Swiping people left and right: the Tinder/hook-up culture discussion

because of your d/n on first glance i thought you said "tinder is about flicking the bean," like damn dude

I didn't use dating sites as such in college, or if so only at the very tail end - got onto OKCupid sometime in 2004 which is the year I graduated. Doesn't seem super weird to me, but I also was pretty seasoned in Internet flirtation by that point, and was used to the (basically pointless) scrolling through Makeoutclub and Lipstickparty profiles of the attractive and hip. In late 2003 I'd even had a couple of dating situations emerge out of Friendster correspondence. Tinder probably would have fucked me up mentally but I would have used it.

lipstickandcigarettes?

Don't know that one! Lipstickparty was definitely a thing, though it seems very obscure on the internet now. I have AIM chat logs that refer to it by name so I'm sure I'm not imagining it.

oh well i am a very young person with a lot going on, i wouldn't know

same

Fellow Europeans: Do you also see a steady stream of profile pictures snapped at the holocaust memorial in Berlin? People laughing, jumping, climbing in between the concrete slabs. And always smiling. It really weirds me out.

guess I shd post here or revive BRAGGIN 2007 to say I met an incredible girl on bumble, somehow :)

just noticed Tinder's new "recommend to a friend" feature

creepy as fuck

still don't know what the hell Tinder Social is either

tinder social seems to be used by younger people in my area, so I only notice it if the group has one person who is older than the others and falls into my age range

the idea seems to be that a group of single friends is going out this evening/weekend and are looking for more people to possibly hang out with? trying to recreate that situation where you're out with friends at a bar or w/e and end up talking to another group and mingling

tinder is about flicking the faces of a million strangers into the past, not getting laid.

relying on a single photographic image displayed on a smartphone to decide whether or not one would be interested in the person pictured seems so devoid of reality it is hard for me to wrap my head around

there can be several photos, a list of common friends/interests (based on your Facebook info), and room to write a short bio about yourself. tinder is as gross/depressing as you want to make it really.

relying on a single photographic image displayed on a smartphone to decide whether or not one would be interested in the person pictured seems so devoid of reality it is hard for me to wrap my head around
― a little too mature to be cute (Aimless), Tuesday, September 20, 2016 12:50 PM (twenty-one minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

This brand new world where people are attracted to other people or not because of what they look like... Makes me sick just thinkingabout it

just noticed Tinder's new "recommend to a friend" feature

creepy as fuck

the weirdest thing, is, i think, that it seems to be impossible to recommend a MATCH to a friend. That seems a lot more logical. Like at that point, you have chatted with this other person, maybe even dated this match, it hasn't blossomed into anything, so...

also this whole 'recommend to a friend' thing, takes up a LOT of space on the screen now, like.. i am swiping for friends Tinder!?!?

the whole Tinder Social thing makes Tinder more into a 'let's get drunk and party'-app and less of a date-app.

This brand new world where people are attracted to other people or not because of what they look like

in my world there is an appreciable difference between seeing a person and seeing a smartphone image of a person and if I were to choose which of them better resembles the person, I'd choose the person.

don't worry these millennial bitches are kind of fickle but you'll get there if you keep swiping dude

the whole Tinder Social thing makes Tinder more into a 'let's get drunk and party'-app and less of a date-app.

uh according to all impressions of youth culture ever all kids do is get drunk, party, and fuck. tinder's market is finding ppl for that third part, makes sense they'd be in on the first two

yeah i'm definitely not going to be using it but i can see the point of it

brb going to gbx's location, we're gonna make a tinder social team. going to be playing in the tinder social finals by year end.

uh according to all impressions of youth culture ever all kids do is get drunk, party, and fuck. tinder's market is finding ppl for that third part, makes sense they'd be in on the first two

yeah ok i see the point as well, yet, it still makes me feel like, if you're already out there on the dance floor, with a group of friends, do you really need to hook up with ANOTHER group of friends, i mean.. the social situation ís there already.

anyway, i must be old. :P

yes because your friends are all dudes and you are a hetero man

and you want to fuck

I thought the millenials didn't want to fuck anymore. I think I read that somewhere.

Aimless, yeah, sure, I think many people would choose the person, but in a world where you are not going to ever meet 99.99999% of the people in your city that are in your age range or whatever, there are some kind of filters in play anyway. Why not this?

if I can't come up with a compelling reason to meet me in a couple minutes and a few sentences I'm sure as hell not going to able to make the case in a long-form dating profile (and definitely not in person)

it's not like I have pheromones spewing from my body that make people think "whoa so much better, the real thing, I'm swiping right!!" *makes swipe motion in air*

I'm awful at these new dating apps. Mostly because I don't like texting or typing on my phone. Acrylic nails are a bitch.

I am just waiting to meet someone IRL someday, somehow. Although maybe I should try; my sister, after years of Tinder-ing, just finally met her dream man and is very happy.

if I can't come up with a compelling reason to meet me in a couple minutes and a few sentences

the dilemma is that in order to do so, you must figure out how to praise yourself, while sounding credible as a witness to your own virtues. out of curiosity, what few sentences do you think would be appropriate in your own case?

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you realize people workshop dating profiles and how they present themselves in that manner with friends, right?

sarahell otm

and you don't praise yourself, you present yourself in an attractive light

let me tell you, if presenting yourself as a decent human being who'd be interesting to talk to is what you view as self-praise, you're probably depressed

(note: familiar with depression over here)

make that the text of your Tinder profile. guaranteed results!

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(note: familiar with depression

I've heard that

"I don't know what to write about myself but here's a recipe for pancakes:
recipe"

has become a trending profile text

And if there's one thing someone reading ILX wants, it's a trending profile text.

?

I am possibly taking niels too seriously.

I do agree that 'praise' is probably not the most useful lens - as Aimless says you will not be seen as a credible source.

Was not trying to help out, more of an adding to the general discussion type post

i read this and did not get a lot out of it

https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2016/10/the-unbearable-exhaustion-of-dating-apps/505184/

Jesus... people are still writing think pieces on the alienating effects of online dating???

I seem to be locked out of tinder - or it seems unable to send my the sms verification code to register an account, which kind of throws off my plans for the next week -_-

Anyone experiencing this/know how to get around it/want to register an account for me? Tinder's support is, obviously, totally useless.

http://i.imgur.com/UP5cVvj.jpg

http://i.imgur.com/zC49ObZ.jpg

http://www.latimes.com/home/la-hm-la-affairs-giorgio-selvaggio-20161216-story.html

lol

another one for the lulz

http://www.latimes.com/home/la-hm-la-affairs-valentina-valentini-20170125-story.html

has it all rly

irish stereotypes, obvious red flags, clingy desperate oblivious woman

if he's a weed dealer why is he always broke?

I wasn’t so upset that he was in the pot business — I was more upset that he was terrible at it.

if he's a weed dealer why is he always broke?

― Islamic State of Mind (jim in vancouver), Friday, January 27, 2017 2:56 PM (four minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

bc it's california and anyone who needs weed just gets a medical card instead of calling a dealer? idk

ok nevermind i read the article now lol