Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

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https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2017/06/when-your-child-is-a-psychopath/524502/

After talking with Carl, I begin to see him as a remarkable success story. “Without [ Mendota] and Jesus,” he tells me, “I would have been a Manson-, Bundy-, Dahmer-, or Berkowitz-type of criminal.” Sure, his fascination with the morbid is a little creepy. Yet here he is, now remarried, the father of a 1-year-old son he adores, with a flourishing business. After our phone interview, I decide to meet him in person. I want to witness his redemption for myself.

The night before I’m scheduled to fly to Los Angeles, I receive a frantic email from Carl’s wife. Carl is in police custody. His wife tells me that Carl considers himself polyamorous, and had invited one of his girlfriends over to their apartment. (This woman denies ever being romantically involved with Carl.)* They were playing with the baby when his wife returned. She was furious, and grabbed their son. Carl responded by pulling her hair, snatching the baby out of her arms, and taking her phone to prevent her from calling the police. She called from a neighbor’s house instead. (Carl says he grabbed the baby to protect him.) Three misdemeanor charges—spousal battery, abandonment and neglect of a child, and intimidation of a witness—and the psychopath who made good is now in jail.

I go to Los Angeles anyway, in the naive hope that Carl will be released on bail at his hearing the next day. A few minutes before 8:30 a.m., his wife and I meet at the courthouse and begin the long wait. She is 12 years Carl’s junior, a compact woman with long black hair and a weariness that ebbs only when she gazes at her son. She met Carl on OkCupid two years ago while visiting L.A. and—after a romance of just a few months—moved to California to marry him. Now she sits outside the courtroom, one eye on her son, fielding calls from clients of the funeral home and wondering whether she can make bail.

“I’m so sick of the drama,” she says, as the phone rings again.

Carl is a tough man to be married to. His wife says he’s funny and charming and a good listener, but he sometimes loses interest in the funeral business, leaving most of the work to her. He brings other women home for sex, even when she’s there. And while he’s never seriously beaten her up, he has slapped her.

that's a lot of article for one keyword

Was thinking the exact thing

Like uh why this thread again?

quintessence of ok cupid

Lol dawg

ok dude

ah, the innocent days when OkCupid ruled the online dating landscape.

sigh

incredibly beautiful person who messaged me first and then abruptly stopped replying when i asked you out, what’s on ur mind

turns out i was buried under a pile of weirdos, but now i got the digits and a date :-D

tried to log in to this for the first time in three years and my profile was deleted

that's reasonable, but it's unlikely i'll ever have the energy to make a new one

Probably not worth said energy, tbh.

diminishing returns

We’ve introduced a dating forum at https://t.co/rVJHNl5voI, so singles who feel the same way about the virus can meet and not have to worry about differing attitudes to social distancing. https://t.co/haGHFYuzuy

— Toby Young (@toadmeister) August 9, 2020

Is there any reason currently to use this over the apps?

iirc there is no reason whatsoever to use a dating forum based around being a "lockdown sceptic"

or did you mean OKC? it has an app!

Is there any reason currently to use an app promoted by someone who calls himself toadmeister?

I meant OKC, and yeah I guess now that it has/is an app it seems to have sanded away all the weird bits that maybe made it unique and useful?

let alone one promoted by someone featured in a thread like this

Most Hilarious Way for Toby Young to Die Although God Forbid It Should Ever Happen

the gradual sanding-down of OKC was one of those long slow bummer demises of the Old Internet, or in this case the Internet of the Mid-00s. gradually the site became incredibly square in tone, policing out a lot of weirdies/kink profiles etc., the clampdown on usernames in favor of real names, and with the interface meanwhile becoming so simplified and tinder-like that having more than a few sentences in your profile came to look absurd. i'm sure they culled a lot of the questions and quizzes and stuff too. it basically just got a lot more generic, slowly.

Every 6 months they get rid of another feature people liked, people complain, life goes on. As with all sites, doing what your userbase wants or retracting a bad change is completely off the menu.