This is the thread where we judge other people's parenting

Kinda hard to react to a situation while holding a kid, I would think

Yeah I meant they're usu not holding the kid, the kid is holding on by him or herself (!!!!!! I KNOW!!!) while the adult has hands on the handlebars. It just doesn't surprise me anymore, I guess.

this kid wasn't old enough to hold himself up/hang onto handlebars (a practice I would be more forgiving of if the child is above-toddler age, ie, probably able to jump off to safety in the event of an accident)

This feels like a 'hey I could walk outside tomorrow and get hit by a bus. Crazy, horrible things happen all the time' attitude which is def one of IA hot buttons.
Firstly, you're not getting hit by a bus tomorrow because you won't be idly standing in a bus lane because you know it will increase your chances of getting hit by a billion percent. Can you not give your kid the same courtesy? Yes, horrible, crazy things happen everyday, a good chunk of which could probably be avoided by a simple choice like getting your ass on the sidewalk or not dodging through traffic on a bike with an infant on the back.
Secondly, I understand this 'any of us could die at any second' is probably a mental safety mechanism to keep one from losing their mind thinking of what could happen but it always seems to be paired with the certain(ly false) belief that 'nothing truly bad will ever happen to me'.
I don't know. It's just all so complementary and contradictory and flippant as fuck

Thirdly, install your kids car seat correctly, buckle both of you in correctly, wear a helmet if you're on a bike. These things will in no way comprise your constitutional liberties.

wife and I feel like we are watching a slow motion trainwreck with this friend of hers that is 6 months pregnant and exhibits zero signs that she is emotionally/psychologically capable of raising a child. She is prone to long blog rants about how she "doesn't even like babies!" and hates being pregnant and feels crazy all the time (she was p crazy before tbh) and it's like ... uh honey you have no idea what you are in for

is she doing it alone?

No, thankfully. She does have a partner, they've been together a lil over a year i think. He's a spock LARPer

She sounds like she could use counseling? Not that that excuses her for being a brat about becoming a parent but "feels crazy all the time" sounds like more than brattiness.

The final line of Οὖτις's response quickly undercuts the mild relief brought by the first.

haha

Oh she's in therapy allright

I would link to her blog but then I'm afraid she might find this

let me see if I can do this googleproofing thing

Change thread title to "This is the thread where we prejudge other people's parenting"

heh

Doesn't even like babies / hates being pregnant / feels crazy all the time pretty accurately describes our birth mom's pregnancy experience and is why she went with adoption.

A friend of mine boasted after their baby announcement, "It's cool - I'm up at five anyway getting ready for my daily bike ride."

And I was just all quiet and heh.

Oh cute, he has a daily recreation routine he likes to follow?

lol

tbf his routine does not appear to have changed at all (if 5am bike trail facebook photos are to be believed) but this guy is totes high on life

I wonder if the mom's routine has changed...

hmph.

My kids have both decided that they like to stay up late this summer. REAL FRICKIN' LATE. I mean, what are you gonna do, tell an 11-year-old he has to go to sleep at 9 o'clock in the summer? He's up until the wee hours watching Netflix. The 4-year-old isn't much better. She'll just sit there giggling and yodeling in her bed until like 9:30 or 10. I have to wake up between 4 and 5 every day for work, so trying to stay up later than these guys is like crawling through the desert on my hands and knees in search of water. It has put a serious cramp in downtime with Mrs. Life.

I give your post a D- for lack of judgmental content

Oh shit, I thought this was the regular parenting thread. My bad!

i read some of that blog :/

she may shame me into laying off my allcaps ranting bcz hoo boy

maybe i'm alone here but i think it's not cool to link to that on here

you're not alone

I'm going to nuke it.

You are SO desperate to get back out on the piss that you will, despite protestations about wanting to breastfeed, suddenly switch to formula at 9 months and force a giant bottle down your baby's gullet at 6pm, and then have the temerity to have a go at other mums in the group for judging you because you don't breastfeed anymore despite none of them having said anything about it because, y'know, every baby's different? Also, despite living 9 miles away from most mums in the group you always insist on gather-ups being as close to your house as possible, despite one of the other mums, who has twins, living 9 miles away in the OTHER direction, so having to travel 15-18 miles, WITH TWINS, and never moaning about it? And you're A TEACHER?

/ vent

That's kind of mainly on behalf of E.

hanging with cousins + their kids for the holidays and the amount of casual junk food consumption is thru. the. mafackin. roof. pointless to fight it much - when in rome - but dang dog. dang. coupled with hot dogs/pizza/burgers for every meal i've taken to sneaking off and handing my kids fruit on the D.L just so their guts still work.

parents who removed their kid from tiny pre-pre-school co-op thing we just joined because the coordinator insisted on the right to serve kids both fruit AND vegetables and you don't let your kids eat fruit I say wtf

San Francisco in a nutshell

don't even start with nutshells

lol

I like how me and Tracer's posts are like polar opposites of the same problem

Overweight slouching unkempt hillbilly at the playground who whined like a spoiled child when his sweet 3 year old asked him to push her on the swing interrupting his cell phone call.

"Push me, daddy?"
"Graciiiiiiiiiie! Gawwwwwwwwd! Uuuuuunnnnnnnhhhhhhh!"

Man, how did you even get somebody pregnant?

embarrassed to admit how often that question pops into my mind

It was like the scene from wet hot american summer where Paul Rudd refuses to pick up his dishes, but with a Mudvayne fan instead of Paul Rudd.

lol

Overweight slouching unkempt hillbilly

Come on, now.

not to be mistaken for the overweight slouching well-dressed hillbilly

Xp: good point. Not relevant. I'm hella overweight too. I'm just mad at this bozo.

Mum I ranted about the other week has no announced she won't be going to anymore NCT meet-ups and has left the WhatsApp group they had.

Sounds like she has stuff going on. tbf I am quite desperate to drink a lot of gin atm. switching to formula seems like more effort though.
J seems to be cutting 4 teeth in quick succession :/

i've heard qualifications and arguments against this but it is just so fucked up to keep hearing stories about parents leaving their kids in hot cars, like do you fucking get it?

I just read a stat somewhere that like half of the deaths from that every year are actually the result of parents FORGETTING the child is in the car (and often due to forgetting to drop the kid off at daycare on the way to work). Which is unfathomable to me, and seems like it has to be either the result of total exhaustion (working 100 hour weeks or something) or being high/drunk.

it was unfathomable to me as well until the day that we were driving somewhere with the boys in the car, I don't remember where, and I dropped my wife off at a fast food restaurant to get us some food and then parked and went inside to help her carry stuff out and she looked at me like I was insane and said "WHERE ARE OUR CHILDREN" and I went "oh yeah, we have kids now" because since they were asleep and facing backwards in the back seat, I had completely forgotten they were there

Total exhaustion fairly common ime
Although the idea of having a nice quiet baby in the car is lol to me