nice to hear from you, onimo! the good days are indeed the bestso sorry about yr loss, emil.y.
― broccoli rabe thomas (the table is the table), Saturday, 2 July 2022 13:05 (one year ago) link
Here's to more good days than bad onimo, but wishing you strength for all the shitty ones.
And bigger than usual hugs to you emily, I'm sorry to hear that <3
― o shit the sheriff (NickB), Saturday, 2 July 2022 13:34 (one year ago) link
very sorry to hear about your loss, emil.y.
great to hear from you as always onimo and wishing you the best.
― Doop Snogg (Neanderthal), Saturday, 2 July 2022 14:21 (one year ago) link
Sorry to hear about your friend, Emily, take care.
― ailsa, Saturday, 2 July 2022 17:41 (one year ago) link
Good to hear from you Onimo.
Sorry for your loss, Emily.
― xyzzzz__, Saturday, 2 July 2022 17:43 (one year ago) link
We were at the hospital today and the latest scan shows my brain tumour is stable and there has been no growth for 6+ months, which is great news. it.
― Change display name in my last (onimo), Monday, 11 July 2022 15:04 (one year ago) link
Indeed, so wonderful! May it continue to be great news for sure.
― Ned Raggett, Monday, 11 July 2022 15:05 (one year ago) link
glad to hear onimo!
― We were clothed, except for Caan, who was naked. Don't know why. (Neanderthal), Monday, 11 July 2022 15:05 (one year ago) link
Very happy to hear the good news, onimo. Be well.
― Am I doomposting? I would say you’re not doomposting enough. (PBKR), Monday, 11 July 2022 15:13 (one year ago) link
Excellent news, onimo! Hope it continues, or as Ned said :-)
― broccoli rabe thomas (the table is the table), Monday, 11 July 2022 15:47 (one year ago) link
so delighted to read this!
― mark s, Monday, 11 July 2022 16:10 (one year ago) link
Great news!
― DJI, Monday, 11 July 2022 16:18 (one year ago) link
Fantastic news, onimo! Hope the news continues to be good and the good days get more and more plentiful. Wishing you all the best.
(Sorry for your loss, emil.y)
― a passing spacecadet, Monday, 11 July 2022 22:25 (one year ago) link
This is great news! Keep on truckin' onimo!
― o shit the sheriff (NickB), Tuesday, 12 July 2022 06:12 (one year ago) link
so good, onimo. I hope your strength continues for what must be a hard-fought recovery - and that your remission lasts forever.
― assert (matttkkkk), Tuesday, 12 July 2022 06:30 (one year ago) link
Well, it has been a good 30something years with these breasts. Seriously, I was blessed with a really great rack. ILXors I have met IRL can vouch for this (in the “in clothes” sense, of course—get your minds out of the gutter!). Bilateral mastectomy on Monday. Thanks, cancer!
― mom tossed in kimchee (quincie), Saturday, 16 July 2022 04:07 (one year ago) link
bye quincies boobs :( fuck u cancer u jerk
― terminators of endearment (VegemiteGrrl), Saturday, 16 July 2022 04:33 (one year ago) link
shit, well I hope it's a complete success
― assert (matttkkkk), Saturday, 16 July 2022 06:12 (one year ago) link
quincie good luck and if you accept hugs from strangers on the internet, big hugs from me
― o shit the sheriff (NickB), Saturday, 16 July 2022 06:15 (one year ago) link
Good luck, quincie. Hope everything goes well.
― doomposting is the new composting (PBKR), Saturday, 16 July 2022 11:27 (one year ago) link
big hugs to you, quincie
― broccoli rabe thomas (the table is the table), Saturday, 16 July 2022 11:33 (one year ago) link
Damn, Quincie. Hope everything works out for the best!
― put a VONC on it (suzy), Saturday, 16 July 2022 11:39 (one year ago) link
quincie good luck
― Change display name in my last (onimo), Saturday, 16 July 2022 14:28 (one year ago) link
Best wishes quincie
― We were clothed, except for Caan, who was naked. Don't know why. (Neanderthal), Saturday, 16 July 2022 16:54 (one year ago) link
Sorry quincie, i hope so deeply that it takes all cancer away.
― Warning: Choking Hazard (Hunt3r), Saturday, 16 July 2022 20:18 (one year ago) link
Good luck, quincie - best wishes for a successful operation and a swift recovery
― a passing spacecadet, Saturday, 16 July 2022 20:23 (one year ago) link
Good luck, quincie.
― xyzzzz__, Saturday, 16 July 2022 21:07 (one year ago) link
Good luck.
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Saturday, 16 July 2022 21:09 (one year ago) link
Aw shit, quincie. fFuck cancer that fucking fuck
― Jaq, Saturday, 16 July 2022 21:48 (one year ago) link
Good luck, but sorry you’re having to deal with this.
