Saturday, 7 February 2015 00:34 (nine years ago) link
Haaaaaa
― Orson Wellies (in orbit), Saturday, 7 February 2015 00:40 (nine years ago) link
loool
― 𝔠𝔞𝔢𝔨 (caek), Saturday, 7 February 2015 18:24 (nine years ago) link
Nice
― 龜, Saturday, 7 February 2015 21:08 (nine years ago) link
I feel way more comfortable chatting people up on OKC than Tinder. I've taken to using Tinder strictly as a delivery system for lil' ego bossts whenever I get a new match. just a collection of sexy, approving digital heads I never interact with
― Simon H., Sunday, 8 February 2015 01:21 (nine years ago) link
I'm trying this out and it's not really working because I reflexively swipe left 98% of the time. How do you decide, beyond attractiveness and type, you actually "like someone"? Or is it really just a matter of throwing caution to the wind and liking anyone you're attracted to, then contacting them to find out if they're actually interesting and not some right-wing douchebag or whatever?
― ed.b, Saturday, 23 May 2015 03:38 (eight years ago) link
lol, i also just realized my age on facebook is 77 (as opposed to 27). Might change that...
― ed.b, Saturday, 23 May 2015 03:49 (eight years ago) link
right wing douches r cool
― hunangarage, Saturday, 23 May 2015 03:55 (eight years ago) link
https://upload-assets.vice.com/files/2015/05/22/1432319107meattinderizer.gif
― sktsh, Saturday, 23 May 2015 12:04 (eight years ago) link
'beat your meat to Tinder' joek in 3... 2... 1...
― passive-aggressive rageaholic (snoball), Saturday, 23 May 2015 12:06 (eight years ago) link
fix yr age and throw caution to the wind
― gr8080, Saturday, 23 May 2015 13:11 (eight years ago) link
Yah just swipe right unless you're totally repulsed. They can turn you off, for real, in messages later
― ultimate american sock (mh), Saturday, 23 May 2015 13:19 (eight years ago) link
gr8080 have you/will you dispense yr Tinder opening message tipz itt?
― WE WANT FET WAP (Stevie D(eux)), Wednesday, 27 May 2015 18:25 (eight years ago) link
I think that's a fine idea, Steve
― ultimate american sock (mh), Wednesday, 27 May 2015 19:21 (eight years ago) link
no.
― gr8080, Wednesday, 27 May 2015 20:03 (eight years ago) link
So I got this app last week and since then, I have apparently swiped ... Everybody? it says "there's no one new around you" :( Is that normal? I'm in the ~25th largest city in the US..
― Nobody ever knows anything. (sleepingbag), Thursday, 28 May 2015 01:04 (eight years ago) link
Closer to 20th biggest actually, just had to dbl check myself. I mean, I know there are a Lott more ppl in ny or Chicago, but.... One week of only moderately obsessive swiping and that's it?
― Nobody ever knows anything. (sleepingbag), Thursday, 28 May 2015 01:07 (eight years ago) link
now you just sit back and let the love roll in
― Guayaquil (eephus!), Thursday, 28 May 2015 01:14 (eight years ago) link
try turning off the wifi connection, rebooting the program, and trying again. mine doesn't get along w/ wifi v much
― Who M the best? (Will M.), Thursday, 28 May 2015 14:29 (eight years ago) link
I've been hooking up with dudes through online sites since AOL in '99 and it's done wonders for my charm, charisma, and self-presentation. It works like any other date: you start a conversation, meet at a public place for a drink, if you're feeling it you hook up. At worst it's a hookup and you'll have time to finish that load of laundry
― The burrito of ennui (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Thursday, 28 May 2015 14:38 (eight years ago) link
So, when you swipe left is that a permanent swipe left, or do you you cycle through people again as they go back online?
― ed.b, Thursday, 4 June 2015 06:28 (eight years ago) link
pretty sure it's permanent
― anthony braxton diamond geezer (anagram), Thursday, 4 June 2015 07:47 (eight years ago) link
I figured as much, but am pretty certain I've seen doubles. Wasn't sure if it's a glitch or not.
― ed.b, Thursday, 4 June 2015 12:00 (eight years ago) link
if they remove their account and sign up again you may see them again
― ultimate american sock (mh), Thursday, 4 June 2015 13:27 (eight years ago) link
deleted tinder recently - found myself wasting time swiping but with no real intention of meeting people (nor any good conversation with matches really)
it's compulsive even when you have no expectation of ever meeting anyone on it. it's also just depressing - all these fucking faces - i feel like as it's got more popular there are more aggressively normal people on it also.
― bureau belfast model (LocalGarda), Thursday, 4 June 2015 13:37 (eight years ago) link
yeah, those things happened with okcupid for me in a big way over time.
