Why do people leave ILX for good?

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Ilx the new facebook

Steels all yr info doesnt let u close acct cant retrieve data they took from u welcum to web2.0

F# A# (∞), Wednesday, 8 August 2018 12:38 (five years ago) link

Steals even lol

F# A# (∞), Wednesday, 8 August 2018 12:38 (five years ago) link

I mean

Andrew Farrell, Wednesday, 8 August 2018 12:39 (five years ago) link

Plus, if C*lum ever goes into Politics...

Mark G, Wednesday, 8 August 2018 12:39 (five years ago) link

posting this is almost certainly a bad idea but i was going to post some variation on at it some point and i might as well do so now.

ten years or so ago i was a unitarian, and as a hippie-new-age church they had a section in the middle of the service where any member of the congregation could go up to the podium and talk about important things that were going on in their life.

there was one lady there, an absolutely sweet and wonderful lady. and she had a lot of problems. every week she would get up there for ten minutes and tell us about them. of course we all sympathized with her and wanted the best for her but, you know, i wouldn't dream of getting up there and talking about things that were happening to me, even if they seemed important. once my dog died and i got up there and said, literally, "my dog died" and sat back down. that was it. because as much as we all sympathized with her we were also, collectively, spending a lot of time and energy carrying her burdens, and while i was theoretically ok with that, i didn't really want to burden anybody else like that.

eventually a new pastor came in and got rid of that section and we never saw that lady again. i hope she's doing ok.

Arch Bacon (rushomancy), Wednesday, 8 August 2018 14:15 (five years ago) link

Normally I am in favour of suggesting that people in stories are secretly the teller, but in this case have you considered that yourself and the lady are actually: different people

Andrew Farrell, Wednesday, 8 August 2018 14:22 (five years ago) link

he was the dog u brute

dele alli my bookmarks (darraghmac), Wednesday, 8 August 2018 14:35 (five years ago) link

he was the dog u brute

dele alli my bookmarks (darraghmac), Wednesday, 8 August 2018 14:35 (five years ago) link

J - with all due respect your post read like unsolicited, unqualified psychiatric advice. Other than the closing line it was mean spirited and not up to you to define whether I feel worthless or not. As a long time depression sufferer and someone with bipolar, you should take a step back bud

Dreadnought of chicanery (Ross), Wednesday, 8 August 2018 14:37 (five years ago) link

Further more I know my worth and other posts otm-Ing the post is just sad. Thanks Adam for saying it upset you too

Dreadnought of chicanery (Ross), Wednesday, 8 August 2018 14:38 (five years ago) link

I know all-too-well how a wobbly frame of mind can make any old thing sound like an assault on oneself but it helps, I find, to be occasionally reminded that this is not always or even necessarily frequently the case.

Caddyshack III: Back to the Shack! (Old Lunch), Wednesday, 8 August 2018 14:44 (five years ago) link

stfu old lunch

dele alli my bookmarks (darraghmac), Wednesday, 8 August 2018 14:49 (five years ago) link

Anyway back to ilm for me, much comfier

Dreadnought of chicanery (Ross), Wednesday, 8 August 2018 14:51 (five years ago) link

veered on a predictable schedule between soliciting pity and validation to bolster your self-confidence, and acting out to provoke hostility that would confirm your self-judgments of worthlessness, then 'storming off'

mean spirited and not up to you to define whether I feel worthless or not.

As a long time depression sufferer and someone with bipolar, you should take a step back bud

Anyway back to ilm for me, much comfier

how dare you, j.

16, 35, DCP, Go! (sic), Wednesday, 8 August 2018 15:59 (five years ago) link

J. otm x1000

Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Wednesday, 8 August 2018 17:17 (five years ago) link

Fuck you enbb and old lunch

Also J you’re trash

Dreadnought of chicanery (Ross), Wednesday, 8 August 2018 19:12 (five years ago) link

All your posts are snarky, sarcastic and nihilistic

That’s to J

Dreadnought of chicanery (Ross), Wednesday, 8 August 2018 19:13 (five years ago) link

I would leave Ilx never to see your dumb mentally ill slandering ass again.

Dreadnought of chicanery (Ross), Wednesday, 8 August 2018 19:14 (five years ago) link

In fact I’m done, you’ve shamed me and I hope you never experience genuine problems cuz it seems like you’re clueless and out of touch with anything other than the tip of your dick. Mod delete my account I’m out

Dreadnought of chicanery (Ross), Wednesday, 8 August 2018 19:16 (five years ago) link

Peace ✌️

Fuck the cockfarmer J (Ross), Wednesday, 8 August 2018 19:22 (five years ago) link

this thread/title has proven very self demonstrating

aloha darkness my old friend (katherine), Wednesday, 8 August 2018 19:22 (five years ago) link

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a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 8 August 2018 19:27 (five years ago) link

there’s bullies here. I’m too old for this shit

Love to all the cool people

Fuck the cockfarmer J (Ross), Wednesday, 8 August 2018 19:32 (five years ago) link

thanks

frogbs, Wednesday, 8 August 2018 19:36 (five years ago) link

Ross, my post was an attempt to empathize with where you're at. I said nothing to warrant that response. You might consider that in light of the reactions you're seeing itt.

