Are You Fine?

Those things are true and will probably continue to be true for me except that I'm like a generation older than the millennial generation. But it's fine. I'm fine. This is all very fine, indeed.

It's kinda cool how people's expectations tend to slough off after a point. Like I can't even remember the last time my mom made an oblique reference to any theoretical kids that I will almost certainly not be fathering at this late stage. It's fine!

I didn't really turn "fine" until I learned how to accept that I was highly imperfect and I'll stay that way no matter what. Just getting through the day without major mishaps is as high as my ambition reaches these days.

I don't know who Alice Coltrate is.

The Yoko Oto of Jazz iirc

It's kinda cool how people's expectations tend to slough off after a point.

the entire problem is that mine don't

yeah, same

I have this high level of anxiety that keeps me motivated and working on projects and thinking, hey, I could still achieve one or more of those lofty dreams I have, sure, why not, but at the same time I have gotten much better at accepting that maybe I will actually just wind up continuing to work a series of boring jobs until I retire with nowhere near enough money to live off of. And that's fine.

Like my wants aren't quite so driven by expectation anymore.

"Don't worry about me. Are you okay?"

All. The. Time.

― I Never Promised You A Hose Harden (Eric H.)

This is the correct answer, because you are other people.

Anyone trying to tell you you're your own person is probably trying to sell you something.

I am finally fine after the worst 8 month period of my life. But I'm now at peace, can breathe, feels good

This is the correct answer, because you are other people.

you think you're you. you don't know who you are. you're not you. you're everyone else

<3 rvw

best to you BN, you are a great presence here

everyone posting itt is a great presence, i guess all of the shitheads are fine lol

Had a very tough year work-wise where I definitely wasn't fine for about 6 months or so, but somehow coped with it. Mainly by just keeping going without self-destructing or giving up - and I sought outside help.

As a result, I'm more confident now in my ability to deal with things when I'm not fine.

I sought outside help

i def need to do this even though i can't really afford to

F.I.N.E. / Aerosmith

Hot wax drippin'
Honey what do you say
I got a brand new record
That I gotta play
She says not now boy
But I did anyway
'Cause I'm ready, so ready
Lip smackin' paddy wackin'
Walkin' the street
I got a rag top chevy
Now I'm back on my feet
I get an EMHO woody
When I sit in the seat
'Cause I'm ready, so ready, yeah
I got a girlfriend with the hoochy-coochy eyes
'Cause in the pink she look so fine
She got the cracker jack now all I wants the prize, honey heh heh heh
I know these hookers down on forty-second street, but
Ill-gotten booty's not my style
I'll take a rain check 'til I get back on my feet, honey heh heh yeah
'Cause I'm
Alright

Whip crackin' floozy
Way outta control
She got a new kinda jelly
In her jelly roll
I got the right key baby
But the wrong keyhole
And I'm ready, so ready
I'm a red hot pistol
And I'm ready to fight
I'm a thirty eight special
On a Saturday night
I'm gonna kiss your boo-boo honey
Make it alright
'Cause I'm ready, so ready ooh

I got a cruiser with a bimbo on the dash
It kinda keeps my ass in line
One little french kiss honey that's my kinda trash, yeah
My brand new baby's lookin F-I-N-E, fine
The sun is shinin' every day
Ain't got no rubbers now it's rainin all the time, honey
But I'm
Alright

I feel like I'm hung up on the line
I'd die for you but we were partners in the crime
Everything about you is so F-I-N-E, fine
Let's put our clothes back on
And by the way girl
What's your name again, uh huh
Alright

Pitched my tent
In the pouring rain
I got a back seat lover
That's callin' my name
She gonna blow my cover
She's hot as a flame
But I'm ready, so ready, ow
I shove my tongue
Right between your cheeks
I haven't made love now
For twenty-five weeks
I hear that you're so tight
Your lovin' squeaks
And I'm ready, so ready
Yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah
Yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah

Tie yourself to the mast, my friend, and the storm will end

have not been fine since june but hoping to get back there this fall

often "i'm fine" is just a way of getting ppl to leave you alone, the most basic display of etiquette (in the "doing what somebody else wants as if you wanted to do it" sense)

as a dismissal of the interior and personal to reassure the public it's hard to beat. "everything's fine" is so ripe w irony, quelle chris & jean grae put out a record w that title this year and my friend socrates wrote a book by that title a few years back. it's quite "no surprises" but it's def a big mood rn

anyway I don't think "i'm fine" means much until it's not true

"I can't deny I'm paralysed from the inside
Everyday I wake to feel the same
And every time you ask me how I'm feeling
I just smile and tell you that I'm fine"

