meh, ignore that a) i meant to add something else to that sentence but lost my train of thought.
― Roz, Thursday, 21 December 2017 08:37 (six years ago) link
Nah that's a good post imo
― remember the lmao (darraghmac), Thursday, 21 December 2017 08:45 (six years ago) link
don't stfu xxp. i really think talking some of this stuff out is much more important than stubbornly or secretly holding on to feelings or prejudices, or outright condemning decent people on either side of whatever issue. i don't care if my rhetoric is 'ill conceived' because in the absence of some other better way to consider it i'll continue to maintain that being an asshole is not a crime. obviously that is motivated somewhat by self-interest.
tbh i am curious if any non-men here have any reservations about the current climate for accusations. i have seen women elsewhere make some points from that position (ex. megan mcardle https://www.bloomberg.com/view/articles/2017-12-18/the-current-sex-panic-harks-back-to-the-era-of-coddling-women) but i assume that here they would obv be ignored/dismissed for being too conservative or whatever.
xp i know this is crass but please believe that it's a real q bc it is: what exactly is the professional/peer relationship supposed to be btwn 'person taking photograph of a woman's vagina' and 'person getting their vagina photographed by an older man'? i know the article says there are unspoken rules for nude subjects of art but how + why are those expected to be adhered to? what makes a man want to photograph naked women to begin with?
― sleepingbag, Thursday, 21 December 2017 08:46 (six years ago) link
artist/subject is a fairly well-defined professional relationship, regardless of what kind of artist that person is. many people tend to be fuzzy on what is appropriate within that relationship (like yourself, it seems), but that's why those unspoken codes of conduct exist.
it's important to note that the women speaking against chuck close are not models used to posing nude but artists in their own right. the second woman certainly didn't deserve the behaviour she describes being subjected to after she declined, as is her right, his request to go topless. this is exactly the kind of thing that contributes to many women feeling that they're being devalued and not taken seriously as a professional/peer.
She told Mr. Close she had to think about it and ultimately decided against it. “I came to the conclusion that I was not being photographed as an artist but as a woman,” she said. “I said, ‘I hope I can still come to your studio.’” But when she called a few weeks later to arrange that visit, Ms. Brown said, Mr. Close “acted like he did not know me.” ...Ms. Brown said that having to tell Mr. Fuhrman about this turn of events only added to her level of disappointment. “It was humiliating to say to this person who’s a huge supporter of my work, ‘Actually, it was conditional on me taking my top off’ — telling one of my big patrons, ‘This person we both admire doesn’t actually admire me.’”
Ms. Brown said that having to tell Mr. Fuhrman about this turn of events only added to her level of disappointment. “It was humiliating to say to this person who’s a huge supporter of my work, ‘Actually, it was conditional on me taking my top off’ — telling one of my big patrons, ‘This person we both admire doesn’t actually admire me.’”
― Roz, Thursday, 21 December 2017 09:05 (six years ago) link
that’s excellent, roz there was this too, from huffpost, ‘Three days after their initial meeting, Fox emailed Close to arrange a time to meet. In response, Close invited her to come to his studio on Bond Street in Manhattan on Friday, Oct. 18, to pose for a shoot. In these emails, which Fox shared with HuffPost, neither Fox nor Close discussed the prospect of nudity during the shoot. Fox said she was familiar with Close’s oversize portraits, which are typically close-ups of human faces. She assumed he wanted her to pose for a similar project.’
― estela, Thursday, 21 December 2017 09:21 (six years ago) link
sure, men have a right to make a pass at a woman whenever they feel like it and women have a right to decline those advances
I might be reading this wrong and/or missing some context,my apologies if so, but men don’t and shouldn’t have that right in a professional setting where they have the power (which will be most of them), because women’s right to decline will be compromised.
― Andrew Farrell, Thursday, 21 December 2017 09:55 (six years ago) link
Oh absolutely agree with you there. I didn't phrase that right - I was responding more to the idea that you can't stop men from making passes at women and that they shouldn't be punished if that's all they did.
― Roz, Thursday, 21 December 2017 10:29 (six years ago) link
I don't think any of the high-profile men that have been outed so far have been accused of "asked colleague for a date, was rebuffed, said 'ok' and went about their business as usual" tbf
― a Rambo in curved air (Noodle Vague), Thursday, 21 December 2017 10:37 (six years ago) link
said "ok, it's just your career" mmm
― Mark G, Thursday, 21 December 2017 11:18 (six years ago) link
poll re: members of parliament in UKhttps://pbs.twimg.com/media/DPBBbAuX0AEC2J4?format=jpg
― illegal economic migration (Tracer Hand), Thursday, 21 December 2017 11:18 (six years ago) link
https://pbs.twimg.com/media/DPBBbAuX0AEC2J4?format=jpg
― illegal economic migration (Tracer Hand), Thursday, 21 December 2017 11:19 (six years ago) link
britain erects morelike
― dipso inferno (bizarro gazzara), Thursday, 21 December 2017 11:28 (six years ago) link
Sexting is the one that throws me for a loop there. I guess they mean w/ someone who isn't your partner?
