This episode really puts Ansari's 'dating and relationship are complicated' shtick into perspective, uh.
― Van Horn Street, Monday, 15 January 2018 19:54 (six years ago) link
Also if this cultural moment leads into another parallel discussion about how male sexuality is bereft of empathy and respect even within the boundaries of consent then that's good too. Of course some knuckleheads will interpret that as witch hunt or everything is criminal but hey not everyone can be saved.
― Van Horn Street, Monday, 15 January 2018 19:57 (six years ago) link
I'm a little pissed they didn't remove Bright from netflix. Partly because I hate that it keeps showing up on my main menu.
― Yerac, Monday, 15 January 2018 19:58 (six years ago) link
i want to believe you meant to post that on this thread
― Chocolate-covered gummy bears? Not ruling those lil' guys out. (ulysses), Monday, 15 January 2018 19:59 (six years ago) link
it would be really, really easy for me to believe that Ansari was not so secretly a dirtbag, but I was admittedly pretty unfazed by that story
― Nhex, Monday, 15 January 2018 20:00 (six years ago) link
xpost I did. We've already forgotten how Max Landis is a pos because we'll have hundreds more to get through.
― Yerac, Monday, 15 January 2018 20:02 (six years ago) link
babe is partially owned by news corp so who knows :(
― maura, Monday, 15 January 2018 20:03 (six years ago) link
I am pretty sure I have never been aware of Babe before yesterday.
― Yerac, Monday, 15 January 2018 20:06 (six years ago) link
Same!
― ♫ very clever with maracas.jpg ♫ (Le Bateau Ivre), Monday, 15 January 2018 20:07 (six years ago) link
Apparently they have 5 million monthly readers
― treeship 2, Monday, 15 January 2018 20:07 (six years ago) link
Pretty sure I won't be aware of Babe tomorrow.
― Van Horn Street, Monday, 15 January 2018 20:07 (six years ago) link
Oh, and the mention of having never seen Seinfeld!?!
― Yerac, Monday, 15 January 2018 20:07 (six years ago) link
I thought she just hadn’t seen that one episode
― treeship 2, Monday, 15 January 2018 20:08 (six years ago) link
Landis seems to have gone silent in the last month. No Twitter activity or statements about the allegations. I wonder if he thinks he can wait it out.
― jmm, Monday, 15 January 2018 20:08 (six years ago) link
xpost Sloppy editing!
― Yerac, Monday, 15 January 2018 20:09 (six years ago) link
Wanting UBC to stick to a fair process is choosing lit community over the victims of sexual harassment? How? If anything a fair process is everything the victim deserves. It is everything that future victims will alway deserve.
― Van Horn Street, Monday, January 15, 2018 2:44 PM (seven minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
I explicitly stated it was an "uncharitable" reading, but I just reread the original open letter and there is no concern expressed for the victims to have access to fair processes, only for Professor Galloway. Yes, her follow-up statement expresses concern for "survivor people," but it came after the fact and is also badly written.
Anyway, my point was more that there's a context around Atwood's G&M piece that Americans most likely don't know about, including that Atwood has been criticized widely and publicly for her stance on these issues and, particularly, the recent Concordia scandal--why exactly does Atwood want to be the go-to hot taker whenever a creative writing program is accused of harboring sexual abusers? Maybe everything in her column was righteous on an abstract level, but it's gross timing.
― rob, Monday, 15 January 2018 20:12 (six years ago) link
It’s weird that there was a plotline on the most recent season of ansari’s aggressively mediocre show where his costar is brought down by accusations that he was a “creep” with women who worked for him. The Aziz charactef stands up to him. In ANOTHER episode, in season one, he stands up to a subway masturbator and is praised by women he knows for doing this. Almost more than any other male celebrity he’s trued to set himself up as pne of the woke ones. Could have been a way to get ahead of accusations, could have been a lack of self-awareness, could be nothing becausw this babe story is a newscorp plant (least likely), but in any case it’s odd.
― treeship 2, Monday, 15 January 2018 20:12 (six years ago) link
what does a talking pig have to do with any of this
― #TeamHailing (imago), Monday, 15 January 2018 20:13 (six years ago) link
Don't call her that, Peggy is a national treasure
― flamboyant goon tie included, Monday, 15 January 2018 20:14 (six years ago) link
that babe site is one of those locations on the web where you need to be real careful about specifying the ‘.net’ part of the address huh*clears desk in anticipation of visit from the it office*
― grim-n-gritty hooty reboot (bizarro gazzara), Monday, 15 January 2018 20:14 (six years ago) link
it's been a while since I read it, but iirc this Rebecca Traister piece gets at some of what we're talking about with Ansari: https://www.thecut.com/2015/10/why-consensual-sex-can-still-be-bad.html
― rob, Monday, 15 January 2018 20:17 (six years ago) link
babe is a spin-off of the tab, which is a fairly popular site with the youth (i have students who have worked for its offshoot on my campus). it’s filling the hercampus void also i’m not surprised that a twentysomething hasn’t seen seinfeld. isn’t it only on hulu?
― maura, Monday, 15 January 2018 20:19 (six years ago) link
my students however watch A LOT of FRIENDS
― maura, Monday, 15 January 2018 20:20 (six years ago) link
It’s syndicated on a buncha channels
― treeship 2, Monday, 15 January 2018 20:20 (six years ago) link
― rob, Monday, January 15, 2018 3:12 PM (five minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
I agree the timing is quite off wrt to Concordia but then I can understand how an old writer don't understand how these things work now. Which is no excuse, once you enter that particular arena you have to do your homework.
― Van Horn Street, Monday, 15 January 2018 20:22 (six years ago) link
― treeship 2, Monday, January 15, 2018 3:12 PM (ten minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
Have you read his 'apology' ? Ansari is just painfully oblivious.
