Why do people leave ILX for good?

FWIW I'm glad your voice has rejoined the chorus.

that's a wise observation mh -- i know the feeling of being stuck in a mode and losing the ability to effectively code switch (the partial anhedonia of perpetually stilted conversation otm, like being around strangers all the time and always on guard --> feeling super blank)
glad you have reset!

makes me think the problem with social media is it puts an unmanageably large number of people in a coworker-like social space: constant proximity but no real closeness

that's part of why I wandered off for a while this year. lost a few of the real life situations where I've been able to candidly be *me* and I have too many situations where "coworker voice" is the norm. in lieu of those outlets, my online persona, as it is, became some exaggerated version of my inner voice where the ability to be candid was overriding my ability to actually be interesting.

the worst part was realizing all of my offline conversations, with few exceptions, were all coming out in coworker voice. lost the ability to code-switch and everything was just flat. the partial anhedonia of perpetually stilted conversation

― mh, Monday, November 26, 2018 2:29 PM (eight minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

hmm this had never occurred to me, but yeah i know what you mean

thanks for touching base mh

that is such a good way of putting it.

I think I get why ppl leave ilxor for good but this is very nearly the only internet I actually like anymore and sometimes ppl smile at my posts so that’s why I stay fwiw

I've actually started to gravitate towards Reddit lately if you can believe that. If you ignore the fact they have toxic pockets theres actually some good/funny reading to be had in the TV show chats and things like legaladvice and "lol internet" subs like insanepeopleoffacebook and such.

I'm a bit over participating on the internet. Ive said all I need to say online over the last almost 20 years, and I'm a boring, middle aged stepmom now. NO one cares what I think. I'l happily read stuff from others though.

at this point I think of Facebook as an interactive RSS feed for updates from bands I like and publications I read, occasionally interspersed with good #content from friends and some adverts. But it's easy enough to block your LADbibles and whatever.

ILX has generally healthy and respectful debate - if I post something and it's nonsense and poorly thought out etc the rebuke tends to be more "nah I think you are wrong and here is why" as opposed to "you are an idiot what is wrong with you?"

more cultural setbacks for momus:
https://pbs.twimg.com/media/Ds9163yVAAAXl_x.jpg

The people have spoken!

Momus eh

Is that a literal, actual instance of hey you kids get offa my lawn? Or a tongue-in-cheeky commentary on the phenomenon? Can't tell.

is it just me or is posting volume in precipitous decline

its our post retirement phase i think we should enjoy it

like, after fours hours off ilx, the last thread I read will be 1/3 the way down on sna, so I click it expecting to see a handful of new answers except THERE ARE NO NEW ANSWERS

Xp

ILX has moved to Florida

People seem to congregate in a few big threads and not really post in others (I read most things on SNA, but I like where I like ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ and don’t have a view on some other stuff, pretty normal I’d say)

honestly twitter has sort of ruined me in terms of the constant churn micro-fascination hit i'm looking for any given second

i feel much less inclined to post here, even on things that interest me greatly. just imagine i was going thru hitting the heart button on a bunch of your posts. i miss the narrower and more established community and longer post length here but the energy isn't there to post, myself, for a bunch of reasons. (tho i did go on at length about RDR2 didn't i)

I miss you.

seconded

it's best when there's some event or common interest to actively discuss. The 120 songs under 120 seconds poll has been a lifesaver this past week.

yes

Nothing wrong with short posts. I encourage anyone with the energy to write three or more paragraphs at a time during a work day to continue doing so of course but I think quippy discussions on here are grand

anyway despite years of ilx-is-dying hysteria and specific user such as imago still posting there's still some life. I'm doing my part by starting threads about things that people don't want to talk about very much and I encourage everyone to do so

never trust a thread over 50 posts

― milton parker (Jon L), Tuesday, May 23, 2006

This is such a buoyant and optimistic take that I can cheerfully overlook the slight on my partner. I still find miles more of interest through ILX than any other internet platform.

xp

I would never leave ilx because of specific user such as imago, I think he's a good poster

Aaw! I like his posts about food

lol without LJ this domain would be available thru godaddy

and yet still no site modship

not until you learn discipline

I'm a bit over participating on the internet. Ive said all I need to say online over the last almost 20 years, and I'm a boring, middle aged stepmom now. NO one cares what I think. I'l happily read stuff from others though.

― Stoop Crone (Trayce)

i am also boring and middle aged and i think this pretty much sums up where i'm at too. well said!

lj is posting as he has always done

tt you may not have read the poll results

ilx is pretty much the last public place on the internet i like and i will continue to make empty threads for emo albums until someone stops me

It's like he's the winner of the end of year poll! xp

Brad, direct me to all your empty emo threads and I will fill them with superlatives.

somewhere i have a mix of 'songs brad has at one time or another thought were the most beautiful in the world' and it is v. good so yeah kiu pls

feels like no one is making much effort on ile, ilm still great tho

"i miss the narrower and more established community"

it's not what it used to be, that's for sure. the high school days of ilx are over. but it still beats every other place online imo, there are still a lot of great posters. and lj should be mod, yes.

the heck

although I forget if forks is a mod, and if so, I should have moved my plans around over the weekend so I could have met up and slipped him that envelope of cash and sb recommendations

and bought some pottery. dude has some really good work these days

i do like ilx and i'm sad to see all the boards going the way of de subjectivisten and aeon flux top level

i should probably get out more and find more friends though, the internet in general is not really a good thing

truth be told i'm just as likely to learn to write in dutch

brad rules plz never leave

otm and soto too

borad rules plz never leave

i like ilx for nerding out about stuff no-one irl cares about, like pink floyd or whatever dumb podcast i like now or that one book i cant stop talking about

i also like it for politics, not to participate but reading takes from ppl here is a bit better than the swirling twitter toilet of opinion, though to be fair both have their good & bad days

seconded on brad and alfred

I've burned out somewhat on the US politics threads. I agree with pretty much everything posted in those, but thinking about it every day is not good for my mental health

ilx film and music threads are still interesting to me