This is the thread where we judge other people's parenting

that road seems a little unsafe to walk along for 5 miles in the half-light

wonder where she could have learned to be a bully

lol

btw the woman ref'd way upthread that hating pregnancy/babies and married a Star Trek LARPER is now a divorced single mom because the LARPER cheated on her and is moving to Arizona to be an actor. :( so now my judgment has been transformed into simple pity.

People who are already stressed out and their marriage crumbling after child #1 should not try for #2 in the vague hope it will somehow fix things.

So many parents failed to dress their kids for a field trip to a muddy farm in 45 degree weather and I am judging. There are kids in t shirts and shorts with no socks. And apparently no one ate enough breakfast either.

Xpost do idiots like these exist? I mean srsly.

I see parents bringing their kids to school in the freezing drizzle in winter here, and the kids are wearing shorts while their parents are wearing several layers of insulation.

My wife, who has our children wear longjohns if the temperature drops below 20°c, has to be persuaded not to tell them off in the street.

It is very possible that this is the result of a long negotation between kid and parent where the kid is like "It's not cold out, I don't want to wear a coat" and the parent ls like "it's 40 degrees and drizzly, you need a coat" and finally the compromise is that the kid goes to school with a coat stuffed in their backpack, the coat never leaves the backpack, other parents silently judge

I have a friend, who is me, who that happens to every day

I am pretty ok with kids wearing lighter clothing than what other parents would demand. My 14 yo didn’t want to wear a jacket the other day. She’s rarely cold.

It snowed here last night and I had to explain to my almost five year old in great detail exactly why he couldn't wear shorts and a t-shirt to preschool today.

One of my kids hates wearing jackets too. To his credit he never comes home and complains that he was cold all day.

I try to think, what would I wear if I were going for a run? Because they’re moving so much. I’m frequently the picker-up and carrier of the coat when we’re out.

I hate wearing jackets, coats, long sleeves in general, so I am sympathetic with your kids. I dress the same whether it's 100F or 45F : long pants, short sleeves. colder than 45 F, I'll reluctantly go for long sleeves or maybe still short sleeves + a jacket, because it may be cold outside but it'll be hot inside (in buildings, on trains + buses) and I'll be inside more than outside, plus once I'm outside for like 10 minutes I'll be hot and sweaty even if it's freezing outside.

my boy is like me but my girls are not.

I judge the writer of this letter. They can fuck right off.
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/nov/16/a-letter-to-our-neighbours-with-a-baby

Haha, as a doting parent i wholeheartedly concur. Not certain how I would have responded back when I was a single child free antinatalist but I don't think I'd have been much more sympathetic. Why didn't they move their bedroom?

depends on the house doesn't it. all of our rooms share a wall with at least one neighbour. ofc everyone should be as considerate as possible but if you don't want to hear other people buy a detached house in the middle of nowhere

seething with hatred at your neighbours for three years but doing nothing to mitigate the problem and not saying anything to them = real england

some of the parents of my daughter's friends let them stay home from school "just because." which i was never allowed to do and none of my friends were allowed to do. you should at least have to learn how to fake being sick imo. then you're developing a skill.

but it is annoying because we don't let our daughter miss school without a good reason so she whines about how her friends can take days off and she can't

one of the families, the mom has weird work hours so i think some of the "just because" days are so she can have time with the kid, which i understand. the other family that does it just spoils the hell out of their kid and so i judge their parenting

We get the attendance committee on our asses every year and we only keep our kids home when they are actually sick. Don't know how these scofflaws get away with it.

yeah you would get booted out of your spot at school if you tried this in SF

schools in CA have their budgets approved based on student attendance!

My mum used to let me take a couple days off a year. She would have been beyond pissed if i had faked sick tho.

Honestly, I don't see a problem with it. One of my kids is very introverted and shes in middle school. I can see how being around that many people in a social setting exhausts her. Its all over her face. If she asks for the rare day off I'm inclined to say yes.

Here's where I judge my own parenting:

I realized a couple of months ago that my children DON'T KNOW HOW TO CROSS A STREET. They're 10 and 13. WTF.