Twitter C/D

I dont want to encourage ppl spending any mental or literal bandwidth on the above-linked advertiser, but the “testimonials” section of their website is pretty funny

xp The last wedding I was at was my own 30 years ago, so I have no idea who wears what now.

I wear either black pants or a nice pair of jeans with a nice top, trouser socks, and ankle boots or a pair of closed-back clogs to work. The other companions wear t-shirts, shorts, and sandals, and the office people and case workers wear business casual.

I mostly make sure not to wear my Pussy Galore T-shirt on a day when I have a Zoom meeting.

a swing revival wedding is the only way to go

How do you find a tie uncomfortable

It's constraining and awkward - and that could be as much about having the top button done as the tie itself. I assume I'd get used to it eventually but have no reason to do so, any more than a reason to train myself to not be bothered by the skin contact/tiny bit of weight for a watch.

i'm not against ties, necessarily, but i find them super weird!

like, you have to wear this thing that can choke you, and you have to hide the part that goes around your neck (or be a pussy for wearing a clip-on.) why is it for the most part, the only colorful or patterned thing?

that said, strict bow-tie wearers are weird and somehow childish and it looks they have something missing from their chests. incredible to me that tucker carlson was a bow-tie guy (named tucker ffs!) and yet later, for a while, became the spokesman for Real American Men

anyway all my twitter ads are now for some magical radioactive particle-dispersing thing that removes snow from your car? (and they're all from different accounts, and therefore unblockable.) i don't even have a car

i can't read back enough posts, why are we doing menswear basics on the twitter thread?

xpost - mookieproof, all of my ads are that same exact thing! and, yes, multiple accounts and they keep showing up after i block a few.

I hate ties.i can't stop playing with them

Temptation to untie it and use it as a whip too high

i can't read back enough posts, why are we doing menswear basics on the twitter thread?

i love the workwear guy. i mostly am not a very "clothes" person but he's someone who loves what he loves, knows a lot about it, is articulate and funny in expressing his passion and is clearly not a fucking fascist. in 2023, on twitter, that's enough (and i hope he comes to bluesky/posts more on bluesky because i am mostly refraining from twitter now).

How do you find a tie uncomfortable, I had to wear one to school for like 14 years and never noticed it unless it got caught in my bra strap or something

I wore one to school for at least nine years (idrc), and the only year I had to wear one in the workplace, after a decade-ish gap, I spent with a constant aggravating rash from the collar rubbing on a mole

I like the workwear guy fine but he claims knowledge of stuff where often its lacking and thus says things that are wrong. He had a whole thing about Aran sweaters not long ago and got into disputatious water for claiming that it is apocrypha with no historical evidence that they were knitted with unique patterns to aid the identification of decomposed bodies of fishermen lost at sea. I have little opinion on this but the advice (which is always one tweet away from 'try J Crew' that followed was terrible and he basically had no knowledge or seeming interest in contemporary knitwear, the production context of Aran sweaters now or offer any decent advice on how to get a good one. Not a crime but please don't be like *thread* 'Let's start by dispelling some myths...' if you're just writing up the same Lyst search anyone could do.

last year i had to go to my sisters wedding in ireland and me and my bf were very anxious to be low key and blend so we bought very minimal plain suits and then stood out like sore thumbs because all the men were dressed unbelievably ostentatiously in these weird fitted tweed suits that made them look like stuffed pheasants. this has apparently been the standard look for men at irish weddings for some time now and nobody thinks its weird.

It’s the influence of that awful cunt isn’t it

oh maybe. we thought it was very funny though. in all the pictures we look like missionary nuns.

This summer I went to my own sisters wedding and there was thankfully an absence of that kind of carryon for the most part.

Men* tend to wear excess weight in the neck, it's one of the reasons they have higher risk factors of apnea and crucially are the worse snorers.

*not sure if this is testosterone of what, facts may only apply to cis men.

Not to shift focus back to twitter, but it felt like yesterday was a breaking point for a lot of people. Anecdotally the exodus seems to be leading largely to Threads over the other alternatives, but I'm curious how it all shakes out.

What happened? TL is the same as yesterday

The reinstatement of Alex Jones, I assume?

Ah ok

my lrb blog changed everything

Yeah, it was the reinstatement of Alex Jones plus the live chat between Musk, Jones, Andrew Tate, etc.

