ADMIN LOG WATCH 2

I think it’s a very human thing to do. People care about their reputations. And also this is the very thing someone did yesterday that led to their feelings being hurt.

learned today that shit talk and gossip are natural things humans need to survive as social creatures but searching your name to see if people shit talked or gossiped about you is bizarre and deviant behavior

this whole thing is so stupid

humans are self absorbed, exhausting people, what else is new.

I don't see why searching for yr dn is weird. I do it every so often to see if someone responded to me directly in a thread and I missed it. Like there are reasons to do so beyond mere self-absorption.

start a thread about it.

1.the URL was posted early on and according to ... more ilx searching than many people would want to do:

https://poxyfule.slack.com/

2. how someone gets invited or added to it -- idk

3. someone who is clear on how someone can be added or invited to it should say something now, otherwise I am going to exercise some mod powers that show up in the Admin Log and this thread will be recursive lol

I mean, I agree that people should have a place to talk about others, blow off steam, whatever. But having it be easily discoverable seems kind of careless. There are some fragile people out here on the ilxes.

Like if i was a student and had my friends over every night to swap stories about how annoying one of our classmates was, and then invited that classmate to one of these gatherings, that would suck. If he felt awkward or hurt by the discussion, it’s not his fault for having accepted the invitation.

thank you ILXOR Dan I.

Not that it matters, as back channels have back channels

not sure how often this needs to be repeated but the issue isn't the slack's discoverability, it's that a specific ilxor decided to act out a grudge against another ilxor by repeatedly drawing negative attention to the slack in such a way that a third ilxor (entirely unrelated to the beef in question) was drawn to look and got badly hurt

the specific ilxor exactly wanted something like this to happen and didn't give a tiny fvck abt the consequences to many others (including the third ilxor)

the specific ilxor is someone i've always got on with and in the past have had no personal issue with but they were absolutely and consciusly and deliberately stirring and got all this -- which is what they wanted -- as a way of "winning" an argument where they had in fact been the primary misbehaver

searching your name to see if people shit talked or gossiped about you is bizarre and deviant behavior

I think it's less bizarre and deviant than shit-talking people in closed environments, me

The world is clearly divided into gossip tops and gossip bottoms and neither side will ever understand each other

“Bizarre and deviant” is really intense language, further stigmatizing the outcast

“Why do u care what ppl say brah?” Piling insult on top of injury. I’ve seen this

I don’t want to stigmatize the gossipers either. I just think it should be locked down. Full disclosure I’ve gotten wind of other stuff said in the slack about people I like and it just wasn’t stuff I or they should have heard. You keep the burn book under lock and key—that’s the kind thing to do.

i think x was making fun of something when using that language. who knows. read more closely into it though.

you do understand i wasn't actually calling that bizarre and deviant behavior, i do it every time i'm added to a chat

yes xp

Oh that was an ironic post

I thought it was someone else being quoted. My fault.

ah ok lol @ ✖

i am simply being catty

The issue is we need a scapegoat and then we can just light the pyre and go home

i think this is probably exactly the wrong time and exactly the wrong thread to post the link to the slack again fwiw

if ppl really want to join constructively that’s fine but someone has already joined with a handle “go fuck yourselves” and their profile description says they will “bring you immense pain”

not exactly the greatest thing to read in a place where some people have posted pics of their children and others have discussed grieving, depression and addiction

damn, guess they shouldn't have also used it to coordinate bullying on ilxor.com

Jesus

It seems like tracer is otm. People should try to let this drop.

and people somehow don't understand why a lot of people, especially women, don't want to post on ilx now.

believe it or not but talking about ilx itself constitutes maybe 1-2% of the slack, though frankly it almost feels like i should be using the past tense here

i gave the specific grudge-holding ilxor a lot of benefit of the doubt but it really is hard to avoid concluding that they “blew up our spot” purely out of revenge for being called out on poisonous behaviour

to be fair, ILX used to be so much bitchier out in the open. i participated in that and think much of my behavior was bad, so i am in no position to condemn anyone participating in a Slack i was unaware of. i am sorry Neanderthal discovered comments he was never meant to and also dismayed to discover it’s all a result of Zach TBD’s anger at gyac? mostly because i like all those people. i don’t exactly know why i feel compelled to post in this thread…but i do

to be fair, ILX used to be so much bitchier out in the open

horseshoe otm

ok I searched my name ... kinda what I expected or nothing I was really shocked by based on memories of the threads that were being discussed. ... some ilxors like me as a person, some ilxors like me as a person and a poster, some think that I'm annoying ... oh well.

Wtf guys?

I don't really like Slack, can somebody who's already on it just search for my name and tell me who hates me on there and why

please never tell me who hates me or why

i don't think horses should have to wear shoes

no offense i regret saying anything

No one hates you, hs, we only love you and miss you madly.

well now it looks like I was fishing <3

Fish away, I will take the bait xoxoxoxo

i recommend not searching one's name on the slack. i wish i had not.

you never know though. you, reader, might find people like you.

everyone likes me, that's just science and common sense

i have not and never will check it but am p confident only the worst posters on this board post on the slack

thats right

don't let the haters get to you treezy

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thank you nice sitewide mod for deleting the link that should not be there for posterity

t/s: finding out people are talking shit about me on the slack vs. finding out no one has ever bothered to talk shit about me on the slack

lol

thanks for your post on the “fuck this site” thread gyac, I found it illuminating. I hope your husband recovers swiftly and for fucks sake let’s be good to each other, this is the only social site I can stand and you’re all fascinating people with taste (good or otherwise).

thank you, I appreciate that.

There is one channel on the slack where some of the members including me complain and laugh and take the piss out of ilx posters and posts that grind our gears

God knows how many other places on the internet or in real life people do same

i would hope that the number of people who post on a message board dedicated to privately complaining about posts on another plain-text message board (which itself contains multiple threads and entire boards dedicated to such) is small. also hope that they seek help