Is it common once you've reached your forties to basically no longer GAF about having reached your forties
it depends on your social life/lifestyle ... I'm about half way through my 40s and I generally don't GAF, but sometimes I'm out somewhere, and I'm talking to a friend or a member of the desired sex, and the fact that I am much older than that person, like, I got my driver's license the year they were born, or I could have gone to high school with their parents ... it can be a bit awkward
― sarahell, Wednesday, 28 November 2018 19:45 (five years ago) link
I turned 40 this year but I've been going grey since I was 15 so not much has changed from getting older.
― Yerac, Wednesday, 28 November 2018 19:47 (five years ago) link
I really want to grow out my hair so it's all white but I think I would have to shave my head first.
― Yerac, Wednesday, 28 November 2018 19:49 (five years ago) link
ageism is rampant and more or less sanctioned afaicti refuse to impose it on myself so i try to feel as good as i can about my age, which is >40
― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Wednesday, 28 November 2018 19:50 (five years ago) link
I'm 44 and I get one or two gray hairs a month ... I pluck them ... it's probably partly why ppl tend to think I'm younger than I am
― sarahell, Wednesday, 28 November 2018 19:52 (five years ago) link
i am a spazz and sometimes like to just sprint like i'm running a receiver route or something, but when my says "GO!!" by body says, let's just not
wow 44 is late to start going gray
― itsabot! (rip van wanko), Wednesday, 28 November 2018 19:53 (five years ago) link
I think I am pretty much 80-85% grey but I have really dark hair and it's long so it would all have to go at once.
― Yerac, Wednesday, 28 November 2018 19:55 (five years ago) link
also just that socially, I think people tend to assume/want it to be the case that the people they socialize with are like them -- with similarities in age being part of that. For me, it's not a case of being "old" = "bad" but that there is a difference as opposed to a similarity. I see the same thing play out with economic class and it used to be this way re race, though people are now way more conscientious of race issues.
― sarahell, Wednesday, 28 November 2018 19:56 (five years ago) link
Maybe if I was like a skateboarder or something and started feeling my knees give out it would be a big deal, but I can still sit around and do nothing of consequence with just as much alacrity as I could in decades past.
I play a lot of basketball and am better than I was when I was 20, though prob not quite as quick. Can actually jump lil higher tho. Older guys I've played with say 50 is when they really started feeling like their body was betraying them.
― A True White Kid that can Jump (Granny Dainger), Wednesday, 28 November 2018 19:59 (five years ago) link
6 months to go.
― Hey Bob (Scik Mouthy), Wednesday, 28 November 2018 19:59 (five years ago) link
xpost one of the things i like about big cities is age matters less socially. I find it difficult to figure out how old someone is and for the most part people don't really care.
― Yerac, Wednesday, 28 November 2018 20:00 (five years ago) link
yeah, I like the fact that my urban social community has a wide difference in ages -- it is like a multi-generational family in that way -- but in specific instances it can be awkward, like when you are 44 and a dude hits on you and says he is 24 ... do you have mommy issues or ....?
― sarahell, Wednesday, 28 November 2018 20:04 (five years ago) link
i laughed when i found out i was the same age as my new colleague's parents.
― Toss another shrimpl air on the bbqbbq (ledge), Wednesday, 28 November 2018 20:08 (five years ago) link
I know what you mean but in the small towns I've been living in last few years (hefty population of transplants, so wanting to connect with new people), a lot of the clubs and meetups and art/music/etc events attract all ages. Simply because there is a limited number of people and events. Can't have a over 50 art club for Methodist Veterans or whatever but can have a general Art Club and oh hey I've never actually done art but am I retiree in a new town and it'd be fun to give art a try and I bet they're not too serious about it here and are eager for new members and hmm isn't that the 20 yr old tatted-up artsy barrista from the corner shop over there at an easel?
