i only like shirt menthree or four shirts at once, can't get enough shirts
― illegal economic migration (Tracer Hand), Monday, 23 July 2018 18:28 (five years ago) link
might want to double-think who the most publicized multi-shirt-wearers are before committing to that one
― mh, Monday, 23 July 2018 18:43 (five years ago) link
what is bannon's height
― aloha darkness my old friend (katherine), Monday, 23 July 2018 18:45 (five years ago) link
i only like shirt men
three or four shirts at once, can't get enough shirts
― illegal economic migration (Tracer Hand), Monday, 23 July 2018 18:28 (thirty-nine minutes ago) Permalink
Ralph Fiennes in Spider is p much your perfect man
― Minister of the Pillow (fionnland), Monday, 23 July 2018 19:09 (five years ago) link
xp. bannon is slightly short, I'm guessing 5'8", 5'9"
― ( ͡☉ ͜ʖ ͡☉) (jim in vancouver), Monday, 23 July 2018 19:13 (five years ago) link
i def have "no burners" on my tinder prof. im closed minded sorry!
― kurt schwitterz, Monday, 23 July 2018 19:38 (five years ago) link
I thought "but you're messaging on the app, you don't need disposable phones"
then remember, oh.. yeah.
― mh, Monday, 23 July 2018 19:40 (five years ago) link
bay area lol
― kurt schwitterz, Monday, 23 July 2018 19:46 (five years ago) link
all shirt, no bannon
― illegal economic migration (Tracer Hand), Monday, 23 July 2018 19:51 (five years ago) link
i'm a 30 year old straight, white, male. i've been single for nearly 3 years and i haven't really thought much about it until recently. i've never uploaded a picture of myself to the internet or even taken a selfie, and i do not engage in social media in anyway because it all seems so narcissistic to me. i only post here when i'm drinking and i've been lurking for damn near 10 years now.
my question is this, should i get a wild hair, and dip my toe into the online dating world, be it tinder or something else, how odd is it that i have no online presence to account for? It seems like the first thing I would do, if i got a match with someone, would be to check google.com to see if they were real. do i need to create a facebook page to prove that I exist and that people can tolerate me?
i'm very happy with my life right now but it would be silly to pretend that i'll never want any other companionship down the road and i seem ill prepared for today's dating world. are people crosschecking profiles or am i prematurely worried about nothing? if i exist, and there no one to tweet about it, do i really exist?
― dynamicinterface, Friday, 25 January 2019 03:51 (five years ago) link
in my experience, your instagram feed is generally the thing people check to make sure you're not a murderer
― diamonddave85 (diamonddave85), Friday, 25 January 2019 04:10 (five years ago) link
just do whatever you feel is righteous and own that shit buddy
― (ADVANCE) (320k vbr) (--V2) (aps) (diVX) (2CD) OST - SB (2019) (esby), Friday, 25 January 2019 04:10 (five years ago) link
dd85 -
but what happens with the person you're interested in doesn't have a instragram feed? can i just put "not a murderer" in my profile and that will suffice or does not having and instagram automatically make me murderer material?
