Swiping people left and right: the Tinder/hook-up culture discussion

i defiantly have started seeing ppl i've swiped left on pop up again

just started noticing it in the last month or two

definitely not "defiantly"

Right, but since deleting your profile is two taps and importing again from Facebook is like four taps, that's not that surprising, right?

Slavoj Žižek to thread: http://bigthink.com/videos/online-dating-and-synthetic-sex

Is the Facebook requirement keeping people away from this?

In other words, does it make public on Facebook the fact that you've installed it and are seeking out matches?

Prolly not

no, and no

it isn't a "Facebook app" or w/e, it just uses the info to log in and grab age/selected photos

Also connections / shared interests, which are among the data it shows you about profiles. So if'd be a bad idea for someone to ask a friend "hey saw your friend on Tinder, are they cool?" then I'd go with manually creating a profile / pictures.

true!

imo that's a strength, not a weakness, but if you find online dating shameful I guess you can go undercover

girl i am currently seeing made a fbook account just to get on tinder and then subsequently deleted it

Right, but that's so cumbersome

Are they funded by Facebook?

a little curious why one of the most popular and profitable apps can't muster an ipad version.

just install the phone version

a few days ago i was in bed about to go to sleep but just before decided to message a girl i matched with a few months ago. i think she was actually the first person i matched with after a pretty horrendous breakup so i was a bit reluctant to msg at the time. anyway....ended up getting up out of bed and going out to meet her. had the most amazing night of wandering around the city and talking. we ended up drinking in a square until about 3am like teenagers. i've seen her every day since and it's turned into a bit of a whirlwind romance. tinder is cool?

that is a v great story

thinking of c&p-ing that into my abt me as what i aspire to

that rules! aww.

Tinder can be very cool! The first response after I recreated my profile got a date arranged after three hours - kissing at the end of the first date, going to the movies and completely ignoring the movies for the second (Could <I>not</I> recommend Will Smith / Margot Robbie vehicle Focus highly enough for this purpose - bright and engaging out of the corner of your eye and you can miss more or less all of it with no ill effects). She's finishing her PhD in September and moving away, I'm out of a serious long term relationship and not looking for another, so Tinder found us each other for fooling around and watching Father Ted.

Vanity Fair weighs in

This article kind of disturbed me.

seen that roundly criticized already on twitter, but i haven't read it yet.

couldn't read past that ridiculous "expert" quote tbh

yes this article is one of those insufferable NYC-center-of-the-universe table talk pieces

Nick, with his lumbersexual beard and hipster clothes, as if plucked from the wardrobe closet of Girls, is, physically speaking, a modern male ideal. That he fulfills none of the requirements identified by evolutionary psychologists as what women supposedly look for in mates—he’s neither rich nor tall; he also lives with his mom—doesn’t seem to have any effect on his ability to get rampantly laid. In his iPhone, he has a list of more than 40 girls he has “had relations with, rated by [one to five] stars…. It empowers them,” he jokes. “It’s a mix of how good they are in bed and how attractive they are.”

Am trying to have a hard time figuring out how women feel safe on Tinder at all.

most men aren't Nick

It's no less safe than blind dates or meeting someone in a bar - your first experience alone with the person should be a public place.

thoughts: a) the whole piece is kind of sad
b) i need to go to the gym so I can attract these loose women with shirtless pics

it empowers them, he jokes

“It’s rare for a woman of our generation to meet a man who treats her like a priority instead of an option,” wrote Erica Gordon on the Gen Y Web site Elite Daily, in 2014.

"gen y web site" a rather bulging rug, here

once, a boy would pick a girl in the street

I am approx 4 paragraphs into this article and these guys they're talking about sound like the biggest assholes. I want to castrate all of them.

this article is completely made-up right? someone watched wolf of wall street the night before and based their techno-fear article on it.

More American Psycho than anything else

pretty sure that's not how most ppl use "fuckboy"

^ yeah, that was kinda lol. made me second guess my going definition, but urban dictionary backed me up.

ive definitely heard this definition of fuckboy taking hold

lol @ Bananaman B

I just thought it was a synonym for "rentboy".

my favorite was the explanation of "get it in". imagining vf readers reaching this cryptic phrase in the midpoint of a very long article about casual sex and being baffled.

Read it more often (agreeing with the article) as fuckboi, but you know how it is with kids these days.

lol did anyone find the "researcher perspectives" quoted to be totally absurd? eg human sexuality professors quoted saying "this is a whole new phase in the evolution of human sexuality"

Twenty years ago I was in college and there were dudes whose life was organized around maximizing number of vaginas entered and there were dudes who were mostly looking for girlfriends and not particularly hustling for sex outside this context. (And I mean obviously some continuum between these.) The article paints a picture of a dating environment really well-adapted for the first class of dudes but the second class doesn't really appear in this article. Is the point that they don't exist anymore, as some of the women in the article claim? Or are they still around, and just kind of doing what they've always done, and not using Tinder, or using Tinder to find girlfriends instead of maximizing sex-count, or...?

people sure to love to read about rich young people who seem to fuck more than average

feel like there could be a whole lot of media put together about this!!

read half of goole's previous comment and immediately thought of Migos

soooo...investment banking douches competing for notches in their belts...is a new thing brought on by technology?

Some guys, they say, in order to hide their multiple sex partners from each other, will assign them fake names in their phones, such as “Crazy Mike.”

REPORTING

lmao every time i type "tinder" i mistakenly type "tindr" at first, why is it not called "tindr" what is up with that extra vowel? totally unnecesssary