if its any consolation I too dgaf about the 1975 (this is based entirely on seeing them perform on SNL once)
― Οὖτις, Friday, 17 August 2018 15:43 (five years ago) link
I concur with bacon-loving brony-4-lyfe WGW.
― Melted Belts, Priced To Move (Old Lunch), Friday, 17 August 2018 15:44 (five years ago) link
because they're not random people from the internet (which is upsetting enough as it is). these people either are my actual colleagues or know my actual colleagues, and I either encounter them in real life or encounter people who know them in real life, and now an indeterminate amount of them are upset with me or think less of me
― aloha darkness my old friend (katherine), Friday, 17 August 2018 15:45 (five years ago) link
no one is upset with you bc you were indirectly called a troll
― princess of hell (BradNelson), Friday, 17 August 2018 15:47 (five years ago) link
katherine, I'd go out on a limb and suggest that anyone whose opinion of you is lowered as a result of whatever happened in the thread about the 1975s is maybe someone whose opinions are way too easily swayed by basically nothing and therefore suspect as a general thing.
― Melted Belts, Priced To Move (Old Lunch), Friday, 17 August 2018 15:48 (five years ago) link
this sure sounds like someone who is upset with me
Lmao at being accused of sea lioning bc I tried to engage a writer who posts on this board after their writing was posted to this thread ... Christ alive be more dramatic
― Listen to my homeboy Fantano (D-40), Friday, August 17, 2018 11:51 AM (thirty-one seconds ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
― aloha darkness my old friend (katherine), Friday, 17 August 2018 15:52 (five years ago) link
ok but what does that have to do with the repercussions of being called a troll
the thread is googleproofed, you can stop posting in it now
― princess of hell (BradNelson), Friday, 17 August 2018 15:53 (five years ago) link
those ARE the repercussions
― aloha darkness my old friend (katherine), Friday, 17 August 2018 15:53 (five years ago) link
I'd stop posting in it if people would stop bringing it up
― aloha darkness my old friend (katherine), Friday, 17 August 2018 15:54 (five years ago) link
That is not a response to either your article or Kevin’s remark, it is only the repercussions of your protracted shitfitalso that is deej
― jeremy cmbyn (wins), Friday, 17 August 2018 15:54 (five years ago) link
― aloha darkness my old friend (katherine), Friday, August 17, 2018 8:54 AM (twenty-four seconds ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
oh so the problem isn't your name, it's that you can't stop having this argument
― princess of hell (BradNelson), Friday, 17 August 2018 15:55 (five years ago) link
believe me, I would love if it stopped
― aloha darkness my old friend (katherine), Friday, 17 August 2018 15:55 (five years ago) link
that you don't want to have
in a thread you don't want to post in
deej cranking it up a notch while telling someone else to take it down a notch is a bad look, sure
― mh, Friday, 17 August 2018 15:56 (five years ago) link
I really don't understand why I'm the one who's being blamed for this when I didn't start it, didn't want it to happen, and would like nothing more for it to end
― aloha darkness my old friend (katherine), Friday, 17 August 2018 15:56 (five years ago) link
*than for it to end
― aloha darkness my old friend (katherine), Friday, 17 August 2018 15:57 (five years ago) link
i would like for it to end too. maybe you can help
― princess of hell (BradNelson), Friday, 17 August 2018 15:58 (five years ago) link
I gently suggest being willing to disengage.
xp
― Mario Meatwagon (Moodles), Friday, 17 August 2018 15:59 (five years ago) link
OK, anyone who posts below this line gets a month temp ban
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― 5th Ward Weeaboo (Whiney G. Weingarten), Friday, 17 August 2018 15:59 (five years ago) link
i'm happy to say that i'm confident not a single one of your colleagues in that thread thinks any less of you because you don't like the 1975
― J0rdan S., Friday, 17 August 2018 16:00 (five years ago) link
the "because" isn't what I'm concerned with
― aloha darkness my old friend (katherine), Friday, 17 August 2018 16:02 (five years ago) link
lop off the rest of the sentence then and i still think it's true!
― J0rdan S., Friday, 17 August 2018 16:03 (five years ago) link
like, if I did upset anybody I am sorry (I know "I'm sorry if I upset you" is considered shitty but in this case I genuinely do not know whether people are upset with me, who is and is not upset with me, and for what reason). it was not my intention at all, and I realize that "it was not my intention" is meaningless, but I'm sorry
― aloha darkness my old friend (katherine), Friday, 17 August 2018 16:04 (five years ago) link
I'd say to walk away. and I say this as someone who's been irritated by a couple work meetings with someone I am sure is acting in bad faith, but I just mentioned my feedback to the right people and I'm gonna forget about it because there's literally nothing I can do and no real effect on the rest of my work
it's the churn that looks bad, never engage with people making bad faith arguments and have faith in the people who aren't acting in bad faith. it's wrestling a pig, you're just going to end up looking silly and get covered in mud
― mh, Friday, 17 August 2018 16:04 (five years ago) link
Looking for bingeworthy shows to enjoy during my now-mandatory one-month ILX vacation, recommendations plz.
― Melted Belts, Priced To Move (Old Lunch), Friday, 17 August 2018 16:05 (five years ago) link
ilx the movie
― flaneur brayin (darraghmac), Friday, 17 August 2018 16:07 (five years ago) link
I guess I just don't understand why I'm the person who's most at fault here
― aloha darkness my old friend (katherine), Friday, 17 August 2018 16:07 (five years ago) link
Supergirl
― Οὖτις, Friday, 17 August 2018 16:07 (five years ago) link
im getting flashbacks here
― flaneur brayin (darraghmac), Friday, 17 August 2018 16:08 (five years ago) link
I don't know what that means.
