how involved do u get with your friends' problems?

maybe it's already been said but I like the way Neanderthal designed this scale of polling options.

where is 'i have friends and i talk about them all the time to strangers online"?

I give really bad advice

depends on the friend the history the problem and what time/energy i have

Idk map lmk when you make any

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I have no friends barely edged out by helpful sympathizers. polls that effortlessly sum up ILX.

I was the sole vote for having friends and ignoring their problems.

Define friends

I actually have lots of “friends” and i never talk about their problems bc i rly cldnt give a flying fuck

I never voted tho

That is a missing and important context - “do you have the kinds of friends that try to lay lots of their problems on you?” Of many, many friends around the world, I can count those friends on one hand easily, and they only ever ask that I be a sounding board and/or pep talk coach, never more than that.

Mostly I’m a guy you tell secrets to and I tell you you’re not crazy, the best way out is through, and then I tear up the secret, burn it and eat the ashes in an omelette.

egg white?

depends on the friend the history the problem and what time/energy i have

― tired culché (darraghmac), Saturday, 23 June 2018 00:16 (three weeks ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

i dont as a rule maintain great friendships with ppl that have a high ratio of problem to not problem

its good

Mostly I’m a guy you tell secrets to and I tell you you’re not crazy, the best way out is through, and then I tear up the secret, burn it and eat the ashes in an omelette.

I've never had problems, therefore my friends love me.

Tbh a lot of my friends “lay their problems on me” but almost never in a way that calls for “involvement” of any meaningful degree, they just want commiseration, not even advice. I can do that, it’s easy

idk tho maybe I should start charging for the emotional labour of saying “oh no, that’s shit”

im so bad at maintaining friendships, there are many i haven't talked to in 10+ years, so i voted no friends

where’s the option for ‘i am my friends’ problems’

Lol

I eat my friends

me too but only cos theyre rich

It's weird for me. Most of my friends are people ive known 10+ years and the majority of the time requested from me comes from like two people i just met this year.

One who calls at 2 am without making sure i am awake first.

That’s a baller move

I’m gonna start doing that and when they answer bellow HEY U UP?