― DJI, Sunday, 17 July 2022 01:28 (one year ago) link
quincie, when you can, let us know how yr doing!
I had what amounts to my three-year blood draws today, and still NO EVIDENCE OF DISEASE :-)
The doctor was also surprised by how fit I was.
Some bright in the dark, there.
― broccoli rabe thomas (the table is the table), Friday, 22 July 2022 16:12 (one year ago) link
Excellent news, table.
― DJI, Friday, 22 July 2022 16:29 (one year ago) link
that's good to hear, table!
quincie, best of luck in your recovery <3
― Bruce Stingbean (Karl Malone), Friday, 22 July 2022 17:00 (one year ago) link
Thank you! I am 4 days post-double mastectomy and doing well. I’m honestly experiencing significantly less discomfort than with my laparoscopic knee surgeries! And best of all I found out that my lymph node biopsies were all clear!!!! This is extremely good news and may even mean that I get to dodge radiation and/or chemo. I wasn’t interested in implants, so I am sporting a very artfully executed “aesthetic flat closure.” It’s an odd feeling, but not a bad one, after carrying around DDs for a long time.
― mom tossed in kimchee (quincie), Friday, 22 July 2022 17:22 (one year ago) link
Tabes big congrats on NED. Such a good feeling.
― mom tossed in kimchee (quincie), Friday, 22 July 2022 17:24 (one year ago) link
that's wonderful news on the lymph node biopsies!!
― Bruce Stingbean (Karl Malone), Friday, 22 July 2022 17:40 (one year ago) link
Glad to hear good news quincie and tabes.
― doomposting is the new composting (PBKR), Friday, 22 July 2022 17:43 (one year ago) link
loving these updates for both of you A great news quincie & tabes!! <3
― terminators of endearment (VegemiteGrrl), Friday, 22 July 2022 19:25 (one year ago) link
great news, both, very happy to learn it!
― Warning: Choking Hazard (Hunt3r), Friday, 22 July 2022 22:12 (one year ago) link
Big love to quince + tabes <3<3<3
― o shit the sheriff (NickB), Friday, 22 July 2022 23:21 (one year ago) link
Amem!
― dow, Friday, 22 July 2022 23:53 (one year ago) link
Not a deliberate typo, sorry. <3<3<3 indeed!!!
― dow, Friday, 22 July 2022 23:55 (one year ago) link
Great to hear, quincie! may your recovery continue to go smoothly <3
― broccoli rabe thomas (the table is the table), Saturday, 23 July 2022 15:37 (one year ago) link
Wonderful news to all who are free of this!
― xyzzzz__, Saturday, 23 July 2022 15:42 (one year ago) link
All cheers, no jeers! Happy for you both. I wish you peace and belonging in your new and changing bodies/meat suits.
― Ima Gardener (in orbit), Saturday, 23 July 2022 15:53 (one year ago) link
what they don't tell you top of cancer
every single problem keeps going in top of it
― Change display name in my last (onimo), Monday, 1 August 2022 21:08 (one year ago) link
That was my experience, too. I have a longer thing to write but will wait until I’m not in rural Maine to do so.
― broccoli rabe thomas (the table is the table), Friday, 5 August 2022 20:28 (one year ago) link
Rural Maine Summer, alright! Hope you're enjoying it, tables.
― dow, Friday, 5 August 2022 20:31 (one year ago) link
Tabes big congrats on NED.
Indeed uh wait I may be mistaken. Belated best to you and quincie for sure!
― Ned Raggett, Friday, 5 August 2022 22:20 (one year ago) link
Lol.
The trip in Maine was lovely, of course, but also weighed down with a load of awful circumstances. Like last year, we were going up to help my oldest friend and her partner fix up this small house overlooking the water. It's a dreamy spot next to a very swimmable cove, etc.
Issue was that her parents were nearby this year, and her mom had just been diagnosed with kidney cancer...meanwhile, her dad is slowly slipping away from himself due to dementia. Her mom is a fierce and intelligent woman who now treats her gentle and oft-confused husband like shit, particularly now that he keeps forgetting why she's upset or what her diagnosis is, etc. It's an awful situation, and while her mom was off for medical exams in Boston for most of the week, we hung around with her dad a lot— he's lovely and kind and very funny, and really thrives on human interaction. I am scared that he will slip further away when my friend goes back to her life in LA, and so she is now considering staying there. It's all so complicated and shitty.
What this has to do with what onimo wrote: cancer really does become one's life, and everything else comes on top of dealing with it, even if one is NED or hasn't had symptoms for years. The above situation is a perfect example: I understand my friend's mom's frustration, but also know that she should be treating her husband better than she is, and that some of what is happening is happening simply because she knows that she can't count on him to be totally understanding of the support she needs.
― broccoli rabe thomas (the table is the table), Tuesday, 9 August 2022 15:05 (one year ago) link