Swiping people left and right: the Tinder/hook-up culture discussion

tell her to meet you at the park then arrive and announce THE TREESHIP HAS LANDED!

http://i.imgur.com/4EzPF0r.jpg

I'd like to add that I hope i'm not making you feel uncomfortable or badly in any way by posting these fliers

http://i.imgur.com/TRSein4.jpg

XD

the girl in that shot is some vermeer-level shit

I think this Polish pilot I'm talking to might be a bot. 50/50. Her backstory is very specific but she communicates in a botlike way.

Love the bots btw.

polish pilot sounds bottish already, but I guess there are actual pilots in poland so who knows

trying so hard not to make the jokes here

I think tinder bots are fascinating especially when they are plausible and uncanny. They also steal people's photos and names so there are bot versions of some of real people floating around.

ime it's really easy to spot the bots

I'm one of them!

https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/your-romantic-first-dates-restaurants-hate-them/2016/06/07/bf45adfc-1df5-11e6-8c7b-6931e66333e7_story.html?postshare=5121465329289247&tid=ss_fb

first date at a restaurant are a no go

drinks/coffee/tea or gtfo

my most frequent spot is a "gastropub," which crosses lines as surely as some of the dudes I meet

lol

this metered drinking thing sounds like the me of today, as opposed to the "hell yeah let's have some drinks and see where this goes" me of yesteryear

I usually had the presence of mind to make out around the corner from the establishment though, not inside

Still do that. Uber helps.

If I wasn't so damned straight I'd be swooning

Anyone can go crooked.

i met one girl from tinder. but it does seem like if theyre not bots (i had one bot from a charity!), then theyre so busy/distracted you cant really have a decent conversation with anyone. plus, tinder never seems to work that well on adroid, or my phone at least, so i gave up.

as it's vice, this is v poorly sourced, but i wonder if it's a real phenomenon

http://www.vice.com/read/restaurants-are-changing-their-seating-thanks-to-all-your-awkward-tinder-dates-vgtrn

it's a parasite article hanging off an actual article in the wapo (not that that is v much more legit tbh)

when i was using dating apps, tinder was by far the best for me

no idea how it all is now and i would dread using them now

would probably seek more conventional avenues first

got old and boring

ha

http://www.latimes.com/style/laaffairs/la-hm-laaffairs-david-welby-20160614-snap-story.html

i can't tell whether or not that's satire. it has to be, right?

I'm no sexologist, but I'm not sure Tinder is that's guy's problem.

idk but i laughed

barf

https://67.media.tumblr.com/9d05e00f946031164e222c39083cbc18/tumblr_ob0udwTtaM1qgh75xo1_540.png

skull_emoji.jpg x 10000

lol @ image choice

http://www.latimes.com/style/laaffairs/la-hm-laaffairs-david-welby-20160614-snap-story.html

a toy designer!?

In addition there was something I had never seen before, a message in my inbox, the first time a female had broken the ice.

this happens very rarely indeed, and when it does happen, it's not a good sign, like one time, within 5 minutes i get a message 'why I haven't messaged her yet, are your fingers broken!?'. O_o

i cant stop thinking/laughing about that image, it's so perfect

Not sure if I'm missing something, but his nightmare date is that he met up with somebody who wasn't interested in him? Why would any newspaper publish that?

To protect the name of this particular female (although she doesn’t deserve it)

remarkable how these few, seemingly innocuous words reveal so much about this guy

there's a national cheese convention in town and cheesemongers from around the country (world?) are all over Tinder

😁

This has pretty much completely displaced walking up and talking to strangers at bars and coffee shops hasn't it? I spend a ton of time at those establishments and rarely if ever do I see that happen anymore.

who ever did that anyway? douchebags and the dim?

People with a dog-eared copy of The Game.

oh come on

(not an exhaustive list)

drunks

Honestly I feel like there is this totally invented golden era of meeting strangers in public places and then having relationships with them. And phones are supposed to have killed it. But in my experience this never existed, or if it did, it wasn't golden it was mainly creepy and/or excruciating. I don't mind telling you I had a lot of girlfriends in the 90s but not a single one did I 'approach' in a coffee shop, or a subway, or a bar, or a club. Good lord! I knew them from friends, or from work, or some other setting that put each us in each other's ambit. There was a filter already, based on social circumstances, education, job, a pre-swiping that had occurred which facilitated things.

meeting strangers in public places and then having relationships with them

the pokemans are bringing it back, baby

It's really true

xxp - that lack of new friend intros would make dating almost impossible for me now if not for OKC/Tinder/etc.. Most of my friends are married/having kids (or already have teenagers in a few cases), they know other married people, there are far fewer random parties where people bring people.

Nothing good comes from dating. I had tinder for a while bc I thought I was miserable being single but after a few dates that kind of fizzled through neither party's fault I realized that nothing is worth the awkwardness of a "first date."

in my experience the perfect setup goes like this:

- your friend invites you for dinner
- at that dinner is another friend of theirs, who is v cuet
- you like each other a lot and hit it off
- you then invite them over to dinner
- your friend, and in fact everyone else aside from cuet friend mysteriously disappear

I wish I was one of those bizarre people who were married right after college. In this scenario I work as an analyst at a hedge fund.