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lYcp1bUb4lU

recently obsessed with this Hazel English song, probably the most familiar encapsulation of what depression/anxiety actually feels like on an everyday level

I remember how you loved me
time was all we had until the day we said goodbye
and i remember EVERY MOMENT...

need another category for "I'm fine thanks to anti-anxiety meds"

yeah those help a lot but mostly to turn "complete and abject panic" to "dissatisfaction with my life." symptom not problem, not that I enjoy having the symptom around

yeah, I suppose ymmv, but I'm better off

I know you fine, but how you doin

are you fine? because you are a penalty imposed by judicial process upon a miscreant in the form of a financial transaction to their relative disadvantage

Lol

i drank from the fountains

^ fun fact, my 7th grade history teacher, accompanied by my middle school band director, played that song as the faculty act in the talent show one year.

two girls at my school preformed it at the talent show -- two years in a row

fine atm, food drop today - beer in the fridge. i'm a low stakes person when it comes to what makes my day alright

tomorrow who knows.

Is "fine" the only word that is used almost exclusively to mean something other than its actual primary definition?

White lies in general depend on saying something one does not genuinely think true.

Fucked Up
Insecure
Neurotic
Emotional

(thanks rehab)

surprised at how many people are registering as fine

It's an automatic response. How am I? I am fine. (Narrator: He wasn't fine.)

right i guess that’s already been discussed

The only ilxor who actually seems to be doing fine is darraghmac

he’s fine like when uk people say the weather is fine, i think

It's like there's this veneer over everything that looks and seems mostly fine but seemingly insignificant things will disturb the veneer and make it briefly billow up and I catch a glimpse underneath and hoo boy is it ever a mess under there, and the disturbance when it occurs reminds me of just how thin a sheath there is between fine and not fine, how fragile that membrane and how easily it can get shifted out of place or possibly torn away altogether. But then I calm down and breathe and remember that I'm being perhaps a tad melodramatic and overusing purple prose to describe relatively prosaic phenomena and I kinda shake my head and chuckle at the sweet sad folly of humankind and then the veneer flaps out madly and a pair of razor-sharp teeth sink into the back of my neck and drag me into the howling void beyond.

Just joshin'. But it feels like that could be a thing, sometimes. But no, really, I'm fine. Thank you for asking.

lol

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Xi8NvSetZc

I was such a stan for that song when it came out and so sure she was gonna be a big star. I'm sure my friends at the time did not think I was fine.

Soon as there are roses, I want no roses.
I want them only when there can't be any.
What should I do with the things, many,
On which, at will, any hand closes?

I never want the night except when dawn
Is making it melt into the gold and azure.
That of which my soul is unsure
Is what I must possess, that only.

For what?...If I knew that, I would not form
Verses to say I don't, even now, know it.
I have a soul that's poor and cold...
Ah, with what alms shall I warm her?...

I am fine.

fernando pessoa as guy who is fine

Don't worry about me. Are you okay? <--- this will always be my answer

I've never been better, am fine, not so fine and miserable simultaneously. Twas ever thus. It's like Vic Chesnutt sings:

I'm keeping it on the road
I'm keeping it on the road
Can't say I didn't rattle the load
But I'm keeping it on the road

I’m medium by dint of extremes balancing out, but at least there haven’t been so many low extremes lately! It’s been about a year since I last did anything really self-destructive, and I feel much more in control. Ditched ineffective publishing career at 29, and feeling much better having returned to uni to study child psychotherapy. It felt like an impossible sea change at the time, especially with no money, but good support and willpower won through. Oh and being in therapy for five years has gradually accumulated a great deal of good. If anyone is considering it but worried about the cost, I’d recommend looking around to see if any therapists keep open ‘low income’ slots, as many do.

As for self-expectations about all the other many dreams I’ve had, I’m trying to give phantasy some credit. Like, maybe imagining some of these things is a good enough placeholder for experiencing them, and maybe I can vicariously enjoy other outcomes through students, or indeed Gilmore Girls. (Though I’m not sure what that dream would be...I’ve probably wanted to run a hotel at some point)

Pessoa is the best.

ever since i came to accept that the apocalypse actually did happen in 2012 i've been... adequate

ty map <3

glad to be (virtually) around all you fine folks in this fucked up time <3