Yeah, I Saw a few celebs and minor figures posting simply the thread emoji yesterday, Jason Isbell and Emily Nussbaum were two that I can remember, assuming that was them ditching for Threads.

i used to wear a blazer w/no tie to my very dry office job but stopped abt 10 years ago after multiple times people approached me to offer condolences, assuming that i had to duck out of work for a funeral

My first job was at a grocery store. I was working with a friend there when an older coworker stopped in wearing a jacket. My friend, a wiseguy, says, "where's the funeral?" Our coworker calmly replied, "I was just at my grandmother's funeral." Oof.

everyone really jumped off on the sartorial guy post, huh? I should have posted the speed limit thing as a non-hypothetical

i'd also like to cast my support behind team "ties suck and can die".
i had to wear them for school and hated them simply because they were annoying and now that i'm older i have an adams apple that really protrudes and the collar/tie can really get uncomfortable (adams apple aside i do not have a fat neck). maybe it's because i hardly ever wear them, but can sometimes wind up with a neck rash after.

i like ties as fashion objects but prob would not like to wear one every day, even people who do and get used to them theyre still unbuttoning that top button and loosening the tie at the end of the day right its at least slightly annoying

tho in america at least the number of people who wear ties to work has dwindled to almost zero

big series on the death of tweets

https://www.theverge.com/c/23972308/twitter-x-death-tweets-history-elon-musk

I had one job where I wore a tie every day for seven years, it didn't really bother me. But happily dispensed with it when I left. For most of my work purposes now, the old blazer-open collar shirt look is perfectly acceptable. (And I think actually looks better fwiw.)

I haven't been spending time on bluesky but it def seems preferable to X or threads. Meta keeps foisting threads samples onto my instagram feeds and they seem pretty dumb.

yeah it seems pretty bad a place for brands engagement content

someone on bluesky said they were following 700 people on there and there were like 10 new posts every day

when I left twitter I tried to find a few of the people I still followed and liked there on bluesky and added them. Even with some of those, they're still posting on twitter and not posting on bluesky. People just can't let it go.

no app has nearly been able to match twitters derangement levels, bluesky has its moments but all the ingredients just arent there, seems pretty unlikely there will ever really be another twitter imho rip

I signed up for (or activated?) Threads yesterday and it seems ... fine. I don't really engage with social media in anything other than a passive way, but it feels like more of the people I followed on twitter are now on Threads, though the people I follow on Bluesky seem to post more often than the Threads people do. I have no idea if that is really the case, or if the algorithms are as usual fucking everything up. For example, I have a Facebook account, and I find it maddening that my one glance of the day sometimes starts toward the top with someone's post from a week+ ago. It's like watching a serialized TV show, only the streaming service starts with episode 4, because the algorithm senses there is more "engagement" with that one post and in turn foists it on me. My wife told me that I need to engage *more*, click likes and bullshit like that, so the service knows my preferences. My response is that I already opted in to the feeds I follow by following them, so it knows my preferences just fine and is choosing to disregard what I want in favor of giving me what *it* wants me to see. The result is that I engage even less, because if it's not giving me what I want - posts from the people I follow, as they are posted - then I'm just not going to bother.

threads always seems to be serving me up business/media influencer people I don't follow.

getting plenty of activity on bluesky, none of it from pricks I don't follow

facebook has gotten really annoying for me in that, i typically avoided dumb/insular meme accounts/groups etc and just wanted to follow what was up with my friends. but now it is serving up 3 "suggested" posts to every one of my friend's OC - and i don't really want anything to do with "harry potter shitposting" groups - at all - but no mater how many times i'm hit "i don't want to see this", i doesn't stop with the idiotic suggestions
xposts

the whole thing drives me crazy because like 95% of Twitter's appeal at this moment he bought it is "this is where everyone is and this is where people are posting". none of the issues it was having or features they could roll out could be more important than that. once engagement significantly declines on a social media platform it never recovers (let me know if I'm wrong about this, I just can't think of an example). so him fucking up this bad doesn't mean "oh we'll do this on a different platform", it just means this thing people liked is just gonna die, and it's gonna die because we let very stupid people become extremely rich

Maybe I use Facebook enough but my feed is pretty good. Too many ads though, which are easy to skip, the reels are my downfall. I can’t not look at them and they are 100% garbage. If I could turn it reels I’d be so happy.

Facebook is infuriating. I want to see what all of my friends are doing in chronological order, but it insists on fucking with the timeline and deciding which friends I should see and hiding the rest and cluttering everything with suggested garbage. I would ditch it but there are a handful of people that communicate with me exclamation through messenger.

the Verge series is great, pretty harrowing stuff from Sarah Jeong, knew it was bad but didn't know it was *that* bad. hope she's doing okay!!

xp to Cow_Art, the browser extension FB Purity (Fluff Buster Purity) is very handy for making your feed less infuriating, including making it chronological all the time, stripping ads, etc. It still lags on showing you activity by all your friends -- when I look at FB unfiltered on my phone I see posts from friends that never show up on desktop -- but it's worth the effort to get it installed. Donationware.

Installing now! I love(d) the equivalent one for twitter.

Hmm, it's still not chronological.

OK, found the toggle. Thanks for the recommendation!