― bnw (bnw), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 15:55 (twenty years ago) link
― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 16:00 (twenty years ago) link
― Paul Eater (eater), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 17:09 (twenty years ago) link
DJ STRONGO COMIN THRU!!
YOU KNOW HOW WE DO!!
*KA-BOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOM*
― strongo hulkington (dubplatestyle), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 17:21 (twenty years ago) link
never say i dont know how to pander to an audience
― strongo hulkington (dubplatestyle), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 17:24 (twenty years ago) link
― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 17:25 (twenty years ago) link
OH NO! NEW SHIT! PETER BROTZMANN FEAT. REDMAN!
*KA-BOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOM*
― strongo hulkington (dubplatestyle), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 17:29 (twenty years ago) link
― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 17:33 (twenty years ago) link
― strongo hulkington (dubplatestyle), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 17:38 (twenty years ago) link
― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 17:41 (twenty years ago) link
― Sarah (starry), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 18:27 (twenty years ago) link
― Ronan (Ronan), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 18:32 (twenty years ago) link
and then show them my willie
― strongo hulkington (dubplatestyle), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 19:44 (twenty years ago) link
― bnw (bnw), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 19:48 (twenty years ago) link
― strongo hulkington (dubplatestyle), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 19:56 (twenty years ago) link
― daria g (daria g), Thursday, 24 July 2003 00:00 (twenty years ago) link
― daria g (daria g), Thursday, 24 July 2003 00:01 (twenty years ago) link
― felicity (felicity), Thursday, 24 July 2003 01:02 (twenty years ago) link
― strongo hulkington (dubplatestyle), Monday, 16 February 2004 03:39 (twenty years ago) link
― the surface noise (electricsound), Monday, 16 February 2004 03:47 (twenty years ago) link
ew, who actually makes new friends at bars? isnt it implied that if ppl are talking to you they want to get nakey w/ u ?
― Vic (Vic), Monday, 6 September 2004 02:52 (nineteen years ago) link
― Sexual Air Supply (Autumn Almanac), Monday, 6 September 2004 02:55 (nineteen years ago) link
― Harold Media (kenan), Monday, 6 September 2004 02:59 (nineteen years ago) link
there should be a corresponding thread of how to GET PERMANENTLY RID OF PEOPLE YOU KEEP TRYING TO AVOID, especially if THEY HAVE BOTH YOUR CELL AND HOME PHONE #S. But otherwise, on this topic - yeah, as cynical as it sounds, I'm finding as I go thru life, that having a common hate - especially if it's of another person - is a great way to bond with people, and get closer to them.
― Vic (Vic), Monday, 6 September 2004 03:13 (nineteen years ago) link
Haven't had too much luck in my area after 11 years, sadly. Despite my relatively eclectic interests I fear I don't have that magnetic/memorable quality that makes someone wonder what I'm up to today, and social media sickens me (partly because it just motivates me to have pity parties like this). So a bit out of sight out of mind by default, and now pandemic limits ambitions considerably unless I want to engage in some major cognitive dissonance. I just want to have lots of friends to jam and game with. By the way, after being here the exact same amount of time I've honestly not totally felt part of the ilx clique either. So that being said, maybe I can improve. How is everyone doing?
― Evan, Monday, 28 September 2020 14:34 (three years ago) link
A pandemic does makes things more difficult. My own experience on making irl friends in later life is that voluntary or community activity is probably the only reliable route, for me at least.
Cliques in general are probably not worth the price of entry in terms of effort and commitment balanced against the payoff of belonging (not sure whether there is an ilx clique in practice however).
― Luna Schlosser, Monday, 28 September 2020 16:42 (three years ago) link
My bf wants to make friends in his new home, a small town, and he literally cold-called someone who does the same artisanal craft as him and asked if they could ever get together and talk shop and the guy was nice (if surprised) but never called him back. Now Christopher wanders forlornly around the house going, "Bobby, I hardly knew ye" and so on.
― There's more Italy than necessary. (in orbit), Monday, 28 September 2020 16:55 (three years ago) link
In short, even for the boldest, it's not easy. And Christopher is, I have to say, pretty magnetic and not very forgettable so I wouldn't be too hard on yourself.
― There's more Italy than necessary. (in orbit), Monday, 28 September 2020 16:58 (three years ago) link
Thanks for these thoughts. The ILX aside just plays into my uncertainty with how interesting people find me overall. It's definitely self pity confirmation bias to focus on the many(?) times where my more thoughtful posts are not engaged with, but I feel like it's realistic to say that I am nowhere near a notable personality. Could be for lots of reasons! Bad timing, avoiding controversial stances, avoiding confrontation, low frequency of posts, whatever. But IRL I am not often sought out either, so it's a bit of soul searching to figure out what I can do better cumulatively.
― Evan, Friday, 2 October 2020 16:55 (three years ago) link