― Orbit (Orbit), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 07:37 (twenty years ago) link
― Nick Southall (Nick Southall), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 07:41 (twenty years ago) link
― Archel (Archel), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 08:16 (twenty years ago) link
(Well not :( cos they are great but I suspect strongo has explored this option as fully as he wants to)
― Tico Tico (Tico Tico), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 08:20 (twenty years ago) link
i don't have any real problem talking to people - yesterday I nearly tripped and killed myself, laughed about it with a girl who was sitting where I tripped, and made small talk for five minutes - its just that i have no idea how to extend this small talk into something uh organic without asking for phone numbers and looking like i'm trying to pick people up. also, i do not like ingratiating myself into conversations or situations because i know how often i myself like to be left alone while in public.''
Jess is ME or something. this thread is like looking into a mirror. I like the advice diamond and millar give but i don't drink or smoke. (At least you posted a thread abt it whereas i prob wouldn't).
And look at it this way: at least jess knows more abt pop kulcha. I mean, i don't even know much abt that so its not like i have much of a starting point as far as talking to people.
― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 08:39 (twenty years ago) link
― gareth (gareth), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 08:54 (twenty years ago) link
― Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 08:57 (twenty years ago) link
Another way to make friends is to not take any advice Gareth has ever given you, by the way all of his advice seems to turn out!!! Whatever Gareth advises me to do from now on, I will do the exact opposite.
― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 12:48 (twenty years ago) link
― gareth (gareth), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 12:57 (twenty years ago) link
― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 13:05 (twenty years ago) link
― Larcole (Nicole), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 13:38 (twenty years ago) link
― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 13:40 (twenty years ago) link
― Ned Raggett (Ned), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 13:40 (twenty years ago) link
― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 13:41 (twenty years ago) link
― Larcole (Nicole), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 13:43 (twenty years ago) link
― Ned Raggett (Ned), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 13:47 (twenty years ago) link
Next!
― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 13:47 (twenty years ago) link
― Ned Raggett (Ned), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 13:52 (twenty years ago) link
― Ally (mlescaut), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 13:53 (twenty years ago) link
― Ned Raggett (Ned), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 13:54 (twenty years ago) link
Whatever you do, be proactive in doing it. It doesn't have to be you walking up to strangers and trying to start conversations; if you do something that isn't entirely solitary you *will* come into contact with other, probably like-minded, people.
Think of it like looking for a job. If you don't write application letters, ring contacts, etc., something *might* fall in your lap, but it ain't likely. If you start searching, things happen, even if they're not what you're expecting.
― Mark C (Mark C), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 14:06 (twenty years ago) link
― Sarah (starry), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 14:11 (twenty years ago) link
― Mary (Mary), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 15:10 (twenty years ago) link
― bnw (bnw), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 15:55 (twenty years ago) link
― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 16:00 (twenty years ago) link
― Paul Eater (eater), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 17:09 (twenty years ago) link
DJ STRONGO COMIN THRU!!
YOU KNOW HOW WE DO!!
*KA-BOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOM*
― strongo hulkington (dubplatestyle), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 17:21 (twenty years ago) link
never say i dont know how to pander to an audience
― strongo hulkington (dubplatestyle), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 17:24 (twenty years ago) link
― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 17:25 (twenty years ago) link
OH NO! NEW SHIT! PETER BROTZMANN FEAT. REDMAN!
*KA-BOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOM*
― strongo hulkington (dubplatestyle), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 17:29 (twenty years ago) link
― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 17:33 (twenty years ago) link
― strongo hulkington (dubplatestyle), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 17:38 (twenty years ago) link
― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 17:41 (twenty years ago) link
― Sarah (starry), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 18:27 (twenty years ago) link
― Ronan (Ronan), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 18:32 (twenty years ago) link
and then show them my willie
― strongo hulkington (dubplatestyle), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 19:44 (twenty years ago) link
― bnw (bnw), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 19:48 (twenty years ago) link
― strongo hulkington (dubplatestyle), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 19:56 (twenty years ago) link
― daria g (daria g), Thursday, 24 July 2003 00:00 (twenty years ago) link
― daria g (daria g), Thursday, 24 July 2003 00:01 (twenty years ago) link
― felicity (felicity), Thursday, 24 July 2003 01:02 (twenty years ago) link
― strongo hulkington (dubplatestyle), Monday, 16 February 2004 03:39 (twenty years ago) link
― the surface noise (electricsound), Monday, 16 February 2004 03:47 (twenty years ago) link
ew, who actually makes new friends at bars? isnt it implied that if ppl are talking to you they want to get nakey w/ u ?
― Vic (Vic), Monday, 6 September 2004 02:52 (nineteen years ago) link
― Sexual Air Supply (Autumn Almanac), Monday, 6 September 2004 02:55 (nineteen years ago) link
― Harold Media (kenan), Monday, 6 September 2004 02:59 (nineteen years ago) link
there should be a corresponding thread of how to GET PERMANENTLY RID OF PEOPLE YOU KEEP TRYING TO AVOID, especially if THEY HAVE BOTH YOUR CELL AND HOME PHONE #S. But otherwise, on this topic - yeah, as cynical as it sounds, I'm finding as I go thru life, that having a common hate - especially if it's of another person - is a great way to bond with people, and get closer to them.
― Vic (Vic), Monday, 6 September 2004 03:13 (nineteen years ago) link
Haven't had too much luck in my area after 11 years, sadly. Despite my relatively eclectic interests I fear I don't have that magnetic/memorable quality that makes someone wonder what I'm up to today, and social media sickens me (partly because it just motivates me to have pity parties like this). So a bit out of sight out of mind by default, and now pandemic limits ambitions considerably unless I want to engage in some major cognitive dissonance. I just want to have lots of friends to jam and game with. By the way, after being here the exact same amount of time I've honestly not totally felt part of the ilx clique either. So that being said, maybe I can improve. How is everyone doing?
― Evan, Monday, 28 September 2020 14:34 (three years ago) link
A pandemic does makes things more difficult. My own experience on making irl friends in later life is that voluntary or community activity is probably the only reliable route, for me at least.
Cliques in general are probably not worth the price of entry in terms of effort and commitment balanced against the payoff of belonging (not sure whether there is an ilx clique in practice however).
― Luna Schlosser, Monday, 28 September 2020 16:42 (three years ago) link