loving these updates for both of you A great news quincie & tabes!! <3
― terminators of endearment (VegemiteGrrl), Friday, 22 July 2022 19:25 (one year ago) link
great news, both, very happy to learn it!
― Warning: Choking Hazard (Hunt3r), Friday, 22 July 2022 22:12 (one year ago) link
Big love to quince + tabes <3<3<3
― o shit the sheriff (NickB), Friday, 22 July 2022 23:21 (one year ago) link
Amem!
― dow, Friday, 22 July 2022 23:53 (one year ago) link
Not a deliberate typo, sorry. <3<3<3 indeed!!!
― dow, Friday, 22 July 2022 23:55 (one year ago) link
Great to hear, quincie! may your recovery continue to go smoothly <3
― broccoli rabe thomas (the table is the table), Saturday, 23 July 2022 15:37 (one year ago) link
Wonderful news to all who are free of this!
― xyzzzz__, Saturday, 23 July 2022 15:42 (one year ago) link
All cheers, no jeers! Happy for you both. I wish you peace and belonging in your new and changing bodies/meat suits.
― Ima Gardener (in orbit), Saturday, 23 July 2022 15:53 (one year ago) link
what they don't tell you top of cancer
every single problem keeps going in top of it
― Change display name in my last (onimo), Monday, 1 August 2022 21:08 (one year ago) link
That was my experience, too. I have a longer thing to write but will wait until I’m not in rural Maine to do so.
― broccoli rabe thomas (the table is the table), Friday, 5 August 2022 20:28 (one year ago) link
Rural Maine Summer, alright! Hope you're enjoying it, tables.
― dow, Friday, 5 August 2022 20:31 (one year ago) link
Tabes big congrats on NED.
Indeed uh wait I may be mistaken. Belated best to you and quincie for sure!
― Ned Raggett, Friday, 5 August 2022 22:20 (one year ago) link
Lol.
The trip in Maine was lovely, of course, but also weighed down with a load of awful circumstances. Like last year, we were going up to help my oldest friend and her partner fix up this small house overlooking the water. It's a dreamy spot next to a very swimmable cove, etc.
Issue was that her parents were nearby this year, and her mom had just been diagnosed with kidney cancer...meanwhile, her dad is slowly slipping away from himself due to dementia. Her mom is a fierce and intelligent woman who now treats her gentle and oft-confused husband like shit, particularly now that he keeps forgetting why she's upset or what her diagnosis is, etc. It's an awful situation, and while her mom was off for medical exams in Boston for most of the week, we hung around with her dad a lot— he's lovely and kind and very funny, and really thrives on human interaction. I am scared that he will slip further away when my friend goes back to her life in LA, and so she is now considering staying there. It's all so complicated and shitty.
What this has to do with what onimo wrote: cancer really does become one's life, and everything else comes on top of dealing with it, even if one is NED or hasn't had symptoms for years. The above situation is a perfect example: I understand my friend's mom's frustration, but also know that she should be treating her husband better than she is, and that some of what is happening is happening simply because she knows that she can't count on him to be totally understanding of the support she needs.
― broccoli rabe thomas (the table is the table), Tuesday, 9 August 2022 15:05 (one year ago) link
Welp, "further scans needed" because of a "possible new tumor" on my/around my lower pelvic bone, very small (4mm) but still there, apparently. Fwiw this is what scans are for— to catch things before they become bigger problems. I go to the gym three days a week, and bicycle 50+ miles a week. I feel fine!
But jfc, I am SO FUCKING OVER THIS SHIT.
― broccoli rabe thomas (the table is the table), Saturday, 3 September 2022 14:38 (one year ago) link
Aw tabes :(. Fuck. Hoping it turns out to be benign or nothing, but I know you don't need this worry and stress
― and the worms, they entered his ass (Neanderthal), Saturday, 3 September 2022 14:56 (one year ago) link
Fucking hell. Hugs, tabes.
― Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Saturday, 3 September 2022 14:57 (one year ago) link
I’m sorry Table, that’s crap news. :(
― Karl Malone, Saturday, 3 September 2022 15:06 (one year ago) link
ugh that sucks tabes :(
― terminators of endearment (VegemiteGrrl), Saturday, 3 September 2022 15:48 (one year ago) link
f cancer as ever
― Change display name in my last (onimo), Saturday, 3 September 2022 16:42 (one year ago) link
Oh, no, not again! Good luck.
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Saturday, 3 September 2022 17:02 (one year ago) link
Ah that fucking sucks, I’m sorry.
― Glower, Disruption & Pies (kingfish), Saturday, 3 September 2022 17:05 (one year ago) link
cancer back on its bullshit, so sorry table. ima think some fierce thoughts at that mass and it better be nothing if it knows what’s good for it >:(
― sourselves (cat), Saturday, 3 September 2022 21:32 (one year ago) link
Indeed, sending positive thoughts your way. Glad you've caught it early.