― Daniel_Rf, Thursday, 21 December 2017 11:53 (six years ago) link
23% thinking that an extramarital affair should be career ending seems bizarrely high as well?
― soref, Thursday, 21 December 2017 12:56 (six years ago) link
Why is sexting worse than any other consensual sexual activity?
― treeship 2, Thursday, 21 December 2017 13:21 (six years ago) link
let's assume that less than 100% of the responds actually understood what "sexting" might mean
― a Rambo in curved air (Noodle Vague), Thursday, 21 December 2017 13:23 (six years ago) link
Well, exactly.
Though the two recent(ish) cases were MPs who a) sent lewd text messages to a 17 year old and b) where an MP repeatedly propositioned a woman who had come in earlier for a job interview so I guess it is conflated with harassment.
― Wag1 Shree Rajneesh (ShariVari), Thursday, 21 December 2017 13:27 (six years ago) link
Also, unlike some others, with sexting there is hard evidence so I think that raises the level.
― Yerac, Thursday, 21 December 2017 14:02 (six years ago) link
https://www.hollywoodreporter.com/news/meryl-streep-targeted-by-street-artists-she-knew-posters-1069400?utm_source=twitter&utm_source=t.co&utm_medium=referral
― j., Thursday, 21 December 2017 15:40 (six years ago) link
xp - ^^ exactly
sexting is a sign of carelessness among people who should be more cautious (a. wiener por ejemplo)
― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Thursday, 21 December 2017 15:47 (six years ago) link
the same kind of argument might be applied to extramarital affairs, these things in some sense depends on what happens, who does it and how it impacts on their jobs
but there's also a confusion between sections of the public who are angry about abuse of power relationships and misogynist behaviour and sections of the public who just like policing other people's sexuality
― a Rambo in curved air (Noodle Vague), Thursday, 21 December 2017 15:58 (six years ago) link
Petraeus & Mr Appalachian Trail (i forget his name) both walked away from their jobs (iirc?) for having what seemed like run-of-the-mill extramarital affairsthat seemed excessive to me tbh
― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Thursday, 21 December 2017 16:00 (six years ago) link
streep is the wrong target, those posters are stupid
― akm, Thursday, 21 December 2017 16:02 (six years ago) link
https://www.theguardian.com/film/2017/dec/20/meryl-streep-she-knew-harvey-weinstein-posters-sabo-artist
oh
A rightwing guerrilla artist in Los Angeles has claimed responsibility for posters that depict Meryl Streep as an enabler of Harvey Weinstein, calling them revenge for the actor’s criticism of Donald Trump.Sabo, a former US marine who considers leftism a “disorder”, told the Guardian on Wednesday he created the posters that show Streep with a red stripe across her face and the text “She knew”, a reference to accusations that she had knowledge of Weinstein’s alleged sexual abuse of women.Sabo, 49, said he and two collaborators conceived the campaign as retaliation for Streep using her latest Oscar-tipped film, The Post, to bash Trump. “She’s swiping at us so we’re swiping back.”
Sabo, a former US marine who considers leftism a “disorder”, told the Guardian on Wednesday he created the posters that show Streep with a red stripe across her face and the text “She knew”, a reference to accusations that she had knowledge of Weinstein’s alleged sexual abuse of women.
Sabo, 49, said he and two collaborators conceived the campaign as retaliation for Streep using her latest Oscar-tipped film, The Post, to bash Trump. “She’s swiping at us so we’re swiping back.”
― j., Thursday, 21 December 2017 16:03 (six years ago) link
w/govt employees there is the potential for blackmail which complicates thingsxpost
― illegal economic migration (Tracer Hand), Thursday, 21 December 2017 16:04 (six years ago) link
FWIW, Streep has worked on only one Weinstein production, August: Osage County (2013).