― aloha darkness my old friend (katherine), Friday, 17 August 2018 16:09 (five years ago) link
you’re not at fault at all but right now it’s like picking at a wound, you gotta let it crust over imo
― illegal economic migration (Tracer Hand), Friday, 17 August 2018 16:10 (five years ago) link
but it would be better not to have the wound in the first place, and I don't understand how or why it happened
― aloha darkness my old friend (katherine), Friday, 17 August 2018 16:11 (five years ago) link
Maybe we should go over it
― jeremy cmbyn (wins), Friday, 17 August 2018 16:12 (five years ago) link
look, I'm sorry, OK?
― aloha darkness my old friend (katherine), Friday, 17 August 2018 16:12 (five years ago) link
xxxp you know sometimes even an unrelated post gives me PTSD to very old ilx posts that haunt my thoughts
― omar little, Friday, 17 August 2018 16:12 (five years ago) link
I'm sorry. I don't know what posts you mean, but whatever they are, I'm sorry.
i almost left this joint once after a sub-board mod implied that they'd creeped on me and used my ILX login email address to find me on other websites.
― omar little, Friday, 17 August 2018 16:14 (five years ago) link
I'm really sorry that happened to you
― aloha darkness my old friend (katherine), Friday, 17 August 2018 16:15 (five years ago) link
you dont appear to have done anything to be sorry about katherine!
i would just ignore any discussion of it from this point forward
i would doubt that any irl consequences follow from a posting of any of yr thoughts on a band but i defer to your judgement here tbh
you seem very well-thought of across the boards here and this spat is not goin to have changed that for 99% of posters if have thought?
there is certainly nothing to tale note of in deej or others disagreeing with an opinion of anybodys, whether they do so in stronger terms than one would wish is certainly par for the course
― flaneur brayin (darraghmac), Friday, 17 August 2018 16:19 (five years ago) link
eesh sorry to hear about that omar
― Trϵϵship, Friday, 17 August 2018 16:20 (five years ago) link
i was a bit...
https://i.imgur.com/PKhaoSw.gif
...for the rest of the day after that.
but i did stick around in the end for some reason i haven't figured out yet.
― omar little, Friday, 17 August 2018 16:21 (five years ago) link
xp-
but the evidence would seem to suggest the opposite. it very much seems plausible -- more plausible than the opposite -- that at least five to eight people are angry with me or think less of me or have problems with me or however you want to phrase it. (and again, that's just including people who post -- who knows how many people are reading or being told about it. there were a few things I saw that plausibly seemed like they could be subtweets.) like, the post I quoted above -- in what universe would someone read that and think that the person is OK with me? if you showed that to someone, with zero context, would the takeaway be "very well-thought of"?
― aloha darkness my old friend (katherine), Friday, 17 August 2018 16:30 (five years ago) link
like, I already worry tremendously about where I stand with basically everyone I encounter in my life, and historically have been blindsided to find out people have a problem with me when I had no idea. (this isn't always the case, of course, sometimes it's very clear that someone dislikes me. but there are few feelings shittier than learning that someone you thought was OK with you has not been OK with you for some time, and it happens a lot).
― aloha darkness my old friend (katherine), Friday, 17 August 2018 16:33 (five years ago) link
i think that you are reading far more into a very ordinary-seeming ilx discussion than might be wise
i dont say that to minimise in any way how you're feeling about it but genuinely this does not seem worth that level of thought, introspection or connection with any previous events
nb 5 to 8 ppl angry with me (and i think you may even be overestimating the numbers and the strength of feeling here) is what id call a p chill day ymmv
― flaneur brayin (darraghmac), Friday, 17 August 2018 16:37 (five years ago) link
I don't understand how things like "it is only the repercussions of your protracted shitfit" and "Christ alive be more dramatic" are meant to be read and not conclude that I have done something wrong in that person's eyes
― aloha darkness my old friend (katherine), Friday, 17 August 2018 16:38 (five years ago) link
ok
― flaneur brayin (darraghmac), Friday, 17 August 2018 16:40 (five years ago) link
I think in those cases it's less that you did anything wrong and more a matter of, I dunno, that person's poor upbringing or something.
― Melted Belts, Priced To Move (Old Lunch), Friday, 17 August 2018 16:41 (five years ago) link
I would suspect they would disagree that it is "their poor upbringing or something"
― aloha darkness my old friend (katherine), Friday, 17 August 2018 16:41 (five years ago) link
Their disagreement doesn't make it any less their problem, imo. The internet world is replete with people who can't accept that they don't know how to talk to other people like people.
― Melted Belts, Priced To Move (Old Lunch), Friday, 17 August 2018 16:46 (five years ago) link
Katherine, you sounded annoyed, initially, in that thread, but it now seems like you might be having a panic or anxiety attack which is causing you to over-emphasize what was said about you and the consequences and you’re starting to spiral pretty badly. I’m not saying this to belittle you, it just looks a lot like what I’ve seen in someone having severe anxiety. People piling on the discussion aren’t helping you disengage.
Is it possible a mod could just delete the initial quote-post and all posts referencing it in that 1975 thread?
― just1n3, Friday, 17 August 2018 16:46 (five years ago) link