― immodesty blaise (jimbeaux), Saturday, 3 September 2022 21:36 (one year ago) link
Sorry to hear that, table. I'm glad medical advances have made doctors able to catch stuff earlier and earlier. I was out to lunch with a pal yesterday whose wife was diagnosed with stage 0 breast cancer (which I didn't even know was a thing) after they caught three salt-grain sized specks of concern (since removed), which is miraculous to me.
― Josh in Chicago, Saturday, 3 September 2022 22:16 (one year ago) link
Sorry to hear it, tabes. My experience of “something strange on imaging” was that the in limbo time for follow up was worse than actually having a confirmed “yep, cancer” and starting treatment. Limbo was just so much harder for me :(. Hope next steps go swiftly and result in “oops lol not cancer no worries. »
― mom tossed in kimchee (quincie), Saturday, 3 September 2022 23:45 (one year ago) link
Sorry to hear it, table.
― xyzzzz__, Sunday, 4 September 2022 07:57 (one year ago) link
sorry to see this table, hope it's minor and easily resolved
― seo layer (Noodle Vague), Sunday, 4 September 2022 08:53 (one year ago) link
Thanks all— I have a feeling it will be okay. Occasional dread over having to upend my life again has me in my emotions but I also have an intuition that things will get taken care of as they need to be.
― broccoli rabe thomas (the table is the table), Sunday, 4 September 2022 11:50 (one year ago) link
best of luck x
― kinder, Sunday, 4 September 2022 13:01 (one year ago) link
Good luck with it, shitty news.
― Andrew Farrell, Sunday, 4 September 2022 13:41 (one year ago) link
Best wishes to you,Table
― sweating like Cathy *aaaack* (Boring, Maryland), Sunday, 4 September 2022 18:18 (one year ago) link
genuiune love'n'hugs tables.
― mark e, Sunday, 4 September 2022 20:18 (one year ago) link
The Table IS The Table, and shall ever be! Broccoli Rabe on.
― dow, Sunday, 4 September 2022 21:47 (one year ago) link
Really sorry to learn this table, stay strong and resilient
― i'm intentionally vague, intending to front multitudes (Hunt3r), Sunday, 4 September 2022 23:30 (one year ago) link
Yeesh. Sending best as ever.
― Ned Raggett, Monday, 5 September 2022 02:17 (one year ago) link
I'm over 2 years now first my first diagnosis.
currently through another chemo and keep on fighting
― Change display name in my last (onimo), Sunday, 30 October 2022 00:35 (one year ago) link
We’re always with ya, sir!
― Ned Raggett, Sunday, 30 October 2022 00:54 (one year ago) link
onwards, omino! <3
― werewolves of laudanum (VegemiteGrrl), Sunday, 30 October 2022 01:49 (one year ago) link
<3
― mookieproof, Sunday, 30 October 2022 03:40 (one year ago) link
thanks for the update onimo! warm regards to you.i am currently typing from the hospital myself— small bowel obstruction landed me here on Friday eve, an inevitable and occasional result of the surgery from cancer.
― poppin' debussy (the table is the table), Sunday, 30 October 2022 12:58 (one year ago) link
good to hear onimo, all the best tabes
― mark s, Sunday, 30 October 2022 13:01 (one year ago) link
sorry to hear that tabes, get well soon!
― werewolves of laudanum (VegemiteGrrl), Sunday, 30 October 2022 14:56 (one year ago) link
My best to both of you.
― Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Sunday, 30 October 2022 15:03 (one year ago) link
I mentioned having a skin cancer scare somewhere on here, but I can't find it. I had the spot removed and biopsied three weeks ago, and they told me that they'd call me back within two and a half weeks if it was cancer. I haven't heard from them, so I guess it was benign.
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Sunday, 30 October 2022 17:47 (one year ago) link
Having spent this afternoon with onimo can confirm he is on good form
― Hello I'm shitty gatsworth (aldo), Saturday, 10 December 2022 17:52 (one year ago) link
Wonderful to hear!
― Ned Raggett, Saturday, 10 December 2022 18:14 (one year ago) link
That’s great news.
― bit high, bitch (gyac), Saturday, 10 December 2022 18:18 (one year ago) link
magic news! big love to onimo
― o shit the sheriff (NickB), Saturday, 10 December 2022 18:28 (one year ago) link
so happy to hear that <3
― werewolves of laudanum (VegemiteGrrl), Saturday, 10 December 2022 18:36 (one year ago) link
excellent news
― Goose Bigelow, Fowl Gigolo (the table is the table), Saturday, 10 December 2022 20:06 (one year ago) link