Where do y'all find out who's banned? Is there a thread with a list?
― The Silky Veils of Alfred (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Thursday, 20 September 2018 21:39 (five years ago) link
if I like someone, I... don't say things like that to them? why would I do that? if I feel positively about a person, why would I go out of my way to say something that paints them in a negative light and might make them feel bad?
this is kind of different, but have you ever run into a group of "friends" who do nothing but shit talk each other constantly? (i think this is also common in some families) like the style of humor and camaraderie they have is to constantly make jokes at the others' expense? but they seem to be buds all the same? i have no fucking clue how that works, and have never been a member of said friend circles because i can't handle getting made fun of constantly, but it is a very common thing. in the same way there is a style of conversing online that includes little jabs that cut sensitive people to the core but are seemingly unnoticeable to others.
― Karl Malone, Thursday, 20 September 2018 21:39 (five years ago) link
[Removed Illegal Link]
― Karl Malone, Thursday, 20 September 2018 21:40 (five years ago) link
uh, whoops. the illegal link is just the admin log (found by clicking "Boards" and then the admin log link)
KM, this is what I meant by "banter" upthread, feel like this stuff is endemic in the UK
― mfktz (Camaraderie at Arms Length), Thursday, 20 September 2018 21:43 (five years ago) link
everyone, it's just a message board
― flappy bird, Thursday, 20 September 2018 21:43 (five years ago) link
― The Silky Veils of Alfred (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn),
there's a newsletter but you got banned from it
― Trϵϵship, Thursday, 20 September 2018 21:44 (five years ago) link
haha
wow I've never looked at that, had no idea um certain people were banned or what for (Adam Bruneau?!)
― Οὖτις, Thursday, 20 September 2018 21:46 (five years ago) link
again, this seems to go beyond banter into outright hostility. if it was banter it wouldn’t be here
― aloha darkness my old friend (katherine), Thursday, 20 September 2018 21:46 (five years ago) link
Tuesday, September 11, 2018 10:02 PM Site Le Baton Rose (Turrican) has been banned permanently. 51'd
never forget
― Gibing The Amethyst (sic), Thursday, 20 September 2018 21:46 (five years ago) link
lol
― Οὖτις, Thursday, 20 September 2018 21:47 (five years ago) link
lmfao i didn't know he got banned
― flappy bird, Thursday, 20 September 2018 21:47 (five years ago) link
adam requested to be banned i think
― mark s, Thursday, 20 September 2018 21:47 (five years ago) link
here, I'm paying my dues
https://media.giphy.com/media/4oQUNivXOfvHi/giphy.gif
― The Silky Veils of Alfred (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Thursday, 20 September 2018 21:48 (five years ago) link
tbf, the whole point of this thread is to post things into a void that you think would go badly if you said them to people, not to go looking for mean things ppl thought were too harsh to say and guess that they were directed at you
yes, Bruneau asked to be banned
― Gibing The Amethyst (sic), Thursday, 20 September 2018 21:49 (five years ago) link
Yes. Step away from the computer
― flappy bird, Thursday, 20 September 2018 21:51 (five years ago) link
but it isn’t a void, if you want to post into a void there’s notepad or physical pen and paper. posting something in public means people can and will see it, and it doesn’t mean they can’t be hurt by it
― aloha darkness my old friend (katherine), Thursday, 20 September 2018 21:52 (five years ago) link
but this is literally ILX's safe space for posts you had second thoughts about but still want to post
― flappy bird, Thursday, 20 September 2018 21:54 (five years ago) link
how I generally use this thread, a couple of times a year:
- type something sarky into a thread- figure that it'll read as cunty to some ppl, rather than just goofing around- ctrl+a, ctrl+x, ctrl+h, ctrl+v here instead- close tab without posting
― Gibing The Amethyst (sic), Thursday, 20 September 2018 21:55 (five years ago) link
that safe space has actually moved over here: Posts you had second thought about and decided not to post on the "Posts you had second thought about and decided not to post - put them here" thread - put them here
― Karl Malone, Thursday, 20 September 2018 21:55 (five years ago) link
I mean we're all just words + usernames on here. Just don't look itt!
― flappy bird, Thursday, 20 September 2018 21:56 (five years ago) link
I treated this thread as:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B12eVCBbGsw
― The Silky Veils of Alfred (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Thursday, 20 September 2018 21:57 (five years ago) link
xxp I was thinking about that Karl and that thread is funny but might actually defeat the purpose of this thread until we need a third thread
xp yes
― flappy bird, Thursday, 20 September 2018 21:57 (five years ago) link
for approximately the sixteen billionth time, these aren’t words and usernames but in many cases people I know personally and in a couple cases work with
― aloha darkness my old friend (katherine), Thursday, 20 September 2018 21:57 (five years ago) link
when I met Adam Bruneau irl he pretended to not know what ILX was
― crüt, Thursday, 20 September 2018 21:59 (five years ago) link
I didn't know that, and also, Damn
― flappy bird, Thursday, 20 September 2018 22:00 (five years ago) link
xps so fuck them. they're assholes. you're not. don't allow them to have this power of you. easier said than done, i know.
― A True White Kid that can Jump (Granny Dainger), Thursday, 20 September 2018 22:00 (five years ago) link
I would do exactly the same thing if I met anyone I "know" from here out in the world.