― Van Horn Street, Monday, 15 January 2018 20:23 (six years ago) link
There are some interesting things to be gleaned from Conor Oberst interviews about just what a shit storm this stuff can be. He was accused of rape back in 2013 by someone in an XOJane column and it took years to "clear" his name, scare quotes because obviously no one is ever completely clear. (That is, it's the first thing I think of when I think of Conor Oberst). But he, I think, was considerate enough to think of the accusation and his own ordeal in context, especially when he was being celebrated by idiots in the MRA scene:
"It's such a tricky topic for me because I don't ever want to minimize how much that happens to women all the fucking time," he says. "They say one in four women will experience some kind of sexual assault in their life which is fucking insane and heartbreaking. So as painful and surreal and fucked up as my situation was, I don't ever want to use this as an example to justify anything."
It's telling - and illustrative of how rare false accusations actually are - that his response was ultimately to file a defamation suit (with any money directed to charities benefitting victims of violence against women). It's so infrequent afaict for those accused to actually fight back in court, which lends support to most of the accusers in these situations.
― Josh in Chicago, Monday, 15 January 2018 20:26 (six years ago) link
Friends has amazing longevity. People in other countries always like to bring it up too.
― Yerac, Monday, 15 January 2018 20:26 (six years ago) link
― The Bridge of Ban Louis J (silby), Monday, 15 January 2018 20:27 (six years ago) link
xp to VHSbtw I agree that universities' handling of this stuff requires thorough analysis and is clearly designed to benefit the uni rather than the accused or accusers. I worked at a public university in the US when members of an athletic team were accused of sexual assault and the admin response was truly appalling.
― rob, Monday, 15 January 2018 20:29 (six years ago) link
They did up until a few years ago. I’m a twentysomething. This isn’t an important tangent though.
― treeship 2, Monday, 15 January 2018 20:30 (six years ago) link
Oberst’s accuser turned out to be making stuff up from what I remember.
― akm, Monday, 15 January 2018 20:37 (six years ago) link
Yeah that one was proven to be completely fabricated. He wasn’t in the state at the time it was alleged to have happened and things like that. I think the accuser was also obsessed with him.
― treeship 2, Monday, 15 January 2018 20:39 (six years ago) link
A rare scenario but it can happen.
the oberst thing was an anonymous accusation made in a comments section by someone who later admitted she had made it up
― (The Other) J.D. (J.D.), Monday, 15 January 2018 20:39 (six years ago) link
It originated in the comments but it took off in the mainstream which is why he had to file the defamation suit
― treeship 2, Monday, 15 January 2018 20:41 (six years ago) link
iirc some ppl were upset that he had taken legal action, since it could set a bad precedent/discourage ppl from coming forward, etc
― (The Other) J.D. (J.D.), Monday, 15 January 2018 20:42 (six years ago) link
iirc correcly everyone almost everyone agreed immediately that something was off with that accusation. I still remember it for how off it felt, both the accusation and Oberst's response.
― Frederik B, Monday, 15 January 2018 20:59 (six years ago) link
Oberst handled that very well and tbh based on some of his music he would not have been my first guess to do so lol
― Simon H., Monday, 15 January 2018 21:08 (six years ago) link
didn't Isaac Brock have to deal with something like that too
― frogbs, Monday, 15 January 2018 21:11 (six years ago) link
he discusses it here in this interview from '04, make of it what you will
https://www.avclub.com/modest-mouse-1798208359#
― Simon H., Monday, 15 January 2018 21:17 (six years ago) link
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...'treeship types'?
― flappy bird, Monday, 15 January 2018 21:52 (six years ago) link
Caitlin Flanagan is not a feminist for Christ’s sake
― horseshoe, Monday, 15 January 2018 21:53 (six years ago) link
caitlin flanagan has been horrible since i first became aware of her probably around 15 years ago? iirc she got her job writing for the atlantic when she charmed someone at a dinner party. she is a world class asshole.
i agree with whoever said upthread that we all need to be part of the solution and communicate our desires/needs/wishes much more clearly and unambiguously. this is why i wondered recently whether people are reassessing erica jong/fear of flying and the so-called "zipless fuck"
― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Monday, 15 January 2018 21:57 (six years ago) link
Friends is on........ NETFLIX!binge on relevant cord cutting youngsters
― bhad and bhabie (upper mississippi sh@kedown), Monday, 15 January 2018 21:58 (six years ago) link
I see tokyo rosemary and others covered Caitlin Flanagan’s bullshit upthread. sorry, I just flipped out at “Caitlin Flanagan is a feminist” because words mean things. and I have hated her for yearsReally can’t relate to the concerns that accusations of harassment have gone too far, and that is probably the most neutral thing I can say about that.
― horseshoe, Monday, 15 January 2018 22:01 (six years ago) link
i agree with whoever said upthread that we all need to be part of the solution and communicate our desires/needs/wishes much more clearly and unambiguously.
― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Monday, January 15, 2018 4:57 PM (two minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
a good part of the solution also resides in the responsibility to listen what the other person communicates also? taking a recent example, this is exactly what Ansari did not do.
― Van Horn Street, Monday, 15 January 2018 22:02 (six years ago) link
I apologize for what I said about Flanagan. I didn'tknow what I was talking about. Xps
― treeship 2, Monday, 15 January 2018 22:09 (six years ago) link
Each person should make sure their partner is horny as F and asking for it, verbally and with their open, aware eyes, before things are stuck anywhere (to include fingers down the throat).
― Yerac, Monday, 15 January 2018 22:09 (six years ago) link
a good part of the solution also resides in the responsibility to listen what the other person communicates also? taking a recent example, this is exactly what Ansari did not do.of course
― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Monday, 15 January 2018 22:21 (six years ago) link