― Doctor Casino, Thursday, 4 June 2015 13:56 (eight years ago) link
I was laughing about Tinder over the weekend because a friend and I, both from smallish cities, were visiting Montreal and we were kind of casually flipping through Tinder and we never ran out of possible matches. I mean, we were busy doing things so we weren't looking for any extended period of time, but with the search radius even down to two or three miles it still seemed limitless
― ultimate american sock (mh), Thursday, 4 June 2015 14:05 (eight years ago) link
It is limitless - it starts to erode your sense of humanity and human individuality after a while... or maybe that's just me. Something about seeing the same pictures 300 times and the same slogans etc - the same places even.
The amount of pics beside the holocaust museum in berlin is truly odd - like just to stop that classic date scenario where it's all going so well until it turns out she supported the holocaust.
― bureau belfast model (LocalGarda), Thursday, 4 June 2015 14:12 (eight years ago) link
apparently all the men in london have pics of themselves beside tigers.
all the women have pics of themselves jumping on a beach.
it's the 2015 version of of men are from mars, women are from venus
― bureau belfast model (LocalGarda), Thursday, 4 June 2015 14:13 (eight years ago) link
I feel like you get a handle on undercurrents in your local culture you might not have been aware of
I saw a picture of a woman holding a shotgun and a dead wild turkey today
― ultimate american sock (mh), Thursday, 4 June 2015 14:14 (eight years ago) link
college sports apparel is amazingly widespread
for a while i spoke to this woman who was a truck driver - she explained she sometimes slept in her truck with a baseball bat.
i guess it was interesting to think how it could put you in touch with someone so radically different from your hipster friends.
― bureau belfast model (LocalGarda), Thursday, 4 June 2015 14:17 (eight years ago) link
or to imagine the rich material for a play us going on a date would have been
― bureau belfast model (LocalGarda), Thursday, 4 June 2015 14:18 (eight years ago) link
ugh
― ultimate american sock (mh), Thursday, 4 June 2015 14:20 (eight years ago) link
i've seen a few celebs on it too actually...
― bureau belfast model (LocalGarda), Thursday, 4 June 2015 14:21 (eight years ago) link
surprising number of profile pictures for women feature them in Venice IIRC, that faded relic of past glories.
― Keith Moom (Neil S), Thursday, 4 June 2015 14:34 (eight years ago) link
they clearly don't make celebs like they used to..
― xyzzzz__, Thursday, 4 June 2015 14:38 (eight years ago) link
So I got this app last week and since then, I have apparently swiped ... Everybody? it says "there's no one new around you" :( Is that normal? I'm in the ~25th largest city in the US..― Nobody ever knows anything. (sleepingbag), Wednesday, May 27, 2015 7:04 PM (1 week ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
Closer to 20th biggest actually, just had to dbl check myself. I mean, I know there are a Lott more ppl in ny or Chicago, but.... One week of only moderately obsessive swiping and that's it?― Nobody ever knows anything. (sleepingbag), Wednesday, May 27, 2015 7:07 PM (1 week ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
I have, uh, gotten a lot better at using this app since last week 😜
― Nobody ever knows anything. (sleepingbag), Thursday, 4 June 2015 15:34 (eight years ago) link
did you have the radius set to like two blocks?
― ultimate american sock (mh), Thursday, 4 June 2015 15:37 (eight years ago) link
Swiping left is mostly permanent - a very smart trick is that the premium version gives you a 'cancel last swipe' button.
But yeah you can create a second one - I had a description-less one for brief ego boost then deleted it and signed up again saying "Hey just out of serious long term relationship, not looking for anything permanent" - obviously got a different set of matches than the first.
I got hit by the compulsiveness too, swiped everyone within 2 miles - there are probably more women with the top range (25 miles?) than in Ireland, but that's London for you.
― Andrew Farrell, Thursday, 4 June 2015 16:04 (eight years ago) link
Also yeah it's incredibly performative, all of a dating profile shrunk into 500 characters so there a lot of heavily laden words about being Fun! and Genuine! and er Tall! pinging past.
Also a lot of travelling, leading up to this encomium on the Travelling Girl (warning: Elite Daily).
― Andrew Farrell, Thursday, 4 June 2015 16:09 (eight years ago) link
Not just all words to be fair - lots of photos of Machu Picchu and Everest Base Camp. They don't let just anyone in there!
― Andrew Farrell, Thursday, 4 June 2015 16:17 (eight years ago) link
~1/10 of the women on tinder here (zurich) have the quote 'travel is the only thing you buy that makes you richer'
i went on a few dates from it but i'm also thinking of deleting it now. it's such a great rush when you swipe right and get a match with someone cute. seemed to happen a lot when i first installed it or when i'm back in london for the weekend. it's awful when you start to worry that you've swiped through the whole city.
― tpp, Thursday, 4 June 2015 16:24 (eight years ago) link
sorry but 'travel' is not a hobby imo
― tpp, Thursday, 4 June 2015 16:25 (eight years ago) link
biggest tinder celeb spot: violinist for the trans-siberian orchestra
― goole, Thursday, 4 June 2015 16:27 (eight years ago) link
"hobbies" are for savages
― ultimate american sock (mh), Thursday, 4 June 2015 16:41 (eight years ago) link