― Sanpaku, Thursday, 21 December 2017 16:08 (six years ago) link
Xp as I said Tracer it's case by case but the blackmail argument used to be used to punish gay people for being gay so
― a Rambo in curved air (Noodle Vague), Thursday, 21 December 2017 16:19 (six years ago) link
more of this creep
https://www.yahoo.com/news/fifth-woman-accuses-danny-masterson-142051271.html
― omar little, Thursday, 21 December 2017 16:27 (six years ago) link
good point NV(that initially autocorrected to "god's point")
― illegal economic migration (Tracer Hand), Thursday, 21 December 2017 16:37 (six years ago) link
Wow - when the Streep story came out yesterday, and was pushed by Drudge etc, I was wondering if it was a right-wing thing -- especially because there was a similar guerrilla campaign against Al Franken in L.A. a month earlier.
Guessing it will be another tactic from Roger Stone et al to take down their (sometimes deserving) targets.
― ... (Eazy), Thursday, 21 December 2017 16:44 (six years ago) link
Sabo is a loser. You can identify his art by the laziness and location.
― Yerac, Thursday, 21 December 2017 16:46 (six years ago) link
these guys can't wait to take credit, i mean i'm not sure that's how it's supposed to work!
― omar little, Thursday, 21 December 2017 16:46 (six years ago) link
poll re: members of parliament in UK
― illegal economic migration (Tracer Hand), Thursday, December 21, 2017 6:18 AM (six hours ago)
this is pretty interesting. given that the last question specifies "with an employee" or "with someone much younger", I take it that the rest of the questions concern private, consensual relationships among adults. maybe I'm missing some context, or do majorities of MPs think, for example, that having porn on their work computer or sexting are fireable offenses?
― k3vin k., Thursday, 21 December 2017 17:57 (six years ago) link
at least this thread probably led to a righteous 51ing.
― omar little, Thursday, 21 December 2017 18:20 (six years ago) link
how is having porn on your work computer not a fireable offence?!?
― dipso inferno (bizarro gazzara), Thursday, 21 December 2017 18:25 (six years ago) link
plausible deniability.
― Here comes the phantom menace (ledge), Thursday, 21 December 2017 18:45 (six years ago) link
this is the level of security in the mother of parliaments:
My staff log onto my computer on my desk with my login everyday. Including interns on exchange programmes. For the officer on @BBCNews just now to claim that the computer on Greens desk was accessed and therefore it was Green is utterly preposterous !!— Nadine Dorries (@NadineDorries) December 2, 2017
― Here comes the phantom menace (ledge), Thursday, 21 December 2017 18:48 (six years ago) link
great ratio
― while my dirk gently weeps (symsymsym), Thursday, 21 December 2017 18:53 (six years ago) link
such a classic self-own, one of the greats
― dipso inferno (bizarro gazzara), Thursday, 21 December 2017 18:56 (six years ago) link
All these men squealing about how they can’t even hit on a woman anymore reminds me of all the men who were like “it’s just locker room talk”.
― just1n3, Thursday, 21 December 2017 19:00 (six years ago) link
yeah and it's like why tf are you in a locker room past 12th grade, if that
― flappy bird, Thursday, 21 December 2017 19:05 (six years ago) link
When men reach a certain age, their families banish them to locker rooms to live out their last days there, naked. It's part of American culture.
― Evan, Thursday, 21 December 2017 19:08 (six years ago) link
gah why does society keep making it harder and harder for me to be awful??!??
― A True White Kid that can Jump (Granny Dainger), Thursday, 21 December 2017 19:08 (six years ago) link
The Hurt Locker Room
― ice cream social justice (Dr Morbius), Thursday, 21 December 2017 19:08 (six years ago) link
http://thisdistractedglobe.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/10/blues-brothers-1980-john-belushi-steve-lawrence-dan-aykroyd-pic-4.jpg
― omar little, Thursday, 21 December 2017 19:10 (six years ago) link
Barbara Kruger needs to have a word with the bad Streep art dude.
― kim jong deal (suzy), Thursday, 21 December 2017 19:24 (six years ago) link
the only time i met meryl streep, my general takeaway of her was as the sort of woman who would go full sophie's choice on that guy if he stepped to her in person
― Chocolate-covered gummy bears? Not ruling those lil' guys out. (ulysses), Thursday, 21 December 2017 19:27 (six years ago) link
also: no shade suzy but i think we mixed up our posts
Baseball’s Rainmaker Forced Out After Alleged Misconduct
Bob Bowman, long considered one of the most influential executives in media and sports, was pushed out by Major League Baseball after allegations related to his workplace conduct.
https://www.wsj.com/articles/baseballs-rainmaker-forced-out-after-alleged-misconduct-1513882805
― mookieproof, Thursday, 21 December 2017 19:35 (six years ago) link
did we all read Streep's response to Rose McGowan?
― ice cream social justice (Dr Morbius), Thursday, 21 December 2017 19:37 (six years ago) link