― dynamicinterface, Friday, 25 January 2019 04:27 (five years ago) link
make I Am Not A Murderer your username imo
― Rhine Jive Click Bait (Hadrian VIII), Friday, 25 January 2019 04:34 (five years ago) link
hello from another longtime lurker who only posts when something super pertinent comes up / the Go-Betweens are mentionedmy partner had zero social media when we met online. it felt odd but also of a piece with his character, might have even made him a bit more interesting to me. it also removed a lot of early dating pitfalls (daydream gazing at profiles / snap character judgements / friend request etiquette etc.). so I wouldn't worry, setting up an online life that doesn't feel authentic to you just for this would probably feel weirder and sweatier to both parties than some fruitless Google searches imo
― verhexen, Friday, 25 January 2019 04:52 (five years ago) link
xps i didn't have an instagram when i rejoined the dating pool but on the advice of my sister i decided to create one because it makes things slightly easier. despite my strong cynicism towards the platform and culture, i was finally convinced with the argument that "no one ever wishes they took fewer pictures"
― diamonddave85 (diamonddave85), Friday, 25 January 2019 06:18 (five years ago) link
saint augustine iirc
― j., Friday, 25 January 2019 06:27 (five years ago) link
i only post here when i'm drinking
you've been posting a lot lately!! take it easy buddy
― j., Friday, 25 January 2019 06:30 (five years ago) link
the smaller the online footprint the hotter they are ime
― ogmor, Friday, 25 January 2019 09:31 (five years ago) link
as someone very online i 100% agree that i prefer meeting ppl who are not very online
― ILX’s bad boy (D-40), Friday, 25 January 2019 09:45 (five years ago) link
also the normalisation of everyone having a big presence to be browsed by potential customers is gross and excludes a lot of ppl who have certain jobs/stalkers/sufficient self-respect
― ogmor, Friday, 25 January 2019 10:20 (five years ago) link
If you think it'll be a big deal, I'd say just find a way to mention it in your profile. You expressed it pretty well above - the obvious question would be are you then looking for someone who also doesn't have much of a presence?
― Andrew Farrell, Tuesday, 5 February 2019 17:25 (five years ago) link
Jesus, I’m in love and this is the simultaneous worst and best thing to happen to me in years
― Hey hey, the tipple’s weak sherry (fionnland), Friday, 22 March 2019 22:55 (five years ago) link
rt
― jolene club remix (BradNelson), Friday, 22 March 2019 22:59 (five years ago) link
falling in love rocks
― flopson, Saturday, 23 March 2019 05:14 (five years ago) link
Unfortunately sometimes rocks like getting into a new drug
― circa1916, Saturday, 23 March 2019 05:23 (five years ago) link
https://www.twincities.com/2020/02/09/elite-matchmaker-tinder-valentines-stillwater-love/
In her initial interview with potential clients, Fultz asks if they are open to feedback and suggestions. “If you’re not, you know, that’s kind of defeating the purpose,” she said. “Why would you go to a personal trainer at the gym if you’re not going to follow the recommendations?”Among Fultz’s feedback: No swearing. No chewing with your mouth open. Don’t show too much skin. Don’t have more than three drinks on a date. Don’t move too fast physically.Fultz’s clients are guaranteed at least three dates during each six-month session, but they often go on multiple dates with their match. If clients begin dating a match, they can put their membership “on hold” for as long as they want, she said.
Among Fultz’s feedback: No swearing. No chewing with your mouth open. Don’t show too much skin. Don’t have more than three drinks on a date. Don’t move too fast physically.
Fultz’s clients are guaranteed at least three dates during each six-month session, but they often go on multiple dates with their match. If clients begin dating a match, they can put their membership “on hold” for as long as they want, she said.
that's almost $3000 per date
― j., Sunday, 9 February 2020 21:11 (four years ago) link
if we followed the three drink rule, I never would have had my best relationship ten years ago.
but I realize three drinks affect people differently.
― ill fuckin put a paste on those (Neanderthal), Sunday, 9 February 2020 22:12 (four years ago) link
have there been, like, scholarly studies of 21st century american yuppies and their dogs? b/c jesus christ, there are more dogs than people here
― circles, Tuesday, 11 February 2020 04:13 (four years ago) link
Girl I’ve been seeing broke things off this morning and I actually think I’m going to take a solid break from swiping—this shit has gotten too stressful and too distracting
― unashamed and trash (Unctious), Tuesday, 11 February 2020 04:17 (four years ago) link
after a six year(ish) break I am amused to see that the meat-market dynamics are still exactly the same but the app has been considerably "gamified" and paywalled in addition to continuing to have the worst UI of any popular app
― intern at pelican brief consulting (Simon H.), Thursday, 27 May 2021 16:05 (two years ago) link
I hate that I ever used this. I hate this era.
― treeship., Thursday, 27 May 2021 18:15 (two years ago) link
Glad to be married and old. My hair is even graying now which is good. The zeitgeist is exhausting.
