Why do people leave ILX for good?

I didn’t post on this board whenever you are mentioning and do not regret this decision

time to cite Rashoman, I guess

― A is for (Aimless), Friday, August 17, 2018 5:17 PM (nine minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

that’s how I feel when the elders of ilx pretend they’ve got credibility as voices of moral responsibility

oh the wren oh the wren is the king of all birds

the elders dont talk to us directly anymore iirc

When I think of patriarchal dork bro reigns of terror I definitely envision ilx’s bisexual ringtone cru

lol

if we're talking about ilx history, I don't feel like D-40 has ganged up on other people so much as he's been ganged up on

Lol what is the bisexual ringtone cru?

Is that u and a cru?

that’s how I feel when the elders of ilx pretend they’ve got credibility as voices of moral responsibility

deej, I have just exactly as much credibility as each ilxor thinks I have earned and I have no control over that. I do have a voice here and I use it when where and as I please. as for pretense, I don't see where the fuck it comes in.

loving deej's gaslighting victim turn itt

confession: there are ~4 posters here ( I can't tell them apart) that I consider to be one monolithic writing team trying to work out a script an Inbetweeners revival. I usually skip over those posts because I feel like I am having a stroke trying to parse out what is going on.

anybody else going to go see Crazy Rich Asians tonight

God I hate Inbetweeners so much

i don't think there's a lot of inbetweeners dialogue up in here so much

lol

I like the Inbetweeners. I am saying this is sub-Inbetweeners. And I mean ilx, not just this thread.

Are you the guy that shit himself in class

I would love to see Crazy Rich Asians, but I am exhausted from living this week.

^yes

loving deej's gaslighting victim turn itt

― Roberto Spiralli, Friday, 17 August 2018 23:03 (twenty-four minutes ago) Permalink

Gaslighting now? Jesus

While It’s cool to watch ilx co opt the righteous language of abuse victims for arguments about a band on a music message board I have not actually been talking to Katherine for some time

??

what did I do now

nothing.

i feel like we should switch the discussion on this thread.

i left ilx because i was concerned about how much time i spent there and how hard it was to regulate my usage. i returned because i missed the sense of community and i do like some of the people who post here. also the idea of the board—a community of enthusiasts, sure, but also critics—is appealing, because so much online stuff is tribal and seems hostile to the critical mindset. the idea of ilx, to me, was the idea that people could have productive disagreements and also that the internet can be a forum for discussion.

this is seen even in just the layout. it's just text and your name. it's a messageboard for writers.

i don't feel overly proud of my posting history, honestly, because i can be kind of self-indulgent and impulsive. but compared to what the rest of the internet is (or has become) ilx is a kind of beacon of hope. i've had real discussions here that challenged me and that i have benefited from.

if, as a collective project, we could try to make this more about art and culture and criticism and less about personal beefs and zomg trump and other stuff that is rampant everywhere on the internet, i would like to be part of that collective project. i know i am guilty of posting about random news cycle bullshit more than most -- maybe more than anyone -- that's not the point. there are still interesting things posted on this board everyday -- perhaps more on ilm than ilx. (i've always been more an ilx poster bc i find it hard to keep up with the ilm crew and the rate at which they consume new music)

great posts Trϵϵship

the problem is that days like this make me want to talk about music less, not more, and definitely not here

yeah, i agree with you. if there are dynamics in the community that are alienating people with dissenting/alternate views--people who want to express a perspective rather than join a chorus--then that is going to eventually lead to the death of the board.

i'm not trying to call anyone out specifically i just feel like something went awry today and maybe it's worth thinking about if we want to keep ilx going

heh

the way thats phrased...

another thing that is alienating are all these cryptic fucking posts

it's just dmac's dry English wit

Katherine, see my post above. I usually don't even try to figure them out.

your post above is about seeing crazy rich asians so if that is some kind of message I have no idea what it is

I don't know which cryptic posts katherine is talking about 🤷‍♀️

It's the title of a movie

let's get dmac out of those wet clothes and into a dry English wit

the “the way that’s phrased...”. the way what’s phrased? what is being implied and at whose expense?

oh the one above it about how there are 4 posters or so (that I can't tell apart) that seem to be writing on spec for a juvenile british humor sitcom. And most of the posts are nonsensical. Like, I kind of get writing extra colloquially or absurdly but at a certain point no one is taking the time to read it.

i believe deems was commenting on treezy's use of "IF" we want to keep ilx going since it's not a given that we actually want to do that

ok I guess

a lot of what's posted on ilx is incomprehensible to me

I’m certainly trying to be less intelligible

I see, just, when everything sounds like some kind of free-floating zing that produces a certain chilling effect

lol

look guys

not being able to figure out a fairly basic trail of conversation aint a problem, as such

assuming as a default that this must be an attack on you personally is frankly a bit of a problem

it's almost as if ilx has a longstanding and insular culture and posting style that is often not immediately intelligible and takes time and practice to understand.

When darraghmac posts past 3 sentences and I can't understand it, I assume he's wasted or it's performance art. But I try not to feel irritated by it.

a substantial percentage of what has been said to or about me in the past 24 hours has been either an attack or in reference to one, so it isn’t an outlandish assumption

oh the one above it about how there are 4 posters or so (that I can't tell apart) that seem to be writing on spec for a juvenile british humor sitcom. And most of the posts are nonsensical. Like, I kind of get writing extra colloquially or absurdly but at a certain point no one is taking the time to read it.

― Yerac, Saturday, 18 August 2018 00:47 (nine minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

this is pretty unfriendly stuff, like

i dont feel either of us has earned this!

xp — I’m not irritated, more confused and unsure how to respond or what tone it is

kwtherine i get that

but if you get to the stage where all posters starg to look the same to you, and its all negative, theres not a lot can be done about that from my end is there

ive spent most of the day engaging with you fairly pleasantly imo, quite a bit of it on the history of flag posting, a favoured topic of mine. why youd then lump.me in with whatever cadre you blame for spoiling yr day, idk, but its not my issue tbh