― grawlix (unperson), Thursday, 20 September 2018 22:00 (five years ago) link
you guys are weird
if I met Alfred I would buy him a drink
― Οὖτις, Thursday, 20 September 2018 22:01 (five years ago) link
I had forgotten all about Moo Vaughn until seeing that admin board
― Dan S, Thursday, 20 September 2018 22:02 (five years ago) link
whatever purpose this thread serves, it's definitely not to lay on with really personal insults (esp if you supposedly like the person). and it's not a "void" b/c like... we're all ... here.honestly the conceit of fancying it a free zone for any sort of mean posting seems sorta beneath ilx. "oh sure, I mean, I *wrote* it, and posted it where you could see it... but, see, it was in the Doesn't Count thread, so it's like i *didn't* say it." we might as well just start letting people call "Opposite Day!" after the fact.
― |Restore| |Restart| |Quit| (Doctor Casino), Thursday, 20 September 2018 22:02 (five years ago) link
I'd let you buy me a drink.
I think unperson and Adam meant that they'd interact as if ILX didn't exist, which seems reasonable. I have a number of friends whom I've met thanks to ILX and if the board comes up at all it's tangential.
― The Silky Veils of Alfred (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Thursday, 20 September 2018 22:02 (five years ago) link
ILX can be and certainly has been a little rough and tumble, but it's just about the most cuddly interactive experience I've encountered on the internet. Like when I'm feeling too overly-sensitive to hang here, I know it's time for me to go offline altogether for a bit.
― I Don't Have Any Ears, I Am Positive (Old Lunch), Thursday, 20 September 2018 22:02 (five years ago) link
I only know 2 posters here and I knew them before I ever found ILX. different story
― flappy bird, Thursday, 20 September 2018 22:02 (five years ago) link
xp to DCagreed. it's the height of passive-aggressiveness.
― A True White Kid that can Jump (Granny Dainger), Thursday, 20 September 2018 22:03 (five years ago) link
Exactly. If you're out in the world and all you can think of to talk about is an internet message board, do you really belong out in the world?
― grawlix (unperson), Thursday, 20 September 2018 22:03 (five years ago) link
xposts
it's a void if you don't look at it! I have no idea what conversation was going on elsewhere that made you (accurately) deduce that unperson was talking about you here, but you don't have to look at this thread. if you're actively looking at it to see if anyone's saying unkind things about you, then it would be self-care to avoid it altogether.
unperson is often a total dick, and unapologetic about it as seen ^^, but him taking his dick-posting away from the other conversation is a deliberate attempt to de-escalate, not to provoke.
― Gibing The Amethyst (sic), Thursday, 20 September 2018 22:04 (five years ago) link
that's nonsense!
― |Restore| |Restart| |Quit| (Doctor Casino), Thursday, 20 September 2018 22:05 (five years ago) link
if I met Alfred I would buy him a drink― Οὖτις, Thursday, September 20, 2018 6:01 PM (one minute ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
― Οὖτις, Thursday, September 20, 2018 6:01 PM (one minute ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
yes
― flappy bird, Thursday, 20 September 2018 22:05 (five years ago) link
i don't know sic, this is the notorious passive-aggressive shit-talking thread, it's kind of weird to advise people not to look at it
― Karl Malone, Thursday, 20 September 2018 22:05 (five years ago) link
― flappy bird, Thursday, 20 September 2018 22:06 (five years ago) link
The joy and sorrow of this thread has always been that your controversial comments got if anything more attention than they would on the main thread.
― Trϵϵship, Thursday, 20 September 2018 22:06 (five years ago) link
It’s like the real life equivalent of standing up on a table to make your point
― Trϵϵship, Thursday, 20 September 2018 22:07 (five years ago) link
it's where you go when you want to escalate something and showcase it, all while maintaining the excuse that you were just trying to de-escalate it by hiding it on a separate thread
xpost
and the table is labeled "not a soapbox"
― Karl Malone, Thursday, 20 September 2018 22:09 (five years ago) link
if you want to de-escalate, don't post the mean thing at all. what, the rest of us are supposed to accept that there's an official Cool Kids Thread where everybody's saying mean shit about us, and look it's your OWN FAULT if you go and actually READ it? anyway there are a million *actual* voids you can go vent in if you want to de-escalate. you could do the abe lincoln thing of writing a strongly worded letter and then throw it in the fireplace. or txt your best friend about it. or go for a walk and yell at the ocean. all of these look a lot more like de-escalating to my eyes.
― |Restore| |Restart| |Quit| (Doctor Casino), Thursday, 20 September 2018 22:10 (five years ago) link
they'd interact as if ILX didn't exist, which seems reasonable.
ah ok n/m yeah that makes sense
― Οὖτις, Thursday, 20 September 2018 22:10 (five years ago) link
It’s gaslighting and that’s why bruneau was banned
― Trϵϵship, Thursday, 20 September 2018 22:11 (five years ago) link
I've met about a hundred ILX0rs IRL and even the terrible posters are mostly nice ppl
I guess a lot of ppl see it that way and a few use it that way, but it's just an oubliette if you leave the lid on
if you want to de-escalate, don't post the mean thing at all
talking about "by unperson standards" here
― Gibing The Amethyst (sic), Thursday, 20 September 2018 22:12 (five years ago) link
idk the whole thing, and the "look the internet's a rough place full of men being dicks, that's how it rolls so you gotta thicken your skin" advice, however well intentioned, just feels like a weird conscious or unconscious vestige of the zinging noize era. rather than taking it for granted that we already have one of the comparatively politest and productively discursive spaces around, we could ask, how can we do better? to be clear i'm sure i've been part of the problem too, maybe as recently as this week. there are whole threads of mine i'd really like to strike from the record. but there is still hope for this board!!
― |Restore| |Restart| |Quit| (Doctor Casino), Thursday, 20 September 2018 22:13 (five years ago) link
Ideas for ILX: a site-wide 24-hour lockout for anybody who replies to any post itt
― Gibing The Amethyst (sic), Thursday, 20 September 2018 22:14 (five years ago) link