Caddyshack III: Back to the Shack! (Old Lunch), Wednesday, 8 August 2018 19:36 (five years ago) link

there’s bullies here. I’m too old for this shit

Love to all the cool people

― Fuck the cockfarmer J (Ross), Wednesday, August 8, 2018 2:32 PM (twelve minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

thanks

― frogbs, Wednesday, August 8, 2018 2:36 PM (eight minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

ok lol

The Desus & Mero Chain (upper mississippi sh@kedown), Wednesday, 8 August 2018 19:44 (five years ago) link

I don't know if there was a well-meaning message behind what j. wrote but the delivery of said message was completely fucking wretched

I know this is a messageboard and tone can be hard to suss out but, jesus christ

mh, Wednesday, 8 August 2018 19:48 (five years ago) link

ross is trying to protagonize every thread he is on in a way that seems unhealthy and should probably be temp-banned for his own good imo.

( ͡☉ ͜ʖ ͡☉) (jim in vancouver), Wednesday, 8 August 2018 19:50 (five years ago) link

and we used to actually bully on this website

( ͡☉ ͜ʖ ͡☉) (jim in vancouver), Wednesday, 8 August 2018 19:50 (five years ago) link

semi-regular reminder that ilx is a terrible place to work on one's mental health, which doesn't make it different from anywhere else on the internet.

call all destroyer, Wednesday, 8 August 2018 19:52 (five years ago) link

I'd never recommend it for anyone else, but getting really tweaked on caffeine and writing a long screed that completely misses the point in the conversation, only to never open that thread again is my horrible form of catharsis

now the cat's out of the bag

mh, Wednesday, 8 August 2018 19:53 (five years ago) link

xpost A terrible place in general, yes probably, but there are dedicated threads which are treated as safe spaces and can be genuinely helpful.

This, notably, is not one of those threads.

Caddyshack III: Back to the Shack! (Old Lunch), Wednesday, 8 August 2018 19:54 (five years ago) link

Is all of this happening on the secret messageboard because there is a lot of peoples' reactions here that is confusing.

Yerac, Wednesday, 8 August 2018 19:56 (five years ago) link

Also, I don't recall bullying on this website really. People seem a lot more aggro now. Except I know some of us used to follow orbit around saying "twoooooo weeks" after her posts and I think that scared her.

Yerac, Wednesday, 8 August 2018 19:59 (five years ago) link

Doing that to orbit was pretty mean

But I'm also clueless why ppl are upset here but I also have hardly posted in the last 5 years

homosexual II, Wednesday, 8 August 2018 20:11 (five years ago) link

Yeah, it's regretful now especially since it was supposed to be innocuous at first. It was so long ago I can't even remember much about her.

Yerac, Wednesday, 8 August 2018 20:15 (five years ago) link

there is a lot of peoples' reactions here that is confusing.

do you mean people's reactions to Ross' months of flying off the handle and wishing violence or death or illness on people, then saying "peace" afterwards, or do you mean Ross' reactions to people suggesting that he might be going through a tough time as evidenced by his actions

16, 35, DCP, Go! (sic), Wednesday, 8 August 2018 20:21 (five years ago) link

Is this happening on hidden threads? I've posted sparingly for a decade so maybe I am missing historical stuff.

Yerac, Wednesday, 8 August 2018 20:27 (five years ago) link

I'd never recommend it for anyone else, but getting really tweaked on caffeine and writing a long screed that completely misses the point in the conversation, only to never open that thread again is my horrible form of catharsis

now the cat's out of the bag

― mh, Wednesday, August 8, 2018 12:53 PM (thirty-six minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

hi there

( ͡☉ ͜ʖ ͡☉) (jim in vancouver), Wednesday, 8 August 2018 20:30 (five years ago) link

I'd never recommend it for anyone else, but getting really tweaked on caffeine and writing a long screed that completely misses the point in the conversation, only to never open that thread again is my horrible form of catharsis

now the cat's out of the bag

― mh, Wednesday, August 8, 2018 12:53 PM (thirty-six minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

ironically this is a great post

Listen to my homeboy Fantano (D-40), Wednesday, 8 August 2018 20:38 (five years ago) link

i haven't been around for 84 days and now i come back ... to this?

god this is sad

the late great, Wednesday, 8 August 2018 20:47 (five years ago) link

well, maybe if you were the punctual great.....

dele alli my bookmarks (darraghmac), Wednesday, 8 August 2018 20:51 (five years ago) link

doubt that helped, deems

rip van wanko, Wednesday, 8 August 2018 20:54 (five years ago) link

:-/

dele alli my bookmarks (darraghmac), Wednesday, 8 August 2018 20:56 (five years ago) link

should feel good that things go to shit in one's absence

for i, sock in enumerate (Sufjan Grafton), Wednesday, 8 August 2018 20:57 (five years ago) link

now save us, please

for i, sock in enumerate (Sufjan Grafton), Wednesday, 8 August 2018 20:58 (five years ago) link

I never wished death on anyone?
I’ve definitely been an asshole and I’m sorry for that.
As a former addict I did post while in frames of mind that were counterproductive to peace. Anyway I’m sorry for damage caused and yeah temp ban me or delete me, it’s cool

Fuck the cockfarmer J (Ross), Wednesday, 8 August 2018 21:01 (five years ago) link

Sorry old lunch I thought you called me wobbly lol
I misread you entirely. Owch. Easier to walk away now really

Ross, Wednesday, 8 August 2018 21:04 (five years ago) link

^^ round and round we go

the late great, Wednesday, 8 August 2018 21:05 (five years ago) link

I never wished death on anyone?

not since yesterday, anyway

honestly i wish anvils would drop on some of you spineless jelly fish fuckers

16, 35, DCP, Go! (sic), Wednesday, 8 August 2018 21:06 (five years ago) link


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