This is the inevitable thread for ILxors in their forties

I couldn't get past the fecund line tbh. You don't need to be in your 40's to eschew that type of Richard and Judy show level bullshit psychobabble, and know confidently know that your not fucking missing out on anything of use.

sorry i blew all my fecundity 20 years back

fecund sounds too fecal to me and I dont like the word :<

In re keeping up with stuff, I think it’s a sort of misleading concept. When you’re younger it’s easier to be aware of some strains of pop culture because your friends and social circles are likewise tuned in and you’re more likely to just kind of absorb things by osmosis. otoh you’re likely to be aware of a relatively narrow band of stuff just because it takes a while to discover everything that’s out there in the world. In my 40s I’m definitely less cognizant of youth culture than when I was in my teens or 20s, but I’m more aware of at least some stuff across a much broader range.

Honestly, On Being usually makes me want to throw eggs at the radio. I can't stand that show.

I used to wonder "How can my grandmother not know who Bruce Springsteen is?"

My grandpa tried name-dropping him in a dinner table conversation once, but unfortunately he called him Bruce Springlestein by mistake

Shaving your head down is *almost* like hiding it but it's also saying fuck it, this is who I am.

this is massively massively otm. when i decided to shave it all off it was a single-fingered “fuck you” to my deviant cocking hairline. in general, balding people who clean-shave (imo) are people who take full control of unwanted bullshit.

Shaving my head worked well when I was living in a tropical country, but in the UK it just exasperates the "it's cold and there are no hats that I can now acceptably wear" problem.

I really don't get why "hiding" that you are bald by shaving is a problem for some people. Not on this thread, but I have actually seen people say that it's somehow cheating or deception.

The wonderbra of haircuts

XP Because people are massively, inexplicably keen to judge other people for everything they are and everything they do?

and who they do it for..

Taking back control - the bald by choice movement.

TBF, it's not really 'hiding' anyway, inasmuch as the perimeter of the stubble still clearly telegraphs your hairline.

I'd actually been clipping my hair down to nothing for several years before I started losing it, which made the adjustment to the haircut I'd have for the rest of my life relatively smooth.

No pun intended!

Taking back control - the bald by choice movement.

― Luna Schlosser

as opposed to the InBald movement, come join our popular reddit

I used to wonder "How can my grandmother not know who Bruce Springsteen is?"

My grandpa tried name-dropping him in a dinner table conversation once, but unfortunately he called him Bruce Springlestein by mistake

― faust apes (NickB)

quick, somebody come up with a humorous mispronunciation of "brockhampton"

seriously this is the real '40s shit, i don't mind groaning every time i move (my wife insists it's performative, which it isn't, but there's no actual pain attached), but knowing that my brain function is degenerating is tough. i know more now than i did ten years ago and i'm learning more stuff all the time, but frequently i can't remember words, basic simple words like "shoe", and my typing has gotten a lot worse grammatically. i make stupid errors that i used to make fun of people for, like two/too/to and typing "grammer" instead of "grammar" and i have no idea why. and then i start leaving out connecting words so that when i write stuff it winds up not making sense (on top of the frequent logical incoherence, which isn't a new thing for me, i've always had that).

i decided long ago that alzheimer's is the one acceptable reason for me to kill myself, so i worry a lot about this stuff.

They say the memory is the first thing to go. I forget what the second thing is.

It's the memory.

Thanks. Dadjoking aside, I need words and language to eat (as I have no other job skills). Losing my grip on them would be a serious problem. It may be silly to believe in this, but I do hope that things like word games, crosswords, and Scrabble will help keep my wits about me.

xp Bruckprampton

Brocklepimpton

Throckmorton

Boringstreetrapton

i don't mind groaning every time i move (my wife insists it's performative, which it isn't, but there's no actual pain attached)

i was just thinking to myself about this this morning! It's much more prevalent than it was even a year ago.there may be a performative element but i do it when I'm by myself too so...

New maddening pain in left hip this week, firs-ever complaint related to that area for me (though unlucky in right arm, i've been lucky re: back neck and hips before now).

OK no more bitching about hair loss or aches and pains for now damn guys.

i feel great :D :D :D

that's more like it!

I'll say that I don't feel any worse than I did in my thirties. But I'm only like three months into this thing so let's just wait and see what happens.

i feel pretty good imo

I feel pretty good, considering

http://cdn.ebaumsworld.com/mediaFiles/picture/73250/83371800.jpg

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HuG2uAWVlP4
this makes me irrationally angry but that is dead proof i am old i guess

from The Times today:

Analysis: Prince is taking back control

Who would have predicted that a member of the royal family would take grooming tips from Jason Statham, Ross Kemp and the UK’s community of nightclub doormen? Yet the Duke of Cambridge has, without warning, joined their chilly-scalped gang (writes Hattie Crisell).

It probably feels like a seismic change to Prince William, but visually it’s not dramatic, truth be told: in recent years, the close and ever-diminishing style he sported was more of a nod to the idea of hair, a dream of a memory of hair, rather than anything substantial enough to be considered hair itself. Now Prince William has taken back control, with a shaven head that makes baldness into a decisive choice, not an ongoing source of hilarity for his wife and brother.

And thank heavens he has. He looks better, more modern and younger with it; it’s a style fit for the kind of future king who gives warm interviews to Ant and Dec, and speaks out on matters that previous generations of monarchy might have avoided, such as mental health. The fact is, the majority of men with thinning hair would be better off biting the bullet so bravely.

it’s a style fit for the kind of future king who gives warm interviews to Ant and Dec

rummages in the kitchen for guillotine wax

the performative groaning made me laugh. getting up and going holy mother of god or “not again”, or just leaning on the kitchen counter staring at the toaster for what five minutes in the evening when i was about to do something else but got distracted by fatigue.

I was a little 'wtf @ this performative groaning thing' and then I climbed onto the bathroom counter to clean the mirror and groaned pretty performatively and realized that yes this is probably a thing I've done for a while without even realizing (old).

One time I was carrying lots of groceries up the stairs (all on my one good arm, natch) to our 5th floor apt and the little girls who live across the hall literally laughed at my exertions
I like that memory

I feel pretty good too. My only exercise though is walking about 7000 steps per day plus climbing 11 flights of stairs a couple times a week. I have a salad as part of every lunch and try not to drink during the week.

Never mind, in Hexadecimal I'm only 39

i used to think the ageing process was slow, but all the elastin in my skin seems to have fucked off overnight

Slough off to the shed thread I guess

Was talking with friend about how impossibly old the Traveling Wilburys seemed when they released their music in 1988. I've listed their ages at the time. For some perspective, three of them are no longer alive. Enjoy yourself, it's later than you think. pic.twitter.com/eoPTmgwz1K

— Neal Brennan (@nealbrennan) January 24, 2018

jesus
that's depressing

holy fuck at george harrison being 45 with the wilburys, that doesn't seem possible

Huuuuuuuuh.

Welp.

I find myself doing that all the time. I see someone in an old movie or TV show who seems like a capital-A Adult, an elder if you will, and then discover, yeah, I'm older now than they were there. Sheesh.

i try not to think about it but it was super cool of this person to call it to our attention

Dylan in particular there does that for me. In the '80s when I was in high school and college, he seemed so ridiculously OLD. He'd been through like five different careers. But for nearly the whole decade he was younger than I am now. (There's a "My Back Pages" joke there somewhere.)