Is the Guardian worse than it used to be?

WTF is all this wedding present bollox

I wouldn't buy anyone a wedding present

the fact that you turn up is enough

caught in the middle of a order of service turf war between grooms father (anglican vicar) and bride's family (major, major papists)

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I'm going to be the one lone voice of dissent here, aren't I?

Screaming for the long term and never going to be anything but single demographic - "WHY THE FUCK SHOULD I BUY YOU STUFF JUST COZ YOU ARE GETTING MARRIED?!?!?"

I think this is what is being objected to in the first place, rather than the actual wedding list itself.

Yes, it's sour grapes and selfish etc. etc. "I'm never going to get to have a day when I throw a giant party and demand that all my friends buy me stuff as a consolation prize, blah blah etc."

Fortunately, the few of my friends that have got married and actually invited me did manage to live with my just turning up and not actually punching anyone.

But then again, I hate presents, I hate fun, I hate Christmas and birthdays and everything else.

see Pinefox's post above MB...

"WHY THE FUCK SHOULD I BUY YOU STUFF JUST COZ YOU ARE GETTING MARRIED?!?!?"

Because they're your friends and you're happy for them and it's a nice thing to do?

i would have guessed the pinefox is a fan of the wedding present?

Oh, but i'm not happy for them. Inside, I'm seething with anger and jealousy and a cauldron of bad things and really want to tell them SUCKER!!!! YOU FELL FOR THE OLDEST TRICK OF THE PATRIARCHY!!!! but, erm, my real friends, like I said, settle for me turning up and not punching anyone.

WHY THE FUCK SHOULD I GIVE YOU A CARD JUST COZ IT'S YOUR BIRTHDAY?!?!? etc etc

WHY SHOULD I CELEBRATE YOUR BIRTH?

I can't really remember/couldn't really care which people bought us a wedding present or not but I wd feel a right git going to a wedding and not turning up with something, however token it might be.

To be egalitarian, everybody gets born. Not everybody gets married. What do you want, a cookie? Wait, no, I'd give a cookie. Just not spoons. Ha.

i'd rather get a cookie than spoons - sounds like we're on to a winning thing here

It's the enforced nature of it that bugs me. Buy us a pressie even though we are salaried homeowners with more stuff than we need already! Or feel bad for the rest of your life!

For most weddings I've been to lately I suspect the cost of actually inviting me to the wedding, feeding me and giving me free booze for much of the evening significantly outweighs the cost of even the most expensive present on the list.

It's not a particularly onerous task to turn up with something to show you give a shit.

We had a wedding list at Debenhams, it was mostly cheap stuff like toaster, kettles, a blender (which we did actually use once I think). Some people got us stuff, some people didn't, we were just happy people came. It just makes things easier for everybody! There's no obligation! I hate buying picking out presents for people so I'm all for them, really.

Pretty sure no-one is forcing any of you miserable gits to buy anything, tbh.

^^^

Altho next time I get married I might put a "PS I COULDN'T GIVE A TOSS WHETHER YOU BUY SOMETHING OR NOT SO DON'T HAVE SLEEPLESS NIGHTS" clause on the invite.

i have yet to attend a wedding that had a list (iirc)

Altho next time I get married

Noodle Gabor more like

A list is meant to help people who want to buy a gift, it's not a series of demands.

I've not been to a wedding for a few years, and last time I did I was Best Man, so they gave ME a present, but in the past I've not been able to afford a present really. We did buy one couple a present because we COULDN'T attend.

Em and I have decided to get married, but it's just gonna be a register office job, family meal, and then all down the pub afterwards. I don't think we'll have a gift list. People can give us money if they really want.

Most, if not all, weddings I have been to have said on the invite something along the lines of "buy us a gift if you feel like it", as the Colonel says above that's hardly emotional blackmail or anything.

Although Tanya Gold should obv have her invite rescinded and be cast into the outer darkness.