― treeship., Thursday, 27 May 2021 18:16 (two years ago) link
what do you mean? married people do great on tinder lol
― intern at pelican brief consulting (Simon H.), Thursday, 27 May 2021 18:27 (two years ago) link
being married sounds amazing. modern "dating" was so stressful to me that i only really briefly experimented with it, and now i've dropped out for a while unless something emerges on its own― Treeship, Saturday, December 13, 2014 9:28 PM (six years ago) bookmarkflaglink
― Treeship, Saturday, December 13, 2014 9:28 PM (six years ago) bookmarkflaglink
Is it everything you imagined treeship?
― Guayaquil (eephus!), Thursday, 27 May 2021 18:38 (two years ago) link
I think this Polish pilot I'm talking to might be a bot. 50/50. Her backstory is very specific but she communicates in a botlike way.― Treeship, Wednesday, May 25, 2016 9:46 PM (five years ago) bookmarkflaglink
― Treeship, Wednesday, May 25, 2016 9:46 PM (five years ago) bookmarkflaglink
I'm assuming you married the Polish pilot bot btw
― Guayaquil (eephus!), Thursday, 27 May 2021 18:39 (two years ago) link
met my current partner on this terrible app so it has that going for it
― mellon collie and the infinite bradness (BradNelson), Thursday, 27 May 2021 18:45 (two years ago) link
what does it mean when ppl say they were banned from the other apps? I've seen this a few times. the ppl in question don't appear to be fash or linking their onlyfans
― intern at pelican brief consulting (Simon H.), Thursday, 27 May 2021 19:10 (two years ago) link
I'm just swiping and reading profiles for the foreseeable tbh, more than anything I find it interesting to see how people use apps like this
― intern at pelican brief consulting (Simon H.), Thursday, 27 May 2021 19:13 (two years ago) link
Lmao. I don’t think I ever met that Polish pilot irl. My current wife is someone who was just a friend in those cold dark days of swiping around.
― treeship., Thursday, 27 May 2021 19:14 (two years ago) link
I was banned from tinder once for being too handsome, sweet and open. Hope this helps.
― treeship., Thursday, 27 May 2021 19:15 (two years ago) link
― intern at pelican brief consulting (Simon H.), Thursday, May 27, 2021 11:27 AM (forty-seven minutes ago) bookmarkflaglink
when my wife was trying to do femme for femme dating on tinder married people were a scourged because she'd swipe to some babe and often the other pictures would include the husband and the description would note they were looking for a third
― 《Myst1kOblivi0n》 (jim in vancouver), Thursday, 27 May 2021 19:16 (two years ago) link
the unicorn hunt is real
― intern at pelican brief consulting (Simon H.), Thursday, 27 May 2021 19:17 (two years ago) link
Polyamarous types are often looking to bring on a younger third, hoping that this youth will invigorate their relationship. They are like vampires in this way.
― treeship., Thursday, 27 May 2021 19:20 (two years ago) link
No judgment, i meant vampiric descriptively
Lmao. I don’t think I ever met that Polish pilot irl. My current wife is someone who was just a friend in those cold dark days of swiping around.― treeship., Thursday, May 27, 2021 2:14 PM (seven minutes ago) bookmarkflaglink
― treeship., Thursday, May 27, 2021 2:14 PM (seven minutes ago) bookmarkflaglink
Just out of curiosity do you introduce her to people as "my current wife"
― Guayaquil (eephus!), Thursday, 27 May 2021 19:23 (two years ago) link
No
― treeship., Thursday, 27 May 2021 19:24 (two years ago) link
Only wife, now and forever. I was following brad’s lead when they discussed their current partner.
― treeship., Thursday, 27 May 2021 19:25 (two years ago) link
i call mine wife number 2
― 《Myst1kOblivi0n》 (jim in vancouver), Thursday, 27 May 2021 19:26 (two years ago) link
I can only hear that in Kurt Wagner's voice
― intern at pelican brief consulting (Simon H.), Thursday, 27 May 2021 19:26 (two years ago) link