C/D: Being honest, in the hope that someone will be more attracted to you

That was probably good, then, wasn't it? If you're talking relationships, why attract anyone who you know from the start won't work out?

oh tep you know it's all a game anyway; j.lu i wish i had an answer for you, people are fuct up

honesty is the best policy. you kind of want people to back up all the faster if they can't handle it.

It's really not a game if you aren't a stand-up comic, a dumb college kid, or looking for someone playing games. People make things complicated because it makes them seem more important.

So yeah, I've always had satisfactory results playing it straight.

But what if you're gay?

everyone makes things complicated anyway, total honesty is harder to find than someone who only plays a few games and they're not destructive ones

a policy of truth leads to 1,000,000 heartbreaks, I agree with you guys but I just don't think we're wired that way. wasn't it oedipus who said "honesty is fuckin' overrated dooood"

and, to Tofu: I don't know!

Garth:"Wayne, um, what do you do if every time you see this one, incredible woman, you, you think you're gonna hurl?"

Wayne : "I say hurl. If you blow chunks, and she comes back, she's yours. But if you spew, and she bolts, it was never meant to be."

I didn't say be honest all the time -- cf. a thousand Cosby bits about when you need to lie to your wife, etc. -- but the thread doesn't seem to be asking that, either. It's asking about "being honest in the hope someone will be more attracted to you," as opposed to pretending to be a ship with a kidney infection. That's a pretty basic choice. Have we learned nothing from Just One Of The Guys?

All the other shit, it's just get-rich-quick thinking, love potions, charm spells, "write your bestseller in a weekend," "ten steps to the right hand of God," blah blah blah.

Tep I don't know what you are talking about but it sounds pretty.

J.lu, you are a wonderful person as we all here know. I think you have to continue to lay your heart out on the line, even if it means you get stomped a few hundred times, we all do it. For even asking this question, it's clear you need a good honest person. The problem is (in my ill-informed opinion) that even "honest" people end up playing games. Maybe I'm just speaking from all-too-personal experience.

But I want to see you happy, and I don't think you'll be happy with anyone who delights in deception, etc. Go for it...just steel yourself that the other person will be so flummoxed that he/she will be all like "uh-oh, no one ever did this before, WTF!"

Yeah honestly used to be my big thing, but it truely is a load of shit.

I am always honest!

I have had one girlfriend.

Just to make this clear...er: There is a huge difference between "honesty" and "being honest when attracting someone," at least as much of one as "showing up late to work" and "showing up late to a job interview." The two questions aren't reasonably related.