I generally prefer to find ways to show people that I care about them without gross displays of materialism. And vice versa.

Luckily, most of the people I'm actually close enough to for them to invite me to their weddings feel the same way. (I hope)

I do actually kinda feel the same way about birthdays, as well. What I'd like best from people involves their time and their attention, not their money. My favourite birthday "gifts" have been when friends are all "why don't you come round my house and I'll cook you dinner?" or we take each other out for dinner or something. Because it's not the money involved, it's the fact that they care enough about me to spend a couple of hours eating and talking with me. And that's my favourite way to show friends that I care about them, too.

Yeah that's better, it's still a present though!

it's just gonna be a register office job, family meal, and then all down the pub afterwards. I don't think we'll have a gift list. People can give us money if they really want.

Damn straight. I've been with my current partner for 7 years. We already have mountains of useless crap accrued from distant relatives at various Christmases etc including kettles, toasters, toasted sandwich makers, Foreman grills, slow cookers (2), and, my personal fave, a device for simplifying the cooking of spaghetti (as if this wasn't straightforward enough). We could start multiple homes to be honest.

Labour MP: Guardian is worse than it used to be

what would tom watson look like with a scarf on?

MP using winky face emoticon feels wrong for some reason

"it's for a duckhouse ;-)"

Hmm. I hate to say it, but respect to both Rusbridger and Do ... er, Tom Watson for the way each of them handled that.

Re: TG, I'm deeply suspicious of these awful straw-man dinner parties that only seem to exist in broadsheet columns and sub-Mike Leigh comedy-dramas. Even if they are as bad as she suggests, perhaps she should turn down such invitations or find new friends rather than indulging in phony epater-le-bourgeoisie posturing.

then what would she write about?

Why does no one invite me to their dinner parties? by Tanya Gold.

Picnics; a pathetic exercise in al fresco exhibitionism by Tanya Gold.

Why do I imagine anyone gives a shit what I think about anything? by *fill in g2 hack of your choice*

Predictable:

http://www.guardian.co.uk/theguardian/2009/jun/15/defence-wedding-gift-lists

And the humiliation of taking a dozen nasty cut-glass whisky tumblers to Selfridges to exchange them only to be told: "I'm sorry, madam, but this design was discontinued eight years ago," cannot be underestimated.

Can't imagine anything worse, tbh.

Why have all these Femail journalists suddenly started turning up in The Guardian? Have rates been cut in Kensington or raised in Farringdon?

http://www.guardian.co.uk/media/2009/jun/15/charlotte-jones-complaint-comic-jon-henley

lol at even 8-year-olds zinging the guardian but really, this is sub-student paper shit.

Wedding Lists? "Boring".

Small child on the money.

I dunno. Maybe getting 8yos to edit papers is the way forward.

There was some godawful fucking jism in the Nobserver at the weekend that I nearly posted on here for shits and giggles, but really: it was so fucking dreadful I couldn't be arsed. What the fuck was it again?

Oh aye, it was this. Over-inflated sense of own importance much, Polly? (And I say that as a non-parent.)

And not only that she wrote the same thing in February.
http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2009/feb/08/motherhood-children-babies1

She really is quite poor.

Ooops, I didn't read past the first few sentences - I see she says that herself. Way to earn yer fee then Polly.

Must have had another pregnancy scare.

Jeezus "I Hate Babies" is one of the all time challops classics for scumbags and morons.

Yeh, but it takes a special kind of cock-drip to twist it into "I hate babies: pity me, for I am socially superior".

I have a feeling that if PV's friends give her grief all the time, it's not just because she doesn't have children.

Maybe going round your friends' houses and shrieking and jumping on a chair like the woman in Tom and Jerry every time a kid gets near you doesn't endear either.

guardian assholes removing themselves from the gene pool should be celebrated surely?

Yeh, but you just know she's going to hit 40 and then decide she's got a god-given fucking right to fertility treatment on the NHS.

In a series of blowing minds pieces for the Graun.