― A True White Kid that can Jump (Granny Dainger), Wednesday, 28 November 2018 20:09 (five years ago) link
When I first started consciously feeling / realizing I was older than the people around me, I had the tendency to bring up age in conversation. But no one really cares. It’s really not a big deal unless you make it a big deal. Now when I overhear older people talking about how old they are to younger people - especially in an attempt to be funny- I just smh
― calstars, Wednesday, 28 November 2018 20:16 (five years ago) link
otm
― itsabot! (rip van wanko), Wednesday, 28 November 2018 20:17 (five years ago) link
the tendency to bring up age in conversation
rn, in my mid-60s, I bring up my age only in the context of telling younger people that I am less energetic than I was ten years ago and cannot do the same amount of tasks in a day. I'm entering the period in life when my limits are more easily reached and my main goal is to keep that trajectory to a gentle glide rather than a steep descent. So far, so good.
― A is for (Aimless), Wednesday, 28 November 2018 20:24 (five years ago) link
nothing makes me feel older than being confronted with the appalling ignorance of the young (usually about history, or pre-smartphone existence or how the government works or who Orson Welles or Kraftwerk are)
― Οὖτις, Wednesday, 28 November 2018 20:28 (five years ago) link
i bring it up mostly in the context of trying to be supportive or assuage anxiety in younger friends ... like, it's okay that you're in this position now, you shouldn't feel like a failure at life, you've still got a lot of it left
― sarahell, Wednesday, 28 November 2018 20:28 (five years ago) link
in other words, "don't feel like a fuck up. I was a much bigger fuck up when I was yr age, and now I'm awesome" or so they think
― sarahell, Wednesday, 28 November 2018 20:29 (five years ago) link
i don't mind being my age, but i do get a little freaked out by stuff like 'oh, cool song, i remember when that came out 35 years ago. and 35 years before *that* they were playing polka on the radio'
― mookieproof, Wednesday, 28 November 2018 20:33 (five years ago) link
My forties have been absolutely shit so far and this year doesn't look like it's going to be any better.
― Colonel Poo, Saturday, 30 December 2017 17:34 Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
well that certainly turned out to be the case
― Colonel Poo, Wednesday, 28 November 2018 20:33 (five years ago) link
^^ same
recently i was chatting with a person i knew was my junior (but not by how much) about van halen and i was like "yeah i never really got into them" and he posited "i think you needed to grow up in the 80s to be able to enjoy them" and i felt compelled to -- and did lightheartedly -- tell this person that i did grow up in the 80s, i just thought van halen were dumb and gross. it was funny. he may have been surprised that i am older than he thought but it was not a huge thing. just a little lol at van halen's expense.
i always choose not to feel bad about being older than other people. as for young people not knowing stuff, i like being useful and i am a teacher so it's not an affront when students don't know who jimi hendrix is. i can teach them. that is my job. :)
― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Wednesday, 28 November 2018 20:35 (five years ago) link
oops that same was to sarahell i was indeed a much bigger fuckup than most of the young people i encounter these days
― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Wednesday, 28 November 2018 20:36 (five years ago) link
also they don't even teach kids how sex works in school, it's no surprise they don't understand state legislatures
― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Wednesday, 28 November 2018 20:37 (five years ago) link
also stuff like the cost of housing where I live and the cost of higher education/student loan debt -- younger ppl have it harder than I did.
― sarahell, Wednesday, 28 November 2018 20:39 (five years ago) link
I just feel awkward about it, like uh oh am I doing the cranky old white male mansplaining thing by telling you about how important Kraftwerk were in the development of that shitty electronic dance music you like so much
also I am not a teacher tbf
xp
― Οὖτις, Wednesday, 28 November 2018 20:40 (five years ago) link
just be cool manthey can google kraftwerk, they don't need you
my only moment of that feeling was when i was at a show organized by some very young people and i said something about Can and they were like who's that and i wigged and excitedly told them about Can...and then maybe a day or two later I realized they may have been just fucking with me and they wanted to see the old lady wig out and i felt stupid. but whatever. so i feel stupid? i can't let that bother me. i didn't hurt anyone. i just wigged about Can. that's human.
― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Wednesday, 28 November 2018 20:43 (five years ago) link
what's Can
― I have measured out my life in coffee shop loyalty cards (silby), Wednesday, 28 November 2018 20:44 (five years ago) link
Can is a bandGoogle "can band"
― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Wednesday, 28 November 2018 20:45 (five years ago) link
see how cool i was that time
Suzi Quatro's side project.
― Chequers Plays Pop (snoball), Wednesday, 28 November 2018 20:45 (five years ago) link
they are a band who had a song called Can Can. google "can can can" if you want to know more
― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Wednesday, 28 November 2018 20:46 (five years ago) link
I think it's cooler when ppl excitedly explain to me the things I don't know about than when they ask me to look it up
― I have measured out my life in coffee shop loyalty cards (silby), Wednesday, 28 November 2018 20:46 (five years ago) link
fwiw
keep telling ppl about bands LL it's good
― I have measured out my life in coffee shop loyalty cards (silby), Wednesday, 28 November 2018 20:47 (five years ago) link
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d65oQPTYI4o
^these vids friggin blew my mind
― A True White Kid that can Jump (Granny Dainger), Wednesday, 28 November 2018 20:47 (five years ago) link
yeah me tooi just had this terrible feeling that they did know and they were laughing at me while i was being happy and excitedthat's just mean
― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Wednesday, 28 November 2018 20:48 (five years ago) link
I had this weird job once setting up 4merican 4pparel stores on the east coast and The Clash came on the soundsystem and a worker asked me who it was. I gave a quick summary (punk, London, 70s/early 80s), and she said "oh, like The Beatles." I just nodded.
― Yerac, Wednesday, 28 November 2018 20:49 (five years ago) link
aw, that's tender. i love teaching young people about music.it's literally part of my job!! having students who are a blank slate and willing to listen >>>>> students who think they know everything and test you just to be assholes
― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Wednesday, 28 November 2018 20:51 (five years ago) link
I'm just gonna tell every kid I meet that I'm Damo Suzuki
― itsabot! (rip van wanko), Wednesday, 28 November 2018 21:15 (five years ago) link
the kids in that video actually knew more than I expected! interesting to hear all the off-the-wall ways they came in contact with some of these songs (Perks of Being a Wallflower soundtrack, Jonas Brothers cover, Just Dance).
― evol j, Wednesday, 28 November 2018 21:20 (five years ago) link
the title -- DO TEENS KNOW 80s MUSIC? (REACT: Do They Know It?) -- almost seems like a deliberate Bojack parody (Hollywoo Stars and Celebrities: What Do They Know? Do They Know Things?? Let's Find Out!)
― evol j, Wednesday, 28 November 2018 21:21 (five years ago) link
Not surprisingly, all the featured teens in the video are vivacious and good-looking. Therefore, a representative sample of "TEENS" who might "KNOW 80s MUSIC".
― A is for (Aimless), Wednesday, 28 November 2018 21:24 (five years ago) link
doing karaoke with young people (late 20s/early 30s) is a trip!
― sarahell, Wednesday, 28 November 2018 21:25 (five years ago) link
i'm told that the kids are into 'frasier' now; this is where they lost me
― mookieproof, Wednesday, 28 November 2018 21:26 (five years ago) link
karaoke is where you really see generational differences re music nostalgia
― sarahell, Wednesday, 28 November 2018 21:27 (five years ago) link
Apparently "Friends" is a thing with the kids today. My partner teaches high school English, and her students bring it up often (with the occasional "were the '90s really like that?" question).
― Montgomery Burns' Jazz (Tarfumes The Escape Goat), Wednesday, 28 November 2018 21:30 (five years ago) link
Still think Frasier's boilerplate "overheard / misunderstood" plot is just Three's Company with better vocabulary and actors.
― the body of a spider... (scampering alpaca), Wednesday, 28 November 2018 21:30 (five years ago) link
yeah, in grad school, we had to write a script for an episode of Frasier, and it was pretty much that
― sarahell, Wednesday, 28 November 2018 21:31 (five years ago) link
I refuse to countenance the idea that Kelsey of the Dark Secrets Grammar is a better comic actor than John Ritter
― Οὖτις, Wednesday, 28 November 2018 